:lol: Ahhh yes! Alcohol will do that!

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There's a terrible mind-disease going around where some people think that they have to verbally express when they are surprised two people are married or dating. Like if some hot young girly thing is dating an older balding man... why it must be for the money! Or if some handsome gentleman is dating a "fat chick" they can't possibly come up with a reason for such a match so they have to open their mouths. Expressing curiosity, and *gasp* horror at such a match up! Oh my yes, goodness forbid that two people who find eachother attractive and interesting go on a date without getting written consent from the rest of the population. Oh my yes, goodness forbid that anyone even suggest that "fat does NOT equal unattractive and unlovable." What does that man see in that "fat chick" they ask?... A LOT more than he sees in you, you nosy, closed-minded person.

Ahem... </rant>

Heh, I don't mind - I was pretty huge before :) Most people just say, "you look great" without throwing in "better than you did before." Most people just want to know how I did it!

Faeire, that's a great rant, great yet true unfortunately. I can understand where some of you girls are coming from though. I've dated some girls that told me they never would've given me a second looked if I still weighed 280. That still kinda gets to me sometimes, it's like I'm the same person but since my body's different now I'm "acceptable." I've also experienced the, "uhh...why are you going out with HER" bit, kinda annoying. Excuse me for not being some shallow, conceited butthead. That's just people though, I think after you experience some of the horrible and stupid things people do to you when you're fat, you really don't care how someone looks. That's how I view it anyway, physicals beauty fades-inner beauty lasts forever.

A couple of times.

But they were people that I didnt care for before or thought were stuck up in high school so when they said, "Wow you are so pretty now" or, "you look SO good", I had already attached an agenda to it ;)

I know exactly what you mean. Rude, catty people never cease to amaze me.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 6 years. My weight has fluxuated quite a bit since first meeting him. We have a restaurant/bar and it's amazing how obnoxious and ingorant people can be about image, especially in an industry where looks tend to supercede all others. I don't think i was by any means at the level where i expected ppl to talk about me- i was in denial.. but ppl did talk, I found out, and it hurt. Overweight is overweight, some tried rationalizing with me about numbers (actual weight) or my other attributes but it just made me hate them even more. Im glad i overheard what they said b/c it helped motivate me..and keeps me going. I'd rather know what kind of ppl I'm dealing with. There's nothing I hate more than a wolf in phony *** kissers clothing.

Keep up the good work beauty.

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griffogrubb, :yay: U R :cool:

Jay

I hear you on the husband being in better shape. My DH is really fit, and if he stops drinking soda for a week, he'll lose about 5 lbs. When we met, I was a whopping 80 lbs (!!!) lighter than I am now. I used to feel really confident, like we "matched" well together because of our body types.

At any rate, sometimes I get really self conscious when we're out in public together, and I have these conversations in my mind about what people are probably thinking about us (like I must be his sister!) but you know what, at the end of the day, he married me, and just like your boyfriend obviously thinks the world of you, even when you were heavier.

Someone said to me recently "living well is the best revenge," and that has really helped me put things into perspective...

My gut reaction reading the initial post is she was hitting on him or trying to flirt with him. Trying to feel out the relationship. "Is he dating the same chick he was dating months ago?" "Is that his girlfriend?"Call me cynic.

Oh.....every girl at his restaurant wants to sleep with him, that's a given. He's young, unbelievably successful, BEYOND charming, the most genuine, honest, guy I've ever met...and not to mention drives a killer truck and rides a Harley, the girls can't keep it in their pants around him. And he's got the adorable Minnesota accent :lol: They all know about me and the girls and guys he works with that I actually do see from time to time tell me how funny it is to watch him turn them down. Weird thing is, I LOVE girls hitting on him....none of my friends understand why. I find it flattering and when I'm around to see it happen, I love to give them "not on your life" look :lol: Brings me pleasure :) He's not going anywhere....so why try and drive myself crazy with jealously? Jealously is not in my vocabulary!

None of my piss-offed-ness has anything to do with girls....just that someone would say that. And like I said...I wondered who else thought I was "pretty but chubby" before....probably everyone I guess! Though since I first posted this I've calmed down. Last night I was looking in the full length mirror thinking damn.....I didn't think I could get much better, but [email protected]'m smokin! :lol: :lol:

Pfft. "But" nothin'! You're gorgeous!

It's never bothered me. I look at comments about the weight I lost or how I used to be as compliments personally. It reminds me of what a huge accomplishment I made. I feel proud that I did it.