Originally Posted by SoulBliss:
What are restaurant style no-slip shoes for rock climbing?

I wasn't "rock climbing". I lived in Galveston, TX at the time and along the waterline they have rocks strewn out to break the waves before they reach shore. The way they were positioned made it easy to jump from one rock to the next. I used to work at a restaurant and I had the no-slip shoes needed for the kitchen. It helped me keep my footing on the wet rocks.

WOW!! Lots of good advice (and exactly what I needed to hear today, too!).

Change is possible. Behavior causes results. We control our own behaviors. It is hard in many ways, navigating choices that tempt us to stay in old habits. But on the other hand, it is a simple equation. Calories in vs. calories out. Our bodies obey us....whatever we tell them to do.

I needed this kick in the pants. Thanks to all, and good luck Jelly!

As one Army wife to another - you do *not* want to wish your husband away on a tour of duty, no matter what. Mine is about to leave on tour #2 and it does NOT make weight loss any easier. Because once he's gone, you get stressed and worried and those lead to possible weight gain. So the grass isn't any greener on the other side.

It comes down to willpower and if you're willing to make a change. As for the money aspect, there are ways to cut a budget - like less eating out, that will allow you to buy healthier groceries. Heck, I eat Cheerios or eggs in the morning those are super cheap! It doesn't have to be designer fancy food. You will find a way to exercise as well. I have 2 little ones and not enough money to afford a gym membership at the moment, so I do DVD exercise tapes and take my kids to the park. It can be done, but only if you want to do it!

I feel your pain Jelly - my hubby is also thin, likes fattening foods and will often "bring us a treat" (King crab the other night). I am not a strong-willed person either, although I'm starting to learn. One thing I am good at though, is planning, and I'm getting better.

Every week, I plan out our dinners including pizza night the day I do the grocery shopping. Since I've started doing that, it has kept us from just ordering take out and destroying our budget. My next step is to take the recipes that I recycle thoughout the month and learn how to make leaner but still flavorful versions.

Find out your strengths and use them to offset your lack of willpower.

At the same time, and this is a bit of a tangent, just because your hubby (or anyone's hubby) is naturally slim doesn't mean that they should subsist on junk food! Everyone, even active people with good metabolisms, should eat a nutritionally balanced diet. It wouldn't kill her hubby to lay off the tacos and the junk food himself.

Those darn skinny SO's!
 

My hubby is slim as well and he likes to refer to himself as a "Meat and Potatoes Man". LOL I cook the recipes that are part of my meal plan on slimfast.com and for him I just give him more meat/protein, a potato/rice/pasta (even if I'm not having it) and he gets regular butter, dressing, sour cream, etc. It means I can still stick to my diet and he's eating nutritious food and can still have his fattier preferences. He's pretty good about "junk food" and tends to keep it out of the house, but when he brings it home I just tell myself that the reading on the scale and the way my clothes fit are more important than a piece of whatever he's having. If I do slip I'll just have a taste or a bite and that's all I'll allow. It definitely take willpower, but I can talk myself out of just about any treat in favour of reaching a weight I haven't seen since my teens.

Jelly I really hope you can find the plan that will work for you and that the dropping scale will be a self-control booster!

I always blamed my skinny husband who could eat anything for all of my weight problems. The problem now is we separated a year and a half ago and I haven't lost anything. I guess I know who I should really be blaming.....!!!!;)

as a military wife to another i understand. when my husband goes on tour, he's been on 3, i always seem to lose weight. i do not eat when stressed, i eat when i am happy. when he returns i gain all the weight back. i too can go to the gym for free, but don't. since everything is spred out on the base why not walk or ride a bike to the stores. i also decided that since i was on a diet so was everyone else. i cook, i'm in charge. i now weigh less nthan my marine husband and now he is trying to lose weight to keep up. good luck to you and your journey. feel free to write me if you need to chat

Hey Gurl,

I have to say... I disagree with the majority. What is a relationship? It's a partnership for better or for worse. Through Sickness and in Health. etc...
Obesity can be an addiction aswell as food in general. Tell me.. Would your hubby down a 6 Pack in your face if you were a recovering alcoholic?

Just so we are clear... I am all for self impowerment, however, it's is also important to have a good support system. Talk to your hubby...explain that you are trying to get over a addiction to junk food and you would love to have his support. Ask him to try and reduce or eliminate the junk food he brings around you (Even if it's only for a month). Key word here is "ASK". You need to bare your soul to him and ask for help. Admit that you have a problem and you need his shoulder.

If he isn't willing to give up his junk food. That's okay too. You can't control him. Just ask him if he has any better idea's that will help you overcome the temptations.

Good Luck
Karlie

Ok, I live this situation. As has been said in one form or another...your husband is not on a diet. I don't think he's being unsupportive at all. I think my husband has been extremely supportive. Its what he says, not what he eats. I never expected him to go on a diet because I did, and so I never saw him as not supporting me. In fact, he actually prefers heavier. He always has. But he doesn't love me any less because I no longer wanted to be heavier. He brags constantly about the weight I've lost. He's proud of me and that keeps me proud of myself.

And yet...I have no willpower. So what did I do?

First, I separated his and my food. That's right. We have his and her closets, his and her towels, his and her sinks, his and her computers...and now...his and her cabinets. LOL If I don't look in his cabinet, how can it tempt me? I do the same with the fridge and freezer. We have our drawers, our sections. And then we have a small deep freezer for one and the fridge freezer for the other.

Secondly, I keep LOTS of fruit on hand. So if I'm craving sweets (my biggest downfall) when he brings in Dunkin donuts, I plow into a chunk of watermelon or cantaloupe or grab an apple, or cut into a fresh pineapple. Few calories, kills the sweet cravings, and fills me up. Now he doesn't order a lot. He does however come in some evenings with a Wendy's burger or Arby's roast beef. So...I make myself scarce. He sits down at the TV in the livingroom and eats his meal. I stay upstairs with the baby until the coast is clear. But if he does happen to order pizza and I don't want the box staring me in the face the next day, toss it and wrap the remainder in foil and stick it in the bottom drawer of the fridge. Can't see it, can't tempt me.

Its no different than seeing a Pizza Hut commercial. Gets your mouth watering. So mute the TV and turn your head away for a few. The control is only in YOUR hands. And if you don't have the control, you have to take steps to keep it out of your sight. He's not dieting and he's going to still crave those foods as much as you are. But he's giving into his temptations, while you don't want to. I'm sure he'd be supportive enough to agree to keep his foods out of your sight if that will help you, while still allowing him to have what he craves.

Originally Posted by ThinGirl in FatBody:
My husband has a 28 inch waist and the butt of an 18 year old! He wants nothing to do with my diet foods - he wants his steak and Bearnaise, his butter and sour cream baked potato, his French onion soup - so I make differnet meals and I just deal with it.

Similar to mine. Only he has no butt at all. A couple of gals down in Nawleans told him so. LOL! He's hyperthyroid, been through treatments, and is going hyper again. ::sigh::

Originally Posted by tleef:
My hubby is slim as well and he likes to refer to himself as a "Meat and Potatoes Man". LOL

Also sounds like mine. He loves his steak and baked tators with lots of butter, sour cream and real bacon bits.

I learned to cook two meals, while keeping them similar. I'd bake a sweet potato and a white potato, grill a steak and fish. Then I'd take a bite of his steak and potato then eat my meal. ;) I'd lead the meals with a salad. He'll eat that much healthy. But he refers to it as rabbit food and needs lots of bleu cheese to hide the taste. LOL If you must, eat before he gets home, or eat a large salad if you're going to sit down to dinner with him. Drink a large glass of water too. Then have dinner with him as normal. You'll simply eat less of it.

Originally Posted by baffled111:
At the same time, and this is a bit of a tangent, just because your hubby (or anyone's hubby) is naturally slim doesn't mean that they should subsist on junk food! Everyone, even active people with good metabolisms, should eat a nutritionally balanced diet. It wouldn't kill her hubby to lay off the tacos and the junk food himself.

While true, they're not going to just because they should anymore than any of us lost weight the first time we tried to diet knowing we needed to lose the weight. Its all I can do to get my hubby to use his Fiber Source every morning (he adds it to his coffee) because he was diagnosed with diverticulosis and the doc said 30 grams of fiber. Yeah...right. You can't get 30 grams of fiber on a pot of mashed potatoes at dinner or a microwaved Stouffer's scalloped potatoes or lasagna for lunch. Potatoes ARE his idea of a vegetable. Either mashed with lotsa butter, fried in pure vegetable oil, or swimming in something else unnatural and greasy. He said, get me Raisin Bran, I'll eat that for my fiber. He did. For 3 days. ::sigh::

And BTW Jelly, on the exercise part (sorry for 3 posts...I get ahead of myself sometimes)...if you have a hard time getting up in the morning, you're not going to stick with it. You need to tailor exercise to where you CAN keep at it, a time that works for you. If that's late in the evening, so be it. Just make sure you do SOME form of exercise. If you get easily bored with it, keep it changing. Go to the gym one week, then walk outside another, then go swimming yet another, or go roller skating (at least the way I do it its exercise LOL). I've got TONS of exercise equipment that didn't cost a ton. I have a speed rope, hoola hoop, leg weights (I strap those on when walking sometimes), body ball, step, hand weights, and videos. All of these are reasonably priced items and many of them you can develop on the fly. You can find something to use for step aerobics, you can use filled water bottles for hand weights, any old rope can double for a jump rope, and hoola hoops are less than $1 at Wal*Mart.

As someone else mentioned though, also add exercise in throughout your day by parking farther away, not taking the car when you don't absolutely need to. Try pacing when you're on the phone, you'll be surprised at the rate we women can talk how long a walk you can take doing that. ;) Try marching in place while you watch your favorite program, or pick up those hand weights (bought or homeade) and grab that step (same deal) and start pumping those arms and lifting those legs. You can do it to music for fun or do it while watching TV. Orrrrrrrr...you can go into the other room and do it while hubby's eating his tacos. ;)

What it ultimately comes down to is that we must take responsibility for what we eat, how much exercise we do and our weight. It is unfair to ask others to take responsibility for any of this. My dh is has end-stage renal disease and is on dialysis. He cannot eat oranges, bananas, tomatoes, whole grains (his diet actually calls for white rice, white bread, etc.) and must have 16 ounces of protein a day. I fix his food and then make what I need for myself. He also is 6 feet tall and currently weighs 142 pounds so we are trying to put weight on him. He can't go out to get his own food so I buy him all kinds of fattening snacks. I CHOOSE not to eat them, I don't expect him to follow my diet.

No matter what you weight, you would be welcome at Curves and we do have many who are very overweight when they start. You might check it out when they are having one of their free weeks. You could just go out and walk - start slow and work up to longer walks.