New Gym
 

Originally Posted by carolva77:
I will continue with my workouts but I am seriously thinking to get another gym (and honestly the one I am thinking is more expensive and I hope better, I have the theory that You get what you are paying for

I'm not sure about more expensive is better, but I know that how you feel is critical to your success. My DH and I had a gym membership to a place that I thought was "OK" then it became "All right" and finally I just hated it. So, we spent a Saturday touring the town's options and found one (like Goldielocks) that was just right. I love it and it encourages me to work out. In this case, it was more expensive, but it's worth it!

I love my workouts it is just I think this place is to small for me, and it is a lot like competitive meat market place.
My workouts have been a very important part of my recovery and I am not willing to let them go, however, there is alot of it when the membership is so unexpensive (let's say Bally's) it is very open.
I believe that if the membership is more expensive people would go there TO WORKOUT instead to flirt ( I hate that) to critize other peoples bodies, (I mean COME ON) , but that is what I believe, we'll see....

i feel you
 

man oh man, archy, you just described my gym style to a tee. i'm not the most coordinated of people on my best days, and when i'm sweating like a pig...let's just say it gets even worse. yesterday on the treadmill i caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror, and i looked pretty ridiculous. i am definitely inspired by your "laugh-it-off" attitude, though! always best not to take one's self seriously.

:dance: Everytime I go to a class like that I picture everyone looking like the dancing pinguins in Happy Feet. Frankly, unless you are in a master dance class, no one is looking particularly graceful.. you are just there to work out. Next time she says something tell her she reminds you of Lovelace. Don't explain it...let her figure it out :P

Carolva -

I'd be VERY careful about changing gyms. If you want something different, then by all means, shop around until you feel comfortable. But if you are changing because you want a more 'elite' gym with a 'better quality' clientèle (and it sounds like that's what you are after), honey, BE VERY CAREFUL. Talk to that voice in your head - that's the one, the same one that said 'This woman is SO rude!' [maybe she actually wanted to tell you about how stupid and clumsy she felt at HER first class... or maybe she's just a biatch - who knows for sure? Nobody.] - and remind yourself that rude is rude, no matter what you pay for.

Now, I am going to tell you right now - I paid a FORTUNE for a gym membership to 'get away' from the local YMCA-type place I was going to. Oh, it was gorgeous - elite, clean, friendly... everything I could dream of. Know what happened? (I still cringe thinking of it) The people there were VERY competitive, and rather snooty. I always felt like maybe *I* was the 'lower class' that THEY had paid to get away from! I made NO friends, and eventually stopped going. I was VERY intimidated by what I saw as the 'perfect bodies' of the leisure class. I was CERTAINLY, without doubt, the fattest woman there.

Now - AND HERE'S THE IMPORTANT BIT!!! - I can see now that I could NOT have been happy anywhere. At that point in my life, *I* felt like failure, and I hated myself. No one could say ANYTHING to me, because it was ALWAYS 'rude' or at the least, unnecessary, and I'd end up feeling awful and hating myself more. BUT I COULDN'T SEE IT AT THE TIME. Seriously - if someone walked by me on the street, and glanced at me, they were STARING at me because I was fat, and how dare they?! If someone walked by me on the street and DIDN'T glance at me - well, they were IGNORING me, because I was fat and ugly, and how dare they?!

I'm just telling you my experience, hon, because you say you are going through a lot, and are clearly feeling badly about yourself and like a failure - which you are NOT.

But do be careful about your reasons for changing gyms - if the 'new' one is WORSE, will you still go? Lose the money? Change again? Think carefully.

And we are ALL behind you here - you CAN do this!! There's been lots of good advice already - good luck and choose wisely! :)

Thinking of you -
Heather :hug:

Oh thanks!!!I dont know what to do, I feel so intimidated in the one I am right now!!! I feel awful :(
:( Maybe I will just workout at home.... because I just dont want to go back to this particular gym.... :(

Carolva,
Do what you have to do to keep yourself going. If that means working out at home, work out at home, if that means switching gyms, switch gyms. Heather had some great advice. I've totally been there and felt completely intimidated in a gym. For me, I needed to stick it out and show those skinny fro-fro aerobic girls that I could do it too! That may not be the best solution for you. Only you know what is.

But the important part is that you keep moving, keep doing your thing and remember YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE. Trying is never failing.

Best of luck! We're all here for you.

I have to keep myself for going back to FAT girl even if that means switching gyms. I will let you guys know!

Originally Posted by carolva77:
And after dinner I ate some lc icecream and went above my cals for the day :(
It must be pms

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: Wanna be my friend? lol.. I did the same thing today.. I accidently ( see my " im so mad at me today" post for explanation) ate 360 worth of Ice cream and now.. I have 1100 cals left in a day that was only supposed to be 1300 ( yesterday was a 1500cal day and I am zig zagging) I *know* its pms for me.. I feel wretched, even before the ice cream incident. I swear.. I am going to write a book of my trials and tribulations when I am at maintence, about all this crap.. and thats exactly what it will be titled. " The Ice Cream Incident" hahaha.. even though its not all ice creams fault, I certainly do love it :D

Anyone remember the girl that used to post here who was on TLC's " I lost it" and she attributed ALLLLLL of her weight gain to ice cream, because she just couldnt say away.. :dizzy: Im sure Meg remembers her :lol3: what was her name?

Originally Posted by carolva77:
I love my workouts it is just I think this place is to small for me, and it is a lot like competitive meat market place.
My workouts have been a very important part of my recovery and I am not willing to let them go, however, there is alot of it when the membership is so unexpensive (let's say Bally's) it is very open.
I believe that if the membership is more expensive people would go there TO WORKOUT instead to flirt ( I hate that) to critize other peoples bodies, (I mean COME ON) , but that is what I believe, we'll see....

My gym definitely has girls and guys ( college age) they come in there looking all good.. turn the fans on FULL BLAST so they dont sweat which btw pisses me off to NOOOO EXTENT .. i hate gym fans.. and they annoy me too but in my gym .. if you are caught making fun of someone or making someone uncomfortable you can get your membership revoked. Its little slogan is " the judgement free zone" I :love: my gym and I hate I have to leave it

Hi there. :)

I work in a gynm/athletic club, and I teach dance class. I want to tell you, that I have teeny weeny tiny small women in my classes all the way up to about a size 4X plus size. I have girls in there from about age 15 all the way up to in their 80's. Some of the women in my class are natural talents-they have rhythm, they have grace-and other women in my classes have two left feet.

I also have some very, very nice women in my classes...and a couple that are of the standoffish, or rude, or condescending sort. I have women in my class who brag about their latest trip to the Bahamas with their doctor husband...and I have women who work at a small factory in town making a small hourly wage.

What I am saying, basically, is that no matter what gym you go to, you are going to have thin people, fat people, smart people, dumb people, nice people, and rude people. The price of the gym doesn't change that. :)

My humble opinion, is that you should continue to go to your class, because it is important to you, and to your health. The only thing I can say, is that the "rude" sort of people will treat you how you LET them treat you. If a woman is rude to you, and you walk away with your head hung low, looking defeated-then she wins. If you have a decent comeback, and keep your head held high and proud-then it makes HER look like the jerk.

If she would have told me how fat I looked/how much weight I gained, I would have said "Wow-thank you for noticing!!! If you hadn't just told me-I would have swore that I was still skinny! Thanks for the heads up!" It would make her look like the jerk that she is...but then again, I am sarcastic. ;)

The woman who asked if it was my first class, I would have just smiled brightly at her, and said "No, but I'm moving-and that is what counts!" :)

Don't let anyone around you demean you, or put you down. :hug:

Thanks Aphil. I am fighitting so hard, I went to see a trainer today and I am 30# more than my lowest. I am 127#. I feel like a huge failure, but I did sign up with a trainer and I am going to see her for like 9 weeks. So that gave me a hope
I ask God every day to allow me to beat my emotional eating and get down to my weight again, or at least within to 105#... I am so sad I am so overweight (please all the people who is heavier than me please forgive me compared to before I am overweight I am only 4'11" :( )

Oh honey now don't you be so sad! That trainer will help you, and so will the gym. You can lose that weight! Don't give up. Hang with us--we'll help! :hug:

Jay

Thanks you are so nice..... I really want to lose this weight!

9 weeks, that's great. That will really leave you in a good postion. I'm sure when those weeks are over you will be well on your way to a fitter and happier you.

And by the way, failure is the very last word I would use to describe you. Failure is when you stop trying. You've only just begun!