I was just reading the Secret Goals post, and all of the women saying they wanted their boyfriends to be able to pick them up reminded me of an incident that still makes me mad...
The last boyfriend I had before I got married was kind of a dumb jerk. I hurt my back trying to take out the trash one day, and I got stuck laying down on the floor. It took me a while to even get to the floor, and once I was there, there was no way I could get back up. I was even in too much pain to scoot myself from the kitchen to the living room. I tried, because the tile in the kitchen was cold. I had my phone in my pocket, so I called him to ask if he could help me. He was at work, but it was his business, so he could have left. He made some mildly sympathetic noises at me, and left me laying on the floor til he got home four hours later.
I was really, really hurt by that, and I brought it up a couple of times in the months that followed. One day he said (and mind you, this was his idea of an apology,) that he could see why that hurt my feelings, cause if he imagined me as one of those "tiny girls who might break" he could understand why leaving me on the floor was a bad thing, but he said he always assumed I was strong and could take care of myself because I was a "big girl." He said that he knew that had nothing to do with it, and that it was obviously a dumb perception.
There were so many things wrong with that that I don't even know where to begin. First of all, I can, and do, take care of myself, and would even if I were very thin. Second of all, and most importantly.. He left me laying on the floor alone because I was FAT???? I did get rid of that guy shortly thereafter.
But what I want is for people to look at me like I matter, and like it or not, that happens a lot less often at this weight than it did when I was thin. People even treated me like I was smarter when I was thin. I'm not sure how I lost so many IQ points in the process of gaining weight, but the ideas I have are not taken as seriously anymore.