I agree with many others - she's deliberately trying to sabotage. She probably doesn't want you to lose weight because then in her mind she will be "the fat one".

Getting angry enough to pout for an extended period of time over Chinese? That is in-sane. This woman sounds like a big spoiled baby. Beware. Pouting is a passive-aggressive tactic.

I'm still laughing over the butt-nekkid roommate diet-lecture idea.

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yay for naked confrontations!

Haha, I probably wouldn't go the Beach Patrol route either, but I do advocate being direct -- first off you aren't even feeling like eating Chinese to begin with, second, say you already ate and are full and/or watching what you eat. Just thank her for the offer and maybe next time, if you can find healthy Chinese grub, ask her to check it out with you.

Diplomatic Alternative #2: Cook your own chinese food in the house! A lot of the recipes are pretty quick and simple (heck, you can probably churn out something in the time it takes to place a phone order and drive over to pick up), and because you're in charge of what goes in, you'll know it's healthful as well as yummy. Just today I made some noodles in broth with dumplings & chicken & lots of stir-fry veggies... a satisfying 600 calories.

Hey everyone

I wanted to asks, What do you do when your sabotager is your husband? The other day, my husband wanted me to cook lamb for dinner. I love lamb and its one the food I just lose control with. I really don't want something like that around but, my husband persisted that we never have red meat for dinner. I for one don't want to eat red meat anymore but, i was forced to cook it. And just like I thought, I couldn't control myself. I went crazy on the lamb. I just need alittle help but, my husband just doesn't get it.

That is a really tough one, Miss Honey. He shouldn't have to go without the foods he likes, but at the same time you shouldn't have to eat foods you are trying not to go overboard on. So maybe the two of you could compromise on it.

Can you cook less of those foods than normal? I realize that leg of lamb is leg of lamb, but with steaks and such, it should be a little easier to cook less.

Another strategy is to package up the leftovers right away and get them in the fridge. Tell your husband to take as much as he wants on his plate, because then you're putting it away. Once it's put away, you won't be so tempted to keep eating it.

See if he will go out to a restaurant for some of those foods--so he can have his lamb or steak or whatever, and you can get some grilled chicken or fish. You could make it a special night together each week.

Just a few ideas... Good luck!

Jay

I work at a grocery store sooooooooooo i totally understand. My friends love chocolate and there is always a ready supply.. AARRRRGGG !!!! i hate knowing its always there.. but i have it in my mind that its diet chocolate and who wants to eat that :( .. yuck .. that works for me ... hehehe ..

Stick to your chopsticks girl! You might try to have a nice, calm conversation with her, telling her that if she was really your friend, she would give you support in your dieting efforts!
Seriously, it sounds like the troubles between the two of you go deeper than just food related disagreements.
You've had a lot of patience with her......If it were me, I'd shove a chop stick .... never mind.
I Hope you two roomies can work it out (without slapping)!

sorry that your roomie is acting like a jerk....I'd give her the speech about you need to/WANT to lose the weight, she's welcome to join you for other activities besides chowing down high calorie take-out.

or tell her to grow UP, stop NAGGING you....can't she find someone else to snack with?

Well, if it's YOUR HUSBAND.... Ok, first thing you do is GET NAKED.... ;)

Seriously, tho, I'd tell him if he wanted it that bad, he could cook it himself. :p :D

Dieting is HARD. If people in your life don't GET IT, & if they DON'T support you, then the LEAST they can do is NOT HINDER YOU. Geez!

It's like "I lovvvvvvveeeee pumpkin pie! I just can't be around one or I'll eat the whole thing!" So loving husband brings one home "Look what I got for you honey! A pumpkin pie! I KNOW HOW MUCH YOU LOVVVVVVVE THEM!" :rolleyes: I swear, divorce & murder have been committed for lesser crimes.