Right there with you.

I have very little social life, but that's more to do with my depression than my weight.

All the time. I'm anti-valentines with my friends, which is cool though. XD But I feel so lame. I mean, they've gotten farther than me.

Before I met my hubby I had "boyfriends" before, just casual dating really, but, I was ALWAYS the fat funny friend to most guys. I have always been social and had tons of friends, just guys didnt seem to be too into me, more as a friend than anything. Now, since losing weight, I havent seen any of my friends since before christmas, sure they call me every friday night, to see if i want to go out to the bar..........i am NOT into the bar scene anymore, I cant stand the thought of eating lettuce all day long just to save enough calories to have a couple of drinks. I also have a 10 month old baby and 2 step kids that live with me. None of my friends understand my life, they all are single and still live at home with their parents, i love them, dont get me wrong, but at the same time we just arent on the same level anymore..... i basically feel like im socially handicapped now that i dont drink....i guess that i feel like i have to be drinking to socialize, its crazy
i dunno
i need some new friends who dont drink i think LoL

I don't have a fantastically busy social life, but it does me nicely. Most of my socialising is running related - I go to running club twice a week, sometimes go to the bar afterwards, I go out for running club meals, and I meet up with other runners at races. It works for me because mainly the people I meet up with understand why I don't want to get so drunk that I end up missing my run the next day, or why I'm concerned about eating well.

I do meet up with some of my old friends, but they seem to understand me less and less as I've changed during this process. I have different priorities in my life now, and they don't really share them.

As for dating, that doesn't really happen and never has round here. I had a boyfriend when I was at university, but that was *ahem* quite a long time ago. I've been on about two dates since then. That doesn't bother me too much, but I don't know how much it's due to weight and self-esteem issues, and how much it's just down to me not being interested in that whole scene. Certainly if I was to date, I wouldn't feel comfortable with the sort of person I'd meed in bars and clubs, so I'm not going to go there to meet them. The way my priorities are at the moment, I've got a far better chance of meeting someone I'd like at running club anyway.

I'm not unhappy with my situation, but I do wonder sometimes whether there should be more to a Saturday night than sitting at home having some herbal tea then having an early night...

I really have no social life. I have a few close friends but we rarely hang out because I work all the time. I am severely shy, I have no social graces, and I have low self esteem. Like some of you have said, if any guy seemingly flirts with me, I usually think I'm imaging it. And the ones that are blatantly trying to get this are after sex or just so freaking old and gross! Everytime a decent guy has liked me (one I could like back), he never approaches me because he thinks that I will reject him! Freakin hilarious but totally true! And I never find out till some time afterwards when there is no way I can see them again! Etc. when I was in the 9th grade, I had French with this cute quarterback who was in the 11th. He was really nice, really cute and he would always sit behind me in class and mess with my hair and stuff. I didn't think anything about it, I mean COME ON, popular, cute football player and fat nobody me? Please! In the middle of the school year, we had to move and I had to transfer to another school (which totally broke my heart....I still haven't gotten over it) and about a year later, one of my best friends (who was still at the old school) called me and told me that the guy had said that he had really liked me and wanted to ask me out but was afraid I would say no!!! He actually CRIED when I left the school! No joke. I remember on my last day, when I was in the hallway cleaning out of my locker, he came out of class and said 'Goodbye Shari' with the strangest look on his face. I didn't really get it then but now I do and I kick myself everyday. I try to remind myself of this everytime I have encounters like that but I'm just too chicken and scarred to push myself. Sorry I'm so long winded. LOL

Oh and (surprisingly) I have no problem with Valentine's. It's always just been another day for me. People tell me I'll understand when I get a man but I'm just like whatever.

ITA.

Translation, please? ;)

Its kind of crazy, I was single the time I started gaining to just a few days ago... I know SOME of it was about weight, but I also know a lot of it is just circumstance, meeting the right guys. It makes me wonder, though, how different those years might have been. I guess you can never really know for sure.

Mine sucks, but I think it's my fault.

ITA = I totally agree

Ahh, thank you. Never seen that acronym before.

I'm also another anti valentine's day girl :) DH and I both agree that there is no reason to celebrate it, so we don't.

I was overweight from birth to age 18ish and then thin until about age 23 -- but even thin, I still had my self-esteem issues that I carry around, so dating wasn't great -- I still felt unattractive from habit. My poor DH -- I was thin when me met and over the past 13 years (probably our first five) have put on 100 lbs. I'm sure he didn't expect that :dizzy: -- And, even married I'm not a big valentine's day fan -- think it's just another money sucking holiday. I celebrate it with my two favorite men -- my 3 and 7 year old sons -- husband and I don't do anything much. And, my friends/family don't understand why DH and I don't go out -- it seems to offend them that we have no social life. By the time we pay a babysitter and find some where we want to go, it's just not worth it to me. I don't think we've been out since my cousin got married when I was 8 months pregnant and that's fine with me!!

It's refreshing to see a couple who thinks it's a bogus holiday. :D

I don't mind V Day. Don't see any reason to buy a bunch of junk for it. A single rose is more my speed. Hubby started to buy me a box of candy...he would have in the past. But he knew I wouldn't want that, so he left it at a "Happy Valentine's Day" and that was enough.