I just feel like i'm at a dead end at the moment i mean, i think no matter how much i weigh i'm gona feel fat. Even at goal weight.. am i gona be happy with the way i look?? I just feel like society has made me think i'm 'fat' and nothing i can do is gona change that

we all feel like this time and again
and to be honest the fat feeling can stay with you, a friend how was a size 20/18 lost weight and is a size 12 and still picks up the larger clothes and feels that she cant possibly fit into a 12, and to see that she can must be a boost
Ok, so Im not good with the wordy hippy encouragement thing, but heres the deal,
your not happy being at the weight you are/were, your making a positive change to become healthier, losing weight.
losing weight will (maybe in time, like me) have a impact on your physical appearence, making you 'no longer overweight'.
losing weight also has effects on your mentality, you will feel flabby like all of girls do(even skinney ones), but being smaller, remembering how you was is gonna give u a boost knowing that U accomplished that.
What if u dont like your result? you can still change, look at what weight is healthy for ur height and go smaller if you want like I plan to or if gain if its the way you want.
Society will always make you feel crappy about your appearance, even if you was a size 10, people are out for themselves and will screw you over to feel good about themselves, well cept for the good 'ole folks here at 3fc.
man I such @ this Im going to stop, but hopefully you understand what Im getting at.

I woke up yesterday morning with a phrase in my head. I have no idea where it came from. Maybe i was having some deep, philosophical dream, but here it is, "Beautiful is a state of mind, not a state of being."
I think it's very easy to feel frustrated with how you look, and worried that you will never like how you look, when you've always felt this way about yourself. I believe that if you convince yourself it won't ever really change, then it won't. On the other hand, if you remind yourself, daily, that you DO have control over how you feel and how you look, and you are taking that control every time you make a healthy choice instead of an unhealthy one, I believe that you will begin to feel empowered and more comfortable with who you are RIGHT NOW. If you don't believe that who you are right this second is good enough and worth the effort, no amount of encouragement from anyone else is going to make a dent.

This effort we put in to look better and feel better is our investment in ourselves. Every single one of us is absolutely worth all of the hard work, and i'm convinced that the return on our investment will be huge.

Thankyou both for the encouragement

angeleyezx- i didn't really think about the affect losing weight would have on my health... i just thought i wanted to lose weight because i wanted to be thinner, but you're absolutley right- if i become healthier i'm bound to feel better about myself aren't i?

Jordan- Thanks for the inspirational quote, i'll have to remember that one. I guess you are right- if i lose hope i'm just going to give up and i know if i put on weight i won't feel good.

At the moment, i'm not losing any weight, and you have both made me realise it's because i need to like myself before i can try to do so.

So from now on my goal is to like who i am