sh3l5 , 05-01-2008 02:16 AM
guys didnt really find me attractive at my highes weight....
cant really blame them as i didnt either....
but during my journey i have loads of attention....
most unwanted, but some wanted by this one guy....
hes everything i could want....
he funny, hes smart, hes fit....
and sensitive and caring too....
i know this cos i had a run in with him about 9 months ago....
hes just recently started texting me again....
flirting like crazy and wants to meet up....
now i know i cant get to overwhelmed by this or i will just fall off my wagon....
i just cant believe 'he' is actually showing ME interest....
he is way outta my league....
such a buzz tho knowing he is....
one other small point....
would someone get intimate with someone they werent attracted to?....
Spoz , 05-01-2008 02:59 PM
Firstly, you need to get your self esteem back up. Nobody is out of your league.
..would you eat a plate of sprouts if you didn't like them?
love love LOVE the analogy (sp?) Spoz!
agree on self esteem.
the most overweight woman ever can be attractive if she is confident and self assured.
ive never had an issue with attracting men, at my fattest or thinnest, simply because i am cocky, confident and a little bit self assured.
Thats great! the other girlies are right of course.
refering to :
"would someone get intimate with someone they werent attracted to?...."
yes they would, not me personally, but some people/guys do it.
It sounds to me like he does fancy you. You shouldn't assume he finds you unattractive if you happen to feel a bit fat. I find lots of men like women who are larger than average. (and in any case it looks like you have lost lots of weight and probably look great.)
If you do want to find out his view, have you thought of asking him what he tends to go for? A bloke who does fancy you will use this opportunity to drop obvious hints.
It sounds as if the friend thing is working for you so there is no need to rush things in any case ... just my view.
Spoz , 05-16-2008 03:58 PM
Angel is of course right, but if you care about things like that you're going to miss out on so many opportunities in life. The thing about people who use you is you dont need them either.
sh3l5 , 05-17-2008 03:25 AM
yep, and i dont need him!....
Talking hypothetically as i am not currently single. I wouldn't have problem getting intimate with someone i wasn't attracted to if i was drunk in a club, but i wouldn't waste time text flirting with them and arranging to meet up in a situation where i would not be already drunk, chances are i wouldn't want to see them again anyway. He wouldn't bother if he didn't like you and if he thinks you are worth spending time with then he is not out of your league. The only person who can say he is out of your league is him and anyone who says that is probably so far up their own arse they don't even know how great you are.
