Hello ladies...

MS SASSY...I am so glad you decided to stay! And ditto what jane and MaryKate said. I am having the hardest time ever to even stay focused on losing weight with Josh where he is...he has consumed my thoughts...I think I am getting an ulcer! Between him and trying to lose weight. And some days I feel like not coming here at all because I don't want to whine, or burden anyone with it and I too feel like a failure sometimes. But we are here for each other, a shoulder to cry on, to help us through those tough times. I've been losing the same few pounds for a few years now. I do good and then just stop but the thing that I refuse to do is to ever quit. And coming here helps me...these ladies are the best and honestly, I wouldn't know what to do without them, you all. We've already lost too many as it is and I can't bear the thought of someone else going. No one ever said it was easy, if it were we all would be skinny! Lot's of hugs to you missy :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: About goals, I quit making goals...I feel like it is just setting me up for failure and I end up feeling like a failure when I don't make them.

JANE...you are right...I was reading that and I think the calories with the exercise to lose 1-2 pounds is a good amount. Like you, I've seen too many ladies go too low with the calories or try starving, it's just not good or healthy. And the say those are the ones who will most likely gain it all back and then some. While it may be taking me forever, I know one day I will get down to where I want to be, or at least close. But I know even if I don't I can live with that. Especially knowing that I am exercising and eating right, with a few mess ups along the way. Hope you dinner tonight is nice, which I know it will be.

MARY KATE...I too wish you could post more, but I wish more that you weren't in pain. We miss you around here missy. I hope the new meds help and chocolate sandwich?? Eeeewwww, lol! There was a time I loved chocolate but not so much anymore, thank goodness. But I do have a sweet tooth that I am always fighting. I don't know when it started but for the longest time I feel the need for something sweet after lunch. Not so much dinner but just lunch, weird. I do hope you get some relief soon. You shouldn't have to be in so much pain. :hug: :hug:

MARTI...yeah, I know if no one says anything and it is too hot in there once it gets cold I will say something to Charlotte. I agree, it can't be good being 80 degrees in there and trying to work out. How are you liking you treadmill?

Hello Tiffany, Norma, Jules, Kathy, Judith, Liz, Sue and anyone I missed! :wave:

Well, I've been up since a little after 4 a.m. again couldn't go to sleep for thinking of Josh. V kissed me by this morning and as soon as he pulled out of the drive way the stupid smoke alarm in the living room started beeping. I thought, okay, I'll just ignore it because I am too tired to mess with it right now. DD knocked on the door and asked if I heard that. Yeah, I was trying to ignore it and deal with it later. Ernie though was going crazy running up and down the basement stairs and under the bed. UGH! I didn't have a 9volt battery to replace it so had to drag in the ladder to reach the stupid thing only to find a bunch of wires, ugh again! So it beeped until a little after 6 while I took a shower to run to the store to get some batteries. But once I am up I am up...tried to lay back down and go back to sleep...think I dozed in and out for a hour. :dunno: Needless to say I am not a happy camper and I am sleepy. :dz: :yawn: :tired: But I had errands to run, not a good idea being so grouchy. Had to get those pictures off to Josh, run to Penney's to take something back, get my wedding rings checked and cleaned (that time already) get some lotion from Bath & Body...was totally out, bought some Christmas cards for the troops (for the radio station guy taking them over to Iraq) 5 boxes since I got them at the Nifty Fifty store for 1/2 off. Didn't make it to It Figures, didn't think it would work anyway, not in the mood at all. And it seemed like every idiot driver was on the road today and in front of me, UGH! Glad I have dinner cooking so maybe after Jeopardy I might take a nap...afraid I won't wake up for hours though. If not I am going to bed at 9, maybe-we'll see. I soaked my pinto beans overnight and cooked them early this morning. Cooked the ground beef when I got back and put it all together in the crock pot. So it's basically done, just simmering for hours. I'll make some cornbread muffins later. Anyway...

About the weight loss...I have decided to not focus on the food part anymore, or make anymore goals. As I said above to Sassy, it seems everytime I make a goal I am setting myself up to fail, and I usually do, why? I don't know. When I was doing the WATP book (the walking diet,lol) she says to not focus on the food that it will come later. And when I did that I lost 13 pounds. Of course then I stopped for some stupid reason (again, don't know why-think I blamed the winter and it being too cold to walk, which was not an excuse because I have a treadmill!) and gained a little bit back, but I stopped myself in time and didn't gain it all back. I didn't focus on the food part and did good so I am going back to that concept...exercise, exercise, exercise! I think the eating part will fall into place like it did before and if it doesn't then I will have to try counting calories or points. Wish me luck ladies. Okay, blabbing now...

Take care ladies and I hope everyone has a nice day :hug: :hug: :hug:

Hiya Ms Norma! :wave:

I saw you had posted while I was writing that novel. Sorry ladies for the long post, it's been one heck of a day for me. Tomorrow is a new day!

I'll post on the other threads tomorrow because my computer is so freaking slow! Or it's the time of day I am on...not normally on this late. But then this is how my whole day has been so...see ya tomorrow! :wave: :hug:

Sassy--I am here to tell you from personal experience that going away from supportive people will do nothing to help--it only makes it worse and then you feel depressed and lurk awhile but don't post because you feel weird about it and don't know what to say or when to jump in..so don't leave--avoid the stress you will cause yourself. I am still the same weight that I have been since January with a one or two pound fluctuation--it's very aggravating.

Cristina--you and Sue are making me want to make chili and cornbread this weekend--it's suppossed to be colder. I liked the kids answers to the questions about mom's. I am sorry you are mising Josh. He is in my prayers.

Hi to you HarkerValley!

Marti--a little OT but not too much--it's like you say--the ot doesn't seem to help all that much. It is getting alot better, I am not afraid that the piles will fall on the floor anymore.....

Jane--your group sounds nice--have fun, I hope the dinner goes well.

Katie--i have been wondering if the anxiety meds are making me gain??? Hope you are doing well and having no pain.

Well, I just wanted to check in. My allergies are bothering me and I just may go to bed early--the allegra makes me sleepy sometimes.

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Hey, we're close enough to 50 for a new thread.... see ya at #216. :D