"Every-Day" 21-Day Challenge -- Here's to new habits!

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  • Okay, everyone, as is the tradition, I start a new thread when I personally start a new challenge.

    Below is a short explanation of how this challenge works so all you newcomers can take a look and decide if you're game or not! I hope you are! Hop aboard and enjoy the ride. We've got a great bunch of supportive people, so I hope you'll give us a try. A lot of people try for a while and then disappear.. I hope some of you will keep trying. There is NO shame in starting over. Remember, it's not over till you give up. And our motto around here is:

    NEVER GIVE UP!!...Just start OVER!!


    It works like this: you decide you'll do something for 21 days straight, every single day, so keep it doable. Then you count ....one through 21.....and if you flub it, you MUST go back to zero and start over again. Everyone will be on different days. You can start anytime. At the beginning of the challenge you declare what level it is -- Level 1, 2, or 3. Level 1 means you feel it's a relatively easy challenge for you and means you only give yourself ONE pause day (see explanation of pause days below). Level 2 would give you two pause days and so on...
    And taking NO pause days is what I'm going to call "aceing a challenge," as in "I'm aiming on aceing this one!" Yowzah!!

    With a pause day you pause in your counting and continue the next day with the number you left off with. Pause days are NOT substitutes for days, i.e. Day 12 -- Day 13 -- Pause Day -- Day 14..... I suggest taking a pause day late in the game (better to go back to Day 1 early on) if you need a break or screw up when you're well into the challenge, meaning, when you're on Day 15 or something like that.

    In any case, the trick is to keep going. The momentum builds and it's great incentive to stick to your guns, cause if you don't.........back to START you go. And the really great thing about this challenge is that you are forming new habits that will wipe out the old! AND, you get to do it with a great bunch of really supportive people to whom you are accountable!


    In the interest of maintaining structure, a sense of solidarity and facilitating support I ask anyone who wishes to join this thread to please strive to follow the following guidelines while participating in this challenge and in posting.

    1. Although this is a fabulous support group, the focus is to be on your CHALLENGE/S and/or other people's challenge/s AND weight loss, whether your challenge is about it or not. Please keep the challenge a priority, although we welcome chattiness! This means tell us what day you're on when you post and it's a good idea to make regular mention of just what your challenge is. This an action-based thread. Our members are ON a challenge, RESTARTING a challenge, or just in between and looking to start up again REAL SOON. We also welcome posts from admirers, encouragers, and old friends!

    2. Please refrain from posting food logs or recipes, except where you are really looking for help and advice on your eating. If journaling is your challenge, please keep the journaling off the thread and in a notebook or blog and just tell us if you've done what you set out to do. We have ALL types of dieters here, low-carb, high-carb, low-fat, high-fat, vegetarians, meat-lovers...please use simple mentions if you have something you want to share and then links and/or private messages to do so.

    3. Please do NOT go into glowing accounts of any slipups, food indulgences or binges, what we here call "food porn." Simple mentions are fine, but use of smilies etc. as substitutes where possible is encouraged.

    4. Please keep this a nonsecular thread. Of course, passing references to your beliefs, a bit of introduction about your beliefs, brief faith-related words of encouragement are fine.

    5. Please show support, support, support! This is key. You can waffle on about yourself but please, at least occasionally,come up and look around at others and what they are doing and MENTION it with words of encouragement and/or praise or sympathy. We understand "busy," poor computer connections, and bouts of self-pity and life problems where the focus turns to "me" and dealing with those problems, but these should be temporary, not a habit! ('cept in the computer case.)

    In conclusion, let me say, the above are just that, GUIDELINES. Please realize that these guidelines have been added in an attempt to keep this a supportive and beneficial thread, at the LEAST, to those who need it MOST, those for whom weight loss is the hardest and, more often than not, the most crucial as well as for those who still, perhaps despite great success, know all too well that the road they walk will always be a slippery one.

    The guidelines are also meant to cultivate an atmosphere of consideration and concern for ALL, not individually, but AS A GROUP.

    Well, all's said. Please join us!!

  • Please tailor challenges to the everyday format...
    NOTICE: Hi there everyone! I just wanted to make a note that I've noticed some challenges lately that incorporate rest days or days off. Just so newcomers don't get confused, I ask everyone to re-read or read (in case you haven't) the first post of the thread. The whole idea of the challenge is to do something EVERYDAY, thus the name.

    So, please, and it's just for rules and structure sake, but please make your challenges along these lines. Remember, you can always schedule in "a pause day" if you make it Level 3, so it's really the same thing, just doesn't allow for any other pause days on top of that...Okay?

  • Declaration of Self-Esteem...re-posting for newcomers...
    Heh people! Sometimes when the weight, the weight loss battle -- life! -- are getting you down and down on yourself, or when you're feeling overwhelmed or powerless, or when you feel like you just don't have "what it takes" -- I thought this might be a good thing to read, for ALL of us to read. We too often forget about everything that is RIGHT with us as we're focusing on what is "wrong." Just thought I'd share. . .

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    (author unknown)

    I am me.

    In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. There are persons who have some parts like me, but no one adds up exactly like me. Therefore, everything that comes out of me is authentically mine because I alone chose it.

    I own everything about me - my body, including everything it does; my mind, including all its thoughts and ideas; my eyes, including the images of all they behold; my feelings, whatever they may be - anger, joy, frustration, love, disappointment, excitement; my mouth, and all the words that come out of it, polite, sweet or rough, correct or incorrect; my voice, loud or soft; and all my actions, whether they be to others or to myself.

    I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears.

    I own all my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.

    Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts. I can then make it possible for all of me to work in my best interests.

    I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know. But as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for the solutions to the puzzles and for ways to find out more about me.

    However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is me. This is authentic and represents where I am at that moment in time.

    When I review later how I looked and sounded, what I said and did, and how I thought and felt, some parts may turn out to be unfitting. I can discard that which is unfitting, and keep that which proved fitting, and invent something new for that which discarded.

    I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.

    I own me, and therefore I can engineer me.

    I am me and I am okay.

  • I´d like to get in on this, too! Starting today!

    1)drink 4 L water daily
    2)immediately freeze extra portions of dinner, instead of leaving it out when we´re eating
    3)nothing but fruits or veggies after 7 p.m.
    4)get in 30 minutes of activity daily

    I think that it´s doable? I guess it´s a level 1?

  • Hi there

    I'd like to join your challenge
    My challenge is 21 binge free (BF) days. For me this is a maximum level challenge ie level 3 but i'm not sure i can jump straight in at level 3???
    i have managed 5 binge free days per week and at one stage i went 11 BF days soooooooooooooo I will need to lift my game.

    I'll start tmrw which is a monday which will be good

    Looking forward to meeting everyone else
  • in the midst of devastation...rebirth!
    Hi there all. Hope you found your way over to the new thread. I just started it on a whim...and because I fell hard off the wagon again yesterday and continued wallowing in self-pity today and then just thought...I MUST get this fat off. It's so disgusting and I have no clothes anymore. I must stop eating so much!!! That's it! Period! It's the bottom line. I simply eat way too much.

    So, I'm starting anew tomorrow, not with the same challenge, but I will be using a lot of what I learned over my over two weeks of successful days on that. I know, I know, I should finish a challenge, but I am in a crisis state now and just feeling I HAVE to limit calories, like it or not, I really don't have any choice.

    So, starting tomorrow (Monday) I will be pulling out my old plan, which was a base of 1,500 calories/day with extra calories allotted for exercise. Boy, now that makes me exercise!

    Oh, please, oh please wish me luck. I will really need support with this one!


    ktgk -- Welcome aboard! Your challenge sounds great. Is this just one challenge or are you going to split them up? Are you allowing yourself any pause days?

    girlie -- Yeah, tell me about good intentions....sigh, sigh, self-flagellate...pull hair....you have great excuses, not here! Good luck when you lift off!

    marble -- Excellent cardio! And clairvoyance as well! Wow! Yeah, shedding layers is something I need to do too. Where does it come from?!?!?! I hope you're feeling better, by the way. Is the stomach bug gone?

    jolly -- How did the reception go? Are you starting over or were you able to stick with your challenge? I'm hoping whichever it was, you enjoyed yourself!

    CB -- Awful quiet again from you. Hope you're ok. Yes, screwed-up schedules really play havoc with us. It's my lament as well. I just feel so deprived and harried and then I reach for the food. Hope you can get a handle on things.

    Sushi -- Hi there! Thanks for the support. Yeah, I flubbed it again. But I am back for more! Hope to see you back soon too!

    Caro -- Are you still hanging in there? Let's hear from you!

    Apple -- How about you? Any progress?

    curly -- We miss you!

    sweet pea -- Welcome!! Glad to have you with us. Sure, you can jump in with any level, those are just there to help you. The original 21-day challenge had no pause days, but I made this new element to make things easier to get started. It can get pretty discouraging having to keep restarting. Also, the everyday structure can be hard to find something to fit to it, so level 3 allows for a scheduled rest day in a way. Anyhow, hope to hear lots from you! Just coming off two days of what I would consider bingeing myself...I am NOT happy and I am trying to put the brakes on myself. Let's do this together!

    Everyone else, please come in and post!

  • It´s one challenge--I chose easy things that I think I can do everyday and don´t usually have too much trouble with--but sometimes I fall short. I want to be very consequent about next 21 days.
    The new part I added was freezing leftovers BEFORE dinner--I hope that that will help me (and my husband) to lay off the extra portions.
    I won´t allow myself a pause day, because I want to make habits that stick. I´ll be a good girl and start over at day 1 if I slip up, hehe.

  • already a flower!
    Ok, kt, you have it your way! the hard way, it looks like! And it looks like you're doing something very right!! Congrats on the over 20 pounds lost!
  • thanks for the welcome redballoon. wow i just looked at your ticker kt... you've done really well.

    i'm not aiming to be superslim. i just want to be slim enough to fit standard clothing sizes instead of having to go to big girls shops and to have some energy. i have a "barrier" at 80kg that i do not seem to be able to get under. i suspect i have crept up quite a bit above that recently so i will way myself tmrw. my other goal is to be in control of my eating instead of food controlling me - hence the BF days
  • Quote: NOTICE: Hi there everyone! I just wanted to make a note that I've noticed some challenges lately that incorporate rest days or days off. Just so newcomers don't get confused, I ask everyone to re-read or read (in case you haven't) the first post of the thread. The whole idea of the challenge is to do something EVERYDAY, thus the name.

    So, please, and it's just for rules and structure sake, but please make your challenges along these lines. Remember, you can always schedule in "a pause day" if you make it Level 3, so it's really the same thing, just doesn't allow for any other pause days on top of that...Okay?

    Oh well~ I'm guilty! But somehow the pause days have a negative psychologcal effect on me; according to my experience the challenge seems to be doomed as soon as I take my very first pause day, so I thought that I'd be successful if I take my normal rest/cheat day. But I guess, one have to play by the rules~
  • terminology amendment?
    Ok, girlie, how about I incorporate that term into the rules...saying take a pause day or schedule in a rest/cheat day? Would that help?
  • That sounds good to me. Thanks Red for taking into consideration that I'm, you know~
  • ummmm......
    You know, girlie, I just realized that that means you still will have to do an extra three days at the end, like the start of another week, otherwise, it's not the same as a pause day, which it is, in effect, if not in name. In other words, the idea is to have 21 stellar days and you would only be doing 18! Is that OK, can you deal with that, you nut!? I am awaiting your input, before the gavel falls ....heh, do I need a license for this or to pass the bar? ...passing bars is, like, really hard for me, you know...

  • awwww i didn't realise that was what the amendment means. you're saying instead of tacking on the "paused" days you just count them as completed days???? hmmmm i have to think about that

    meanwhile i better hop into bed because it's stormy here and nothing on tv and i want to aimlessly eat (already done plenty of that today)
  • uhhh....
    sweet pea, I think you posted that before you read my last message, right? Yes, you caught me in a brain blip..then I realized my error...thus I am querying girlie...or maybe I still wasn't clear...I am saying to her, nicely, she MUST tack on extra days if she wants to think of her day off each week as a cheat day. It's totally a psychological thing....I try to be accommodating here, sweet..there are a lot of borderline types on this thread!

    Anybody checking us out for the first time out there, fear not! Come join us!