Kylie :hug:

I am sorry you have had to be confronted with that news. Don't try keeping this to yourself, that would be very unhealthy. Talk it through with your family if you can, friends, or even a professional if you have too. And don't neglect your own feelings and needs while supporting your family. Know we are here to listen to if you are comfortable with that, although I know on an open messageboard, that could leave you feeling somewhat exposed. There is always the PM system here too.

I hope you can find peace with this soon :hug:

Vonni has plenty of wise words there too, listen to her advice.

Kylie I really feel for you. I can only echo the words of Vonni, Lindor and Barb - all wise, compassionate women. Are you close to your sister? Will she talk to you about what happened?

There's so much anger, pain and grief - and rightly so. Please don't turn it inside and 'punish' yourself - Vonni is so right, it's important to talk and to let it out. It's especially difficult when your whole family is hurting, because under every other circumstance they are the ones who would support you through horrible times. In situations like this you have to support each other - but you also need to be supported by other people. Is your BF understanding and helpful? Please feel free to PM me, or any of the women here, if you want to have a chat about things.

I've got to run - a couple of friends are giving some of their time to help me pack today… three more sleeps and I'll be in my new house. Whew - lots to do before I get there though.

:)
Ani

Morning!

Just a quickie to report in as I have decided I need to get some housework done this weekend and I neeeeeeed to wash my dogs!!! :lol:

I managed a good day yesterday, despite a morning tea AND a lunch thing at work!!! All things counted (including the doughnut and slice of pizza) I think I still managed to stay near (maybe slightly over) my 1400cals for the day. I drank 2.5L water and I did my step ups. And I am still feeling really motivated and in control of this weight loss attempt!

15kgs to go...I know I can do this!

How's everyone else going?

Thankyou
 

Hi girls -

First, thankyou Vonni, Ani and Lindor. You are all wonderful women, and it is so comforting to have your support.

I wish it were simple, I wish there were ways to make everything change. However, I know that it cant happent that way. My sister (she's 12) and I are quite close, but I think we could be closer. The slight age difference and the actual distance between us has made it difficult.

I also wish it were easier on my mum. She is the king of person that is well known in the community, because she contributes to so many things. I am constantly amazed by her strength, but it makes me feel so helpless when she cries to me on the phone. I can't make the hurt go away for her. She, of all people, doesn't deserve this kind of pain.

Anyway, I will keep you posted about her efforts to move out (along with 3 kids, 4 cats and a dog). But I wont keep on about this, because I don't really think it's the place.

I had AIESEC people over tonight for a bonding session (read: pizza and planning). I did eat pizza, but I take solace in the following:
~It was homemade base and sauce
~There was a lot of vegies
~the mozzerella was 'light'

Ok, so maybe it wasn't that great. And the coke and 3 Strongbows probably didn't help either. But, I honestly thought "to **** with it", after my poor efforts this week. I have decided to come down HARD starting tomorrow, ie totally strict on my diet, gym whenever possible, amp up the water etc.

I will lose weight. I will not make excuses. I MUST keep going. It wont work if I let myself have 'treats' every now and again, because they become every day.

Thankyou again, everyone, I really really appreciate it. :hug:
See you at the weigh in tomorrow...(OMG it's Monday already???)

Kylie

Morning all!

Kylie, good to hear from you. You sound like you are holding up as best you can given your recent news, but I am concerned that while being there for your Mum and sister, your emotional needs and support are being pushed aside. And I am not suggesting that is deliberate or anyones fault. I'm just suggesting you look out for yourself too, and make sure you have someone there you are comfortable talking your feelings through with too. :hug:

I won't go on with it anymore here either, but know you can always drop a PM to any of us too.


Ani, how's the move going? :p


I had a good weekend diet wise. Stuck to all my daily goals - although (surprisingly) I considerably under ate yesterday!!! Not sure what brought that on, but I only managed just over 1000cals!!

And despite saying I'll make Sundays my day off of step ups, I opted to do them. I decided that if I am to take a day off step ups it should be Monday - weigh-in day - because if I have a not so good weigh-in result, you can bet your bottom dollar, I'd blame it on not doing my step ups the night before :lol:

Anyway, weigh-in this morning showed a 0.8kg drop. I am happy with that. Calorie King tells me with my current intake and exercise, I should be averaging 0.45kg drop a week.

So, how was everyone elses weekend, and how goes the weigh ins??

Hi everyone, this is just a quickie as I am on my final day of packing etc. I weighed in at 89.7kg this morning, a loss of 0.8.

Kylie, I am thinking of you and hope things begin to resolve for your family. Your mum sounds like a brave woman to me - and I hope your family can heal from this.

Lindor how did you go with your weigh in today? Sorry I'm not being very chatty or supportive… 24 hours until the moving truck comes, and hopefully I'll soon be back to normal.

Good luck with the weigh-ins everyone. Gotta fly!

:)
Ani

Looks like we posted at the same time Lindor. YAY for your weight loss this week… woo hoo :D

Morning!

Well, yesterday when I jumped on the scales, I had an awesome reading. This morning, after the 'pizza and beer' episode, I'm not surprised that the reading changed!! So officially down only 0.7kg this week. But a loss is a loss, and I figure next week's efforts are gonna be much much better! (fingers crossed)

Well done Lindor! I like your thinking behind the step-ups! I have resolved to go to the gym whenever possible this week, and I have written those times in my diary. This makes them unmissable appointments. :carrot: I really am aiming for a big drop. (Although I will be happy with whatever I get, I promise)

Well, I've also decided to find the coolest weekly animation. This week we can all go jump! :trampo:

Kylie

Argh Ani! I missed your post too! Well done on the drop - and look after your back and your sanity over the next couple of days ok? I hope the move goes well for you.

Kylie

Ani, I know you are busy and all that, but I just wanted to bring to your attention, the following fact...

...in case you missed it :p...




YOU HAVE MADE IT UNDER 90kg!!!




...well done mate!! Very, very proud of you!!! :carrot:


Kylie well done to you too! Considering your week, that is an awesome achievement too :)

G'morning all! I've been busy reading everyones posts. Ani hope the move goes smoothly for you. And congrats everyone on their weight losses this week.

Well, despite my best intentions at the start of last week it did not go very well at all. I wasn't even going to hop on scales this morn but thought I had better - no loss for me this week - again:(

Having a bit of a depressed mood this week / weekend. Nearly split up with my DH. Probably over stupid things (I can get moody and am a bit of a perfectionist). He is sleeping on the sofa but at least he is still home. Part of our thing is he is so dependant on me for everything. His whole life revolves around me. I know a lot of people would give anything to have that, but it gets suffocating, and I have always been a very independent person and like to also do my own thing.

Then last night we had argument with DH ex wife. One of my family members had a stroke recently and my sis is organising a reunion for all the band members who have played together (we were a family of muzos, even the non related are like family) because she said u just never know whats around the corner. Well, it would have been our turn for the kids, but we can't drag them all,(2 cars and 2 motel rooms = expense) and its not really a place for little ones anyhow. So we asked the ex to have them The fri/sat and we take them sun/mon instead (easter) she cracked a wranger. All sorted now though. Will swap weekends totally.

I had the most ridiculous days at work over the weekend. We open at 8.30, and at 8.31 it started. If I didn't laugh I would have cried. It was busy busy with not a moment to breathe. I ate a packet of twisties at morning tea. Then when I finished work and shopping I had an aero bar. THEN I had an icecream after dinner. oh boy what a baaad day. That set the mood for Sunday. I think I may be a comfort eater. Oh one good thing for the weekend - I got $205 worth of clothes for kids at only $29. red light sales at work heehee.

I have kicked my own arse today and am determined to make this weight loss thing work. I am so close to getting under 70kg and it is so hard watching the scales needle not move. After 3 weeks of not walking I am thinking stuff everyone. I WILL walk and I am doing this not only for me but for the family as well. A fitter healthier me is a fitter healthier and happier wife and mother.

Anyhow, I won't go on anymore. Sorry to come in such a depressed state. I promise tomorrow I will be "much more betterer" :dizzy:

Kylie u go girl. And I agree with the others. DON'T NEGLECT YOURSELF. How far away does your mum live? Is there any way she can come stay with you for a while? That way you can be supportive of each other? Thinking of you and hope you are ok.

VONNI

Congrats on the losses everyone, and especially Ani, going under 90kg - woohoo!! Good for you, I can't wait to join you!

I lost 700g this week, which is exactly what I gained last week, so I'm back to 2 weeks ago. Exactly what I wanted to lose, so I'm happy with that. Also it's that TOM, so any loss is a victory. Plus, I'm still "hungry" since quitting smoking - don't think it's actual hunger, but a comfort as I do feel like something is missing. It's not that I "want" a smoke, but just so used to having them around, it's odd.

Anyhow, still losing, and upping my exercise again. I can tell I'm getting fitter because it's getting bloody hard to get my HR up on the treadmill now! I've added a (huge!) incline, and also pumping arms and punching the air (would look like SUCH a weirdo if anyone could see in the window...), and jogging - a lot.

Have done so-so with dropping intake to 1400 calories, but the first week of changing the cals is always hard, so this week will be easier!

Today was my last day at work... strange. So now I'm a lady of leisure for the next few weeks. Must make myself do lots of walking and not sit on my butt all day!

Morning all,

Just want to touch base before the removal truck comes. Vonnie I want to take the time to reply properly to you, and I don't have time this morning – are you OK? I understand what you mean about partners having such different needs about space and independence. It was the biggest issue for me in my last relationship, and it's really, really tricky to compromise with. I will write a longer reply later, but just know I'm thinking of you :hug:

Gen, how exciting - a new chapter in your life. I hope you come and join me in the 80s very soon… I still don't have my head around the fact that the 90s are gone for me - only because I haven't had time to think about it. But it's a great milestone, and I hope you're here soon.

Kylie sounds like you're keeping really busy too. Are you feeling OK?

Lindor you are inspiring me! Keep up the awesome work mate!

OK - it's very naughty of me to be on the computer when I should be doing moving things. My cats KNOW something very odd is happening today, and they're being uber-neurotic.

IF I get the office/computer set up today I will check in tonight and see how everyone is, and let you know how the move went. In the meantime, it's 5.30am and I really must shake something.

Hope you all have a good one!

:)
Ani

looks like my gremlins are back again!

I didn't realise if you edit a post you can take the gremlins out!

Hi ladies

Just a quick note to let you know that I'm still around. Have been feeling low again so have been to visit my doctor. She's changing my anti-depressants so hopefully I'll be on the way up again soon.

Something interesting that I never knew is that the medication I'm currently on and have been on for 7 years or so can cause weight gain!

Imagine if a side effect of changing meds is that I lose a little weight!

I'll be back next week, more on track I hope.

LittleKiwi, hope your new meds are helpful - they can certainly increase appetite, so it'll be great if you feel brighter AND lose more weight!!

I've strained my achilles tendon, so I'm sitting around with ice down my ankle support, trying to decrease the swelling. It's niggling but not REALLY bad - the treatment is rest, but I don't want to stop training as I'm on a roll! I'll tell my trainer I can't do skipping (hah!) as jumping makes it worse, and maybe drop the running and stick with boxing for cardio.

Morning all!

I never managed to post yesterday...busy, busy (and of course running late :lol: )

Anyway, Monday was all good food and water wise! I took the night off of the step ups as promised...now that felt naughty :lol:

Yesterday, was good as well - water, food and step ups done.

But, I have been having some huge cravings these last couple of evenings!! I am just droopling for stuff I should not have! It's a huge battle with myself to stay in control...so far I have managed that! It worries me though, as I am going to have to step into a grocery store in the next few days! I am going to have to psych myself up for that big time!! :lol:

Ani, how did the move go? Are you in your new home now? Are we all invited to the house warming?? :p

LittleKiwi, good to hear from you. Pleased you made it to the doctor and I hope the new meds help with your mood with the added bonus of helping with the weight loss!

Barb, hang in there mate. It is hard to stay in control of your habits when your emotions are running wild. Your feelings toward your bother and gfs new arrival are totally understandable. Of course you are going to resent people who are happily extending their family when the dream for you has been put on hold. Try not to let it affect your relationship with your brother though and certainly not with the new babe. :hug:

So, is it a niece or a nephew?


Alright, I gotta run!

Have a good one ladies!! :)

http://www.precor.com/cons/en/tools/workouts/#tre

Anyone who has a treadmill, or uses one at the gym, I found this website with lots of great programs - fat burning, cardio conditioning, and peak performance. They have great detail and hopefully I'll see some results with the "fat burning" program this week!!

Just a quickie from me tonight. I've got a thumper of a headache.:headache:

Weighed in today and have gone down another 500g, not as much as I would have liked but its in the right direction at least!

No baby yet, turned out to be a false alarm. They've been told if nothing happens in the next week then she'll be induced next Tuesday. Must be a girl!

I think I need an early night or three! I'm having so much trouble sleeping lately I feel dead on my feet.:tired: I think I need to reprogramme my head, I lay awake for hours after I go to bed then when its time to get up I'm just about needing to staple my eyes open!!

Nite ladies
Barb

Thank you for the site augigi very helpful

omg mary where did you come from? I thought you had disappeared. Welcome back :)

Vonni

Hi girls -

So I ditched work and uni today to go home to mum. My sister pressed charges, and he was arrested today. Wow. It was totally stressful, and I am buggered now, but mum + kids are going as well as can be.

I stuck to the food plan, no variation. Hanging on to normality?

Hope everyone else is well, I just thought you girls would like the update. Oh, his bail conditions mean that he cant come near the house, so there is less pressure on mum to move out. But she is still looking.

Take Care - proper update when I;ve caught up all that work that was meant to be done.

Kylie

LOL No I am still hanging around. Just lurking and hovering between 81 and 82kgs. Just got a new program from the gym and will be starting on that today. Sort of lost my mojo there for a while. But I think I have found it again. Good to see you all still hanging in there and losing. Well done! Well off to work have a good day.

Morning!!

Firstly, Kylie, thankyou for the update. I think it is great that something is being done! This should help with the healing for your sister and also you and the rest of the family. I hope he gets what he deserves!!

Well done too, for sticking with the diet ;)

Barb, well done on your drop! 500g is nothing to be scoffed at! Any further progress with the babe?? :D

Mary, glad you are still with us! You seem to be stuck at exactly the same place as me! I've been hovering between 80 - 85kg since well before Xmas!! Grrrr...it is sooo frustrating! But we will make this won't we?

Vonni? How are you doing mate?

And Ani????? Where are you? This place is so empty without you! Seriously, I hope you are ok and that you are just having internet connection issues at the new house?

And not forgetting all the others...Britt, Leeny, Kathy... I hope you are all ok.

Me...for the first time in three weeks, I fell off the wagon yesterday. I think I know where I am going wrong now too. I gradually cut things out of my diet as the days go by, just small things like the apple after lunch or the coffee after work.

I don't know why I am doing that when all I want is to stay within the 1400cal range. I set up a meal plan for each day that fits around 1400cal, and then I just don't eat/drink stuff on it thinking it'll help. In the long run it doesn't...it leads to hunger and ultimately eating too much of the wrong stuff.

So, my plan now is to continue to set my diet each day...AND STICK TO IT!!!

I am back on the wagon today.

Next week might have a few hurdles with a visitor and possibly dining out once or twice, and then the following week I am away for a few days for work again...then it is Easter!!!!

These things are meant to test us right? :lol:

Have a good day ladies!!

Morning all.

Kylie great news to hear. Well, it'd be better not to hear at all but you know what I mean. And so good to hear you are going to your mum. You all have a long journey ahead of you but you WILL come through it. Thanks for update :hug:

Lindor did you know that apples are GOOD FOR YOU :fr: Something to do with the type of acid in them that helps your metabolism. Now if you cut them out I will find you and :kickbutt: But I'm guessing it doesn't mean eat only apples. If it was like that there'd be an apple diet. I couldn't do it anyhow, cause I don't like them very much. But you know the saying - an apple a day keeps the doctor away.

Ani???? ANIIIIII????? Please come back. How's all the moving going?

Hey Gen hows the tendon? Hope it gets better soon.

Congrats Barb on yr weight loss. Glad to see you got the better of those little gremlins.:D Your headache all gone now? Or is it a tired / stress / diet one? You know the type - hang around for days and can take the edge off with painkillers but still lurking in the background!

I've been ok with my eating this week, but still no exercise. So not expecting to lose any weight - again! I have worked a few days this week, and by the time I get home I am exhausted and no energy to go walking. Besides work, George is visiting and being iron deficient it saps all my energy too.

I DID however walk on Monday though. Walked to pick kids up from school then came home and weeded (pigweed) then mowed lawn. First time in AGES. On Tuesday my legs were really sore from squatting and pushing so I gave my walk a miss, then worked Wed / Thu. My oldest kids go to their Dads this weekend so I will take opportunity to have some quality time with DH and Bubba. Might go walking later this arvo on the river bank with them.

Oh, BTW - update on promotion I applied for...... Didn't get it. Thats ok though cause it would have taken a lot of my time that I want to spend getting ready for study and I don't think I was ready to put the little one in care yet.

Gotta run. Banana cake in the oven needs to come out :drool: and I have 4 loads of washing to hang :faint:

Catch up with you all later

Vonni :goodvibes

Hey girls -

Things seem to be going well at home. My other sister and brother have been told, and mum got a new post box!

I have been feeling really really flat, I think I may have pushed myself a little far in the last couple of days. I got home yesterday, with just enough time to throw my uniform on and dash to work, followed by getting up at 5.30am to finish all the study/essays that should have been done on Thursday. I had another AIESEC presentation today too.

I went to the gym this arvo, did a kickboxing class followed by BodyBalance. That was great! So I got the best of both worlds - I could bash the crap outta something, then totally relax! :)

poor bf is still here too, amongst all of this. We had a fight on Wednesday, because I needed him to come home with me, but he said that he had to work instead. I was devastated by that - I would have dropped everything for him. ANYWAY - he had a change of heart, and was absolutly perfectly helpful, kind, understanding and supportive the entire time we were home. I don't underdstand men sometimes. :shrug:

Well, I am still on the go - best be off. Sounds like everyone is still movin' and shakin'. I do miss Ani though. *sigh*

Kylie

Where does everybody go on the weekend?:cry:

I'm here...lurking.

I've not been very good with the food intake these last few days. I am so hopeless at this whole thing. And with the food going out the window, I wonder what the point of exercise is! It's a nasty circle with me.

Why is it one day I can feel so motivated and determinded and the next I lose it all??

I can only try again tomorrow.

Arghh...another miserabe post from Lindor!

Sorry.



How are you going Vonni?

Lindor Lindor Lindor....... You've been so motivated and now????? Whats wrong? Be one better than Puffing Billy ----- not I think i can but I KNOW I CAN.

VONNI
ps... yeah doin ok. Let ya know monday after weigh in. lol

My foot is good at the moment, thanks! I've actually taken 2 complete rest days this week to give it a chance to recover. Apart from a night out on high heels on Friday, I've rested it (!).

I'm doing great, have actually had to force myself to eat the last few days as not hungry - it's great! Madly selling my old "fat" clothes on Ebay so I have no choice but to keep going down on the scales, or I'll have nothing to wear literally!

I'm having a better day today Vonni...so far! :)

I even had a massive cardio workout at 5:30 this morning!!! Hopefully that doesn't happen too often though, because waking up to the dogs and cat playing with a snake in my bedroom is NOT my idea of fun!!!

So much for an extra hours sleep after turning the clocks back last night!!! :mad:

I'll try and pop back tonight. Otherwise it'll be tomorrow AM with my weigh-in, which I am not imagining is going to be very positive.

Hope we are all having a great Sunday!!

Hello. Glad to see u had a better day Lindor. Haven't got much time this morning, lots to do, will post more tonight but now just thought to weigh in and share with u a very quick post.....

FINALLY

I lost I lost I lost :carrot:

Good luck with you all on your weigh ins.

VONNI

Morning all!

Well done on your loss Vonni! I am so pleased for you - I know what it is like to be stuck! How much did you drop?

Me, not so lucky, but what I deserve I guess! I am up 0.7kg this week. I was better with the food yesterday - ate within 1400cal, but I was too buggered (after the mornings events) to do any exercise and I managed only 1L of water.

But today, I am back into it! I learned last week that there is no room for bad days, so I must stick to my plan. I must eat what I set for myself each day for that 1400cal. I must not put off eating stuff, I must not change or add stuff. I did nearly three weeks of it before I stuffed up last week...I will do it again and I will last longer than three weeks!

Having said that...I know there will be an evening at the Chinese Restaurant this week!!!

I will worry about that when I know when. Today, I will just worry about today :lol:

Have a good one ladies!

Hopefully we will hear from Ani soon???

Just passing comp............. Lindor due to not walking, no water & comfort eating I have hovered between 72-73 for a few weeks. Once I slipped just a needle width under. But with George just gone y/day and having a touch of flu (unlike the norm, i eat heaps when have flu) I thought I wouldnt lose. I'm down to 71 now. And it's stayed put for 2 days (I cheated and weighed y/day also) Can't wait to slip under the 70 mark. Its been a long time coming.

Never mind bout yr little gain. Could be fluid retention all that water u drink :p U had been so meticulous in yr eating plan and water and exercise that I'm sure u can dust yrself off and get going again. I'm envious how dedicated u can be. At chinese eat a vege dish. They're usually less fatty with their sauce. Speaking of chinese... yum. Think I might have it thursday night.:eating2:

Yeah I wonder how Ani is doing? Probably busy busy unpacking. Hope her PC comes back safe from the Dr.

Kylie? How u doin mate? Hope yr ok.:hug:

Gotta run.............. AGAIN hehe Trying to have a rest while bub asleep. So :tired: due to parties up the road all weekend and kept awake till 4am with people wandering up n down street and loud music and yahoos from the party house.


VONNI

Good Morning!

How is everyone? Yay Vonni! well done! Lindor, I reckon just jump straight back on the wagon, mate. you'll get there :)

I seem to sabotage Sundays now. Last week was the beer and pizza episode, then yesterday, went to see a friends new house, and ended up staying for dinner. Well, she is an excellent cook, and it seemed a bit rude to turn my nose up at her cooking. So a big bowl of sausage pasta and chocolate pudding later....

Anyway, still happy to report a loss this week. :D

Hope to see Ani soon...it's quiet around here...too quiet!

Kylie

THANKS kYLIE.... Hey guys I discovered a snack for a chocolate fix and feels good thats low in calories (well relatively low.... ) HOME ICE CREAM ELDORADO bar is only 135cal. half of a kit kat or pkt of twisties.

Home Icecream? Are they the people that roll around ringing the bell? Is it expensive?

Kylie

Yep they r. And that bell is pretty loud. They are about $7 a box of six but its cheaper than individual ice creams from shop. Also are very rich in flavour and u wouldnt have one every day.

Cheers'
Vonni