well i guess y'all are right about the scale, but it's such a temptation when i see it just to check and see what it will say. i only weigh at the gym, so i thought that would be ok, but now i notice i avoid the gym when i have had a lot of coffee because i know that makes me weigh more, and i don't want to get myself thinking i have gained (when it IS just water, just as melra says) grr. so now i am avoiding something that helps me lose b/c i am afraid of thinking i gained. :tantrum: (bangs head) what is wrong with me?!? my neighbor said yesterday that folks in california are obsessed with how they look, and seem dumb too (she's from iowa, so she doesn't get the whole thing of saying "like, and whatever"). maybe that is my problem. obsessed with my weight, but kinda dumb :?:
y'all are right. we should just weigh in less. i have enough stress to deal with without having to give up coffee b/c it confuses the scale. then i would really go crazy.
melissa, your idea of cleaning to deal with cravings is right on. i do that, and it really works. i also just leave the house, because eating out is unhealthy and expensive (but healthy things at home tempt me, because they ARE healthy... but i'm not hungry, so why eat?)

Hi all! I cheated a bit last night by having ice cream though I still managed to come in under calories somehow. I wish my husband would just stay away from the grocery store altogether if he's going to bring that home--it's not even lite!

I didn't get as much strength training last night as I wanted to--I got a rare and strong case of insecurity while working out. I just felt like everyone was staring at me and I was so red faced and sweaty...I just wanted to get out of there. Stupid, I know. First time it's happened in a long time. I still got 25min of high intensity cardio and 25 min weights, so I'm happy for that.

Michelle~I did Billy Blanks about 5-6 years ago and it kicked my butt! It would be neat to see what it does to me now that I feel my endurance has improved.

I'm nervous AGAIN about WI tomorrow--this time I doubt I see a loss.

Ok it seems many of us are feeling the same way about the scale ect so here is what I am proposing. We check in by email the first of the month. We can post losses ect just like we do now on the board and also reflect it in our ticker if we are inclined or just not get on the scale except for the first of the month. That way those who are avoiding it, won't feel pressured and those of us who are compulsive about it can try and get a grip on it. Let me know what your thoughts and feelings are about it.
Melissa

Good idea Melissa.
Laura

I woke up hurting this a.m. Sore and achy.. I don't want to feel this way and I realized that I have been slacking in the exercise Dept. and when I stepped up the exercising I am sore. So again like no drinking sodas, no white bread no "trigger foods" I can't let up on the exercising. Just need to keep the routine going or else I am miserable and grumpy :lol:

I also realized I've only lost 1-2 pounds this month and there's only about 2-
2 &1/2 weeks in Sept. And I am going what is wrong with me?? I can do this!!! I am just being flat out lazy and making excuses again. :mad: at myself now and joining cadwell in banging head against wall. so i am gonna step up to what needs to be done. That's all !! no more reasons why I CAN'T, no more whining, no more excuses. sorry I needed to vent-
Oh my FIL was a hoot last night- he fussed at everyone about them making me feel guilty about the buffet and said we will go somewhere else- none of us need a buffet either .. it was great!
We've been invited to a fish fry too but I turned down the invite- fried fish, fries, coleslaw and hush puppies are not good for you in anyway shape or form. Hubby isn't happy because he wants to go but --oh well-- I am working too hard to blow it on one night, plus all that grease would kill my liver
Melissa- I like the idea- sounds good to me. I hate the scale as I do know it's not always accurate or consistent. I mean how can a person gain 4 pounds in 2 days?? and then there's panic over "I need to starve so I can weigh in at a loss." arrgh :crazy: there's no winning when it comes to a scale and a WI..
Have a great day all !!

Sandi, why doesn't your hubby go to the fish fry without you, since he really doesn't want to miss it? I do that with my hubby all the time, though he prefers me to go with him EVERYWHERE. But, when I really don't want to go, he has no problem going alone if he doesn't want to miss something.

I think Melissa's idea to do the WI email the first of the month is a great idea. we still have the board to do the tickers and yell out gains and losses as we feel necessary. I am going to start weighing in on Mondays because it's just better for me, first of the week and all.

Theresa

Hey! I noticed something today at lunch: I don't have a double chin anymore! And I can feel little hollows under my cheekbones! I must have lost that last pound from my face! lol! :lol: I hope that weight loss goes down to my neck next then, so it will be long and slender...well, slender anyway.

Took kids to library today and picked up a copy of Body for LIfe. The opening chapter is written by a guy who did the 12 week program and lost over 50 lbs and has kept it off for years. I felt so motivated by him, so I thought I'd share a few quotes from his little piece:

"You're not living at 260 pounds. You're dying."

"I was finally fed up with being fed all the time. Just fed, fed, fed."

"I craved going the entire 12 weeks way more than I craved a piece of key lime pie or a beer."

"I was going to make it through those 12 weeks, or they were going to find me dead in the gym."

"You look in th emirror and it's like meeting an old friend you really liked a lot but haven't seen for quite a while." (Talking about after he lost weight)

"I know bad habits wait on us forever. They don't ever go away. They will always be there, just around the corner, lurking and looking for an opening."

"If a 49 year old guy like me, who works in a bar, who is around almost everything you can think of that is detrimental to good health--if I can do it, anyone can do it."

"Don't wait until you have a heart attack before you remember you have a body!"

That last one just sticks out to me. I'm going to hang it on the fridge!

Hope you guys get as much out of this as I did.

Theresa

Melra, losing the double chin is a GREAT achievement! Great motivation as well, I bet. I can't wait to lose mine.

Theresa

Theresa, I picked up body for life weeks ago and thought it was great for motivation but I felt I couldn't stick to it.it's hard to eat 6 small meals a day when you work where I do. if they have the video it's really great to check out too. there's a mod on this site who has lost so much doing bfl and she is awesome.She is so smart about eating and has really great tips on weight loss- lots of common sense. I said earlier I think I can become a weight lifting junkie - I just like it lots. But that would be a good habit to get into- especially if they say to replace one bad habit with a good habit. Thank you for posting those motivational thoughts- they are all so true! I also like denise austin's books she alwasy make sense- exercise & make better food choices.

the fish fry is being given by the sr. adult group from where I work. I get alot of invites cause I am on staff. (holidays/ Christmas is bad- I get too many invites and I've already told everyone who mentions something taht I'll bring the veggie platter/salads) I told hubby we'd get some mahi and he could grill it this weekend - he was all happy about that. he fancies himself a grill master
(grilling is man's work)

Great job on double chin gone! I want my round face to go AWAY! my waist seems to be losing it faster than other places- I've lost 4 &1/2 inches off my waist and 2 inches off my hips.
I am off to go peddle the bike and do some lower body stuff- most hated but effective is my kind of squats- take a kitchen chair and ALMOST touch your butt to the chair ( like you are going to sit down) but stop right before your butt hits the edge of the chair-arms out in front and it's a killer. But I do it cause i want my bottom to get smaller...
Have a great night everyone!

Sandi, those chair squats really get the rear end burning :o i do squats in my lower body workout dvd, but actually going over the chair is a lot better, thanks for the suggestion. I haven't gotten into the actual eating suggestions in BFL yet, just got through the opening stuff where others share their stories....so amazingly motivating! I have been eating 5 small meals a day, just started that last week and realized it works well for me. So, if this program is 6 I might actually try it. I was just looking for some motivation and this definitely is packed with tons of that! As for the program, have to wait until I read what it is exactly. Right now I am at the page where you ask yourself all the deep questions and find your real reasons for doing this to begin with. Made me cry answering the questions :cry: but that's good for me, been doing all the emotional stuff lately and it's helping me not to have cravings...finally!

Theresa

Today was the worst. I weighed myself as I knew I shouldn't. I lost 2 pounds in 2 weeks/ I was crazy upset and started to eat cause I felt totally hopeless, which I know is irrational, but I thought I deserved more cause I've been so OP almost totally. so I've probably had 4000 calories. Now I will stop.
I am not going near the scale till Oct 1. It's just too awful.
I know better than to care about a stupid number, but I just fell apart.
Laura

Laura I know it's so hard not to get upset over those things but just let it go. Don't beat yourself up over the extra calories. Just pick youself back up and get back at it. You can beat this as long as you don't give up. 2 pounds in 2 weeks is not bad at all. I remember shortly after I started losing weight when I went over 3 weeks with NO loss at all, and I had not had even one indiscretion during that time. I was so down about it for so many days and then boom....6 pounds down in 2 days. Now I know I did NOT lose 6 pounds in 2 days. I weighed myself at least once a day at that time and for some reason my losses just didn't register and then it happened all at once. Just be patient and don't give up even when there is a roadbump. You can do this!

I've not been keeping up with things here and I am missing so much. With going back to work full time and my son's football games 2 nights a week, my daughter's llama club at least once a week...I feel like I just don't have any time to myself anymore. On weekends we've been trying to do family things because we have so little time for each other during the week. Our last llama show is this coming Sunday (also my daughter's 13th b-day!), but we still have football to deal with until the end of October. I am enjoying it all but I do get worn out! One thing I have not sacrificed is my daily exercise. I walk at least an hour a day at the school and most days I try to do something else when I get home, too.

My weekly weigh in is Sunday and I was able to move the ticker another 3 down! I am so excited to be in the 150's!! It's been years since I've been here! For some reason I was just HUNGRY this week so I was surprised w/the 3 lb. loss. No bad cravings...just hungry, and when I'm hungry I eat and don't beat myself up about it, I just made careful choices (low calorie and high fiber to fill me up without bulking me up). So I am extremely happy with the loss.

Somebody had posted something about people trying to guilt a healthy eater into eating things they don't want. The people who did that to me were the same ones that complain that they "just can't lose weight no matter what they do". One person in particular did this to me all the time. I finally got tired of listening to it and pointed out to her that her refusal to give anything up was the reason that she "just couldn't lose any weight no matter what she does". At first she got defensive and said that, well, SHE didn't want to have to live like I have been...eating healthy food and exercising all the time! I told her that was fine but leave me alone about my choices. She quit hounding me about things then (this happened a couple months ago already), and just lately within the last couple of weeks she has started eating better and walking occasionally and lo and behold she has lost a few pounds! So...you are right...stick to your guns and you will be doing yourself a big favor, and even though they may act annoyed with you and try to make you feel guilty...they are paying attention!

Well sorry for the long post and sorry I couldn't respond to everybody. I miss checking in every day and I'm always so psyched when I have a few minutes to catch up on the reading and post something. Hope everybody is having a happy AND healthy Tuesday evening!!

Don't beat yourself up-the actual healthy weight loss per week is one to two pounds so really you are doing it the right way. It is hard not to focus on the numbers instead of doing what is right and healthy for a long good life without diabetes, arthritis, heart problems and all the other things that go along with being overweight. I think if the scale causes this much anxiety, you made the right decision to stay away from it and just go once a month. Chances are it will be a bigger number too and give you a sense of accomplishment when all is said and done. I think too I am going to try and stay away for a week (biggy for me) and see how I feel about it. I get hung up on the numbers way too much myself. I am just so desperate to get under 200 that is all I seem to focus on and then when I have an emotional upheaval like I did this week and eat too much, I then get sad about it and hopeless feeling and then have to go through the task of relosing again what I had lost before. Viscious circle I tell ya. The thing to remember is you made the right choice to stop and you got back up on that horse again.
Melissa

Caldwell - I am having the same issues with the scale yo-yoing all over the place - I have met, unmet and remet my goal I think 8 times since 8/25! :p It's ridiculous! But I don't let it get me down - i look at the total I've lost and am happy to be chugging along!!

I do weigh everyday sometimes 2x a day :devil: so if we decide to keep it at once a week - maybe we should try to curb the scale obsession as one of our goals for next month! I can adjust to 1x a month is that is what the majority would like to try!

As far as people judging you for making choices about eating out, etc. - It's YOUR choice not theirs you have to do what you feel is right for you - glad your FIL was able to joke about it after.

LauraB - your doing great! 2lbs in 2 weeks is right on target for a healthy loss!
Keep up the great work everyone!!!!