Trina - what a hard time for you!! What a tragedy. Thank you for sharing that with us.

Holly - Geez, it was alittle personal - sorry. However, to bring this back to topic, Dave was a biker guy, we had a Truimph in 1969 and he taught me to ride in 70 when we moved to Phoenix. I always tell my DH now that if he would have known Dave they would have been good friends. To DHs credit, if doesn't bother him at all when myself or the boys talk about Dave and for that I am so happy.
The weather here is nice - 55 today -wish the bikes were here........
We are closing on our house today at 11:30 so I will be doing some real work here for now. Maybe I will check in this afternoon.

good morning Trina, good luck with the closing, and hope you get to ride sometime soon!

I "only" did about 50 miles yesterday, it was cooler in the wind than I expected but sure felt great. Even though I tried so hard to avoid all wet spots, I was still a mess from the knees down and I had spent time cleaning my leathers and boot before riding! Oh well, sure is worth it!

Holly - Thank God for leather! Clean before the ride, clean after the ride.....lol

Good morning chickies!!

Trina- Thanks for sharing your story and that's wonderful that your husband is so understanding! Good luck on the closing and enjoy the nice weather today.

Holly- Wow! You're hardcore to do 50 miles in chilly wind conditions! My dh is very much a fair weather rider and if it looks like rain or seems a little cool, he wont ride. I don't love riding in the rain, but I can handle it if need be. Even with the mess and muck it sounds like you had a great time!

Tomorrow we need to have the shocks adjusted on the bike b/c Sunday is the rally in the town an hour away (Cassoday). We are planning on going this weekend, but I guess we'll see what the weather has in mind. Dh hasnt heard any more from his coworker about the saddlebags, so we went to a store and found some brand new for only $150. They aren't Harley or anything, but we don't really care. So, I think that will be the next purchase. He also found this cool thing, I believe its called a wind sock...kind of like a strechier type of do rag. The advantage is it wont slip off as much or raise up. It's really pretty cool. We saw that at the HD dealer. Well, I will check back later!

Much love!

Hey Chicks!

I just wanted to peek and say Hi so you don't think that I ditched all of you.

I didn't mean to dissapear, but I have been very busy the last few weeks. I have tried to keep up with all of you, but haven't had hardly any time to post anything anywhere.

My mom was admitted to the hospital with pneumonia on March 15 and was in the hospital for 5 days. Thank goodness the hospital was only a mile from my house. However, I would work at one hospital all day and leave and go spend most of my evening with her there.

I signed up to coach my daughter's softball team and I had to start practices last week.

I ended up sick myself last week. I think was rundown from all of the stress the week before.

This week, I have had to be somewhere every single night. I am only home tonight because I cancelled practice due to the wind and rain.

I have lost my motivation for my diet since my mom was put in the hospital. The exercise from softball has helped to keep it off, but I haven't lost anything in the last few weeks. Easter was a killer.

I was so bummed yesterday. I wanted to go riding so very badly. It was such a beautiful day. Looks like the weather is going to be back in the toilet for a few days.

I am glad to see that you are all doing well. WTG on the move Trina. Where are you moving to?

Andrea, I hope you enjoyed the slipknot concert. My son loves slipknot. I told him that you were going and he said to tell you that he is jealous (he's 13). I hope that everything works out well for your hubby and his job.

Here's to hoping that spring comes soon. I am so ready to go riding!!!

p.s. Holly, you are my biking hero!!!!!!

Hello Dondita!!

So very sorry to hear of your mom's pneumonia! Is she on the mend now? You had a VERY full schedule to deal with!! and good for you to volunteer to coach also, you're a good soul

I'm so lucky that our weather co-operated so I could ride two days in a row, without freezing I was even able to just go with leathers, instead of the bulky Joe Rocket stuff. The sun on leathers...mmmm, WARM! nice!

Now we're back to grey and cool...and alot of rain is coming on Saturday, but I don't mind that at all. It will get rid of more snow, and wash more dust away.

Now, I NEED to vent something about my husband. I've been married 25 years, and I still don't have any answers to marriage!!!

I had a spat with the husband last night - tell me if you think I overreacted. I had supper ready (he usually cooks, though) but he was delayed due to a rescue squad call. I waited as long as I could, but ate without him, I was hungry. So when he came home, I showed him what was for dinner, then sat at my place at the table. I was going to sit with him while he ate. After I told him I already ate, he said, "then what are you hanging around for?" He SAYS he said it with a smile, and in a joking way, but I did not see either of that. I just thought it was a stupid, mean thing to say. I got up and sat on the couch and read for the rest of the evening.

This morning, he's trying to act like nothing's wrong. When he said good bye to go to work, I said, "well, have a nice day...but I could say, have a rotten day, haha, just joking." He says he's sorry that I took it the wrong way. That's how it is with him; never a true apology. He doesn't think he did anything wrong, so no admission of wrong from him. As he leaves, he said "well I'm sorry you didn't think it was funny." "Yeah, me too" I said.

It just sems that when I think things are OK between us, they aren't. And when something like this happens, I think of all the things that don't make me happy, and wonder how things could be different.

thanks for listening, sorry for being such a drag.

p.s. Does anyone watch the Simpsons? I think of Marge, what she does when she's angry at Homer. She writes everything down that she doesn't like about him on a piece of paper, then shreds it into his dinner

Hi Dondita - Welcome back, sounds like your plate runneth over......take it easy on yourself. I have noticed with the packing for the move, I'm in burnout too. I hope to get back with the program on Monday. We are moving to Washington Twp, only 15 minutes away from our house. We are downsizing and it was really tough finding an apartment with a garage. Matter of fact there are only three complexes in this whole area with garages and one of those don't allow motorcycles at all. In 3-5 years we will be moving up north to Sand Lake, we have a place up there.

Holly - I know this isn't the right answer but. I have noticed that my second marriage is much better than my first. I think it is becuz in 26 years I learned everything that made me happy and everything that made me sad. So with the second husband I looked for many different things. I also have noticed that I handle things very differently and part of that is due to the fact that I know you can lose that jerk of a husband in a flash. After he's gone, you would think of everything you would have done differently -that's what I'm doing with my second chance. Men just think completely opposite than we do and let's agree they can be total jerks......being of the smarter sex - we have to deal with them, usually with kid gloves - they know no better......
Let me add, when my DH says something and then add's "I'm just kidding" Well I have learned that he isn't kidding and he really means what he said. He just thinks the "I'm just kidding" let's him get away with it.....and I'm not saying it is even usually directed at me, it's just in general....
later.

Note- I didn't mean to say "I have noticed that my second marriage is much better than my first." That was a bad statement. I met to say it is just different, sorry!

Morning ladies!

Dondita- Sorry to hear about your mom, I hope she is getting stronger each day. You sound so busy and I'm sure stressed with your mom's illness...don't be so hard on yourself diet-wise. It's been a bad week of dieting!

Holly- I know what you mean about men, they really are so different from us. I don't understand when they do or say something hurtful they think we're too sensitive. If the tables were turned and you said it to him...he probably wouldn't like it either. My husband is pretty nice when he has a problem with me, but he has his days when he's just kinda complainy, crabby, and negative. Maybe that's what your hubby's deal was. He may have had a rotten day. It's not right to be treated that way, but he may have just been grouchy. Sometimes my dh will say that I'm negative ( which I really am not)and it really bothers me all evening...yet he can be such a complainy little whiner. So after that I will be quiet with him and he never thinks that his comment was so bad. I just don't think that they think through things before they say it. They tend to just blurt!

I also agree with Trina with the "Just kidding" remark...it's an easy out for them to say.

I would talk to him. Ask if he had a bad day and just explain that you wanted to hang out with him while he ate. You may even tell that if that bothers him...you'll do something else while he eats. On the same point, if he has to work late, you shouldn't have to wait to eat.

Trina- I can see how a person "grows" from each relationship and how different each is. Also, I would think that your love in each relationship is different, too.

Good for you to get 2 riding days in a row. I still haven't been on the back of ours yet this year! I guess I have to wait until Sunday...it supposed to be 75 degrees!

Dh really wants to give South Beach a try again. He said that it was more of a plan that he can stick to and he likes having a formal plan to be on. So, we're going to try again Monday. I have meals bought, planned out, and we've discussed everything. He loves candy, so that is the hardest thing for him. We'll give it a shot, though!

Andrea - Hi Biker Chick....
Hey, I just wanted to let you know what a guy calls a passenger on a bike.
I know this cuz my guy biker friend told me after I mentioned to him I like to ride on the back of DH's bike, just as much as riding my own.
He says "So you like to *****-ride"..........I thought that was funny.....plus he couldn't understand why anyone would rather ride passenger than ride their own....
On another note, you seem to have a fairly good handle on DH for being a almost newly wed....

Yeah, Trina my hubby uses that expression. Not toward me! But when I told him he could sit as passenger on my bike...he laughed and said, "I'm not riding on the ***** seat" I think that's funny.

Have you ever seen that shirt some guys wear..."If you can read this the ***** fell off." ??

About the marriage/hubby handle...it's amazing what you learn about your spouse and yourself in a marriage. Always a work in progress. More like an investment!

Dh took me to lunch today and he was planning on going to Wichita (about 30 mins from here) on the bike to have the shocks adjusted. It may be a chilly, windy ride. That lucky-butt took the day off today!

That's too funny Holly! My brother's answer to someone ticking him off..."Pee in their coffee cup!" He's an odd boy!