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Lynne, :grouphug: well, sweetie, it's all a mindset. For me, it's not really so much about "motivation" as it's about remaining conscious about how I'm taking care of myself and making choices based on what I really value on a deeper, more permanent level. During the day, it just comes back to, "Who do I want to be? A fat, wistful, unhealthy person? Or a vibrant, active, fully engaged healthy person who's improving her life?" When I think in those terms, it makes every choice simple. It may sound melodramatic or overblown, but really, that's how I've made it this far.
Each of our days is full of choices, and I believe that those choices reflect who we are, not who we want to be. And sometimes you're not yet at the point of being who you want to be, so you have to ask yourself, "What would I do if I were the fully realized me that I want to be?" And then you know what you must do. It's not really about motivation for me, it's much deeper than that. It's about readiness, and willingness, and valuing myself enough to let myself be who I want to be. I went through a very painful and self-destructive period -- I lost my way and sort of left myself. And I'm now working hard to get myself back to full presence in this world, full presence in my own life. Every choice counts. None is permanent, but they're all important. So it's about that for me......it's heavy, and it's deep, and it's life affirming and it's real. If ever you need anything, Lynne, I'm here for you. I wish peace for you as well. :goodvibes |
Sarah,
you are so inspiring. ;) thank you. I also feel the same way, except I feel "not my true self". I know I have alot of baggage in my life now and I am working on that, especially use the "stuff" as excuses. I am/ have been and extremely strong person and have overcome alot. But feel stuck right now. I do agree with you that none of it is permanent, it is just a matter of working through it and being who I want to be. :cool: :cool: I am so glad to be back. Have a good night to all of you' Love you guys. thanks |
Good Day To All...
Good Morning, close to noon actually.
What a beautiful day here on the east coast. I love the sunshine. Well I am so proud of my son today. He has his first football game tomorrow night (30 miles away). Therefore, the many teams in our town always wear there football jerseys to school on Fridays before a big game. Well my son put his on and took it off I asked him why he was not wearing his football shirt, his response, it is took big without equipment and if feels funny. My response, but everyone else is going to wear theirs (I could have hit myself). His reponse, soooooo I don't want to wear mine, I don't have to do what everyone else is doing. Is just might not be a follower..... yea, bravo. And he did not even care or get upset when we pulled up to the schoolyard and everyone had their jerseys on. he is so awesome. As for me well I am in such a good mood, I love being back to logging in. |
Hello, my friends!
:wave: How is everyone? Did another mile last night. I woke up late this morning :eek: so I didn't have time to walk -- but I'll make up for it tonight, I promise! Here's the exercise plan for tonight and the weekend:
Tonight: 2 miles WATP; weight training - upper body Saturday: 20 minutes HIIT biking; 1 mile WATP Sunday: 2 miles WATP with hand weights; weight training - lower body Monday: 1 mile WATP in AM; 2 miles in PM I'm still Countess Crampula :s: and I can honestly say that I have definitely felt better in my life. This one has been a killer. Interminable, painful, and annoying. But this too shall pass, no? An aside here -- In my experience the only real downside to being a lesbian (aside from the legal and social inequalities....but that's a rant for another day) is that you invariably end up getting your period together. So here's my imitation of Lorraine and Sarah last night: S: "God, my cramps hurt." L: "Mine do too." S: "I'm in some pain." L: "Well, I am too. A LOT of pain." S: "I know, honey, but I'm just saying that I really hurt right now." L: "Well I don't know what to say...this is the worst f*ing period I've ever had." S: "Same here!" L: "No, I REALLY hurt." S: "So do I!" L: "I'm talking about MY pain!" S: *sigh* L: *mope* Louie, the dog: *sigh* 7 cats: *sit and stare resentfully, occasionally blinking their disdain for our stupidity* Now isn't that conversation just so annoying on so many levels?? It's really just adds insult to injury to be that annoying while in so much pain, don't you think? Crazy hormones and feminine sensibilities TIMES TWO! Or, PMS squared! :crazy: How's Gen? Summer, how the heck are you? Lynne, congrat's on the independently thinking boy! Candra? Anyone else got any exercise planned? |
WHEW! I just SO hate this period! I'm sorry to keep going on about it, you guys, but it's just kicking my ***! :( I ended up walking only a mile :( -- I'm actually proud of myself for doing anything at all, to be honest. I'm thinking this has GOT to be better tomorrow....
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Where are Summer and Gen????
Hello, hello!
Where the heck is everybody??? Did I miss a memo? Alright, well, here's another little update from me: I did the 2-mile WATP workout this morning, and just now did a 20-minute interval resistance workout on my exercise bike, going 5 miles. It simulates CRAZY hills at maximum resistance, and it really was a good little workout! I'm still planning on doing an upper body weights workout later today. We're going out with friends to the Olive Garden tonight (my first time going there - I'm a little frightened :lol: ) and I intend to retain some semblance of control, but still will allow myself a little leeway......so maybe I'm attempting to be proactive in easing my conscience! ;) How's everybody else doing? C'mon, put me out of my misery and throw me a bone, ok? |
hey all! i had to sleep at my mom's one night and have gotten home late last night so i went for sleep. sometimes on friday nights i go over to my friends and we have a fun evening. i had a run planned for this morning and had to get up 8 so i decided that i had to leave at around 12 last night and not drink. and that's what i did. crazy stuff. well this morning i had the best run so far. i was faster than ever which is amazing, i wasn't slogging along i was actually running woohoo. our marathon buddy was doing walk today because she has a marathon tomorrow and she said we looked great, good form and all that, so i was soooo happy. after doing 2 sets of ten and one my step mom took off to get her own workout (i'm still a little slow for her but she is kind enough to hold back and pace me). i just can't sustain yet without her so instead of running the last 15 by myself i did sprints. i love doing the sprints. it's fun to run fast (what is fast for me :lol: ) this week i did tues: legs wed: off thurs: back and bis fri: calves and shoulders so next weeks plan is: mon: chest and tris tues: legs wed:back and bis thurs: shoulders and calves fri: chest and tris that is if we go all five days. i don't think we've managed that yet. i've added the upright bike to my cardio. i hadn't done it yet so i didn't know where to start. i started at level 3, hills. to easy. yesterday i did level 4, hills, too easy. i maintain my rpms at 90+ with a 100+sprint (about 3 mins) at the end. next: level 5 ;) my sis calls me everyday at work and says "so are we working out today?" there is always a time during the day i have this little hope she'll call and say she can't make it. i still can't seem to go without her. friday when she called i said "but i'm so tired and my sweats are in the dryer (i do my laundry at work)" so she said" but isn't that the plan?" ok ok so we went (after the sweats were dry) the truth still holds: you never regret a workout. apparently a switch turns on at some point where those thoughts don't come anymore. that's actually funny sarah, from where i'm sitting, out of the line of fire. could i have a little validation here PLEASE! hey if there was a group of replublican lesbians would their slogan be "lesbians for bush" :lol: i just thought of that but i have the feeling it must have occured to someone else before. i'm still laughing though, excuse me. what brand of bike do you have? the Y has lifecycles. so you do the max resistance? that's amazing. i'm such a chickenshit for moving up levels so slowly. i can rationalize anything :o lynne, you son is so great. isn't it amazing the crap that comes out of our mouthes sometimes??? :p i don't have kids of my own but i have a neice and nephews and work at a daycare. sometimes i think "what did i just say??? cringe" what i think is so funny is the way we are supposed to teach kids to think independently and be creative and then get upset when they don't do what they are supposed to and join the group. kids must think adults are all crazy!!! if you are having problems getting your exercise in maybe you could sit down and make a plan for the week. it's a commitment you make with yourself (which can be so hard, admittingly). an appointment you wouldn't break just like an appointment with your boss, client, dentist, child's teacher. you get the idea. you don't even have to do a whole hour (for example) at a time. 20 mins here and there. like 20 minute walk before work, 20 minutes weights before supper, 20 minutes yoga after son goes to bed. something like that. on the weekend, (just as an example, i don't really know if it is realistic for you) your son could ride his bike and you could jog beside him. i really liked your idea of jogging during his football practice. grade 3 and playing football, how cute is that. when you first said your son plays football i thought he was a teenager :) . so how was your week summer? candra? (maybe candra is gone for good?) happy weekend all gen |
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Hey lovely ladies!
I am here - crazy busy but I am not gettin notified by e-mail of people posting :mad: . So I thought it strange and came here and checked it out - I'VE MISSED ALOT! Sorry. :?: I'll be more dilligent and throw more bones ;) . I have not been doing well on my exercise. Right now it consists of walking the dog at least 5000 steps or 1.5 miles 5 days a week weather permitting, 1 day 90 minute Yoga session, 3 days a week of pilates for 25 minutes. I need to find something I look forward to...:shrug: Frankly not a good :censored: time of year for me. As Sarah said...and this too shall pass....I hope.... Sarah your vibrant aura comes through. It smiles to see when you post. Keep the exercise up and through your period that is giving you such grief...:cheers: Gen way to go with the running! I find that amazing! My motto was always "I will only run if it is after a ball or away from a guy" I like an endpoint in sight plus I had breast reduction in December and before that the boobs were huge for a 5'2" frame (like an E or an F) - that it was comedic :lol3: just watching me run - three bras and all. Lynne what a son you have! I like the individualistic nature! Being a mother is the hardest job on earth and sounds like he is wonderful! I am sure, even with small steps, that you are inspiring him with exercise and your effort to make a positive change for yourself. Thank you all for your support. I really do cherish it - especially today. Quote: Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined. - Henry David Thoreau be well. live well. love well. ;) Summer ;) |
Well, today was really busy, but I did manage to get in a mile walk. yea, I am hoping to continue that. Gen I think it is a great idea to plan exercise, like an appointment. Which is what I am going to do tomorrow. After hockey practice, (my son's) I am going to sit with my planner and schedule myself some time.
Well the last guests left tonight at 9pm, ahhhhhhhhh, :) I am really tired so I am going to make this short, plus I have to get up early. Thanks everyone, I will logg in soon. |
Hello!
Hey you guys! Just a quick update to say that I'm working my *** off but have nary a pound lost! It's all good, I'm not worried about it.....but I'd sure love to see it change! I'm still doing the walking DVD's, and the HIIT biking, and this weekend I did a full body weights workout. Now I don't want to hear a WORD about having put on MUSCLE, because, while I'm sure I have strengthened somewhat, it takes a lot longer than a week to put on pounds of muscle. Now, water retention within the muscles -- THIS is a possible explanation. They say that with increased use/strain, the muscles expand and retain more water -- Gen, have you ever heard that expression, "Don't weigh after legs day?" I have....you know, the quads being so large, etc. *sigh* Well, it is what it is, you know? Or maybe I'm not consuming enough calories? Here are my numbers, according to DietPower:
YTD (since March 1): 1476 QTD: 1386 MTD: 1358 Last week: 1354 All input is welcome. Obviously I'm going to keep going with the exercise. That's a given. But lower the calories? Up them? Keep them steady and ride it out? Bleh. Summer, great to hear your sunny voice! I love it when you post! I say invest in an exercise bike and do HIIT biking in the mornings (or whenever) -- you can burn some serious calories in 20 minutes....many, many more than with walking or yoga or pilates -- none of which have as profound an impact on your metabolism. Just an FYI. Gen, you seriously make me laugh, girlfriend! And um, lesbians liking bush is not so noteworthy -- but lesbians liking Bush, well that's enough to get someone to lose their card!! (Bush doesn't really love the lesbians very much either, so I guess it's a case of mutual contempt....) I'll stop now in case I'm stepping on any toes! :) Lynne, I find that I absolutely HAVE to schedule the exercise, just as I have to plan my meals and prepare them beforehand. I am all about setting myself up for success! Let us know how it goes! Gretchen, welcome back! Hope to see you here soon! Ta, my friends -- I seriously love you guys.... :love: :love: :love: :love: |
hello ladies, good to hear all's well. i went to the gym today. chest and tris. ouch. they got a new machine with a counter wheight so you can do pull up and dips without having to haul your own weight. very cool, very fun. now i keep thinking about how good ski season will be since i'll be stronger and fitter. the first year i did well but last year my skiing abilities regressed so i'm hopeful for this year. every year we go for a week end to white face in lake placid and we rent a cabin, ski two days, drink, eat and have blast. last year a friend came who invited herself (which was not a good thing) and it created a some tension (she's not the easiest going person around). now i thnk she will want to come every year. funny thing: this year she asked another friend why she didn't come and the second friend said because she wasn't invited and the first friend said oh you don't have to be, just invite yourself. i didn't know if i should laugh or cry so i laughed. i may be crying this winter though :lol: so do you want to hear a sweet story re skiing? yes? ok i didn't own any ski equipement and renting can get quite expensive so my dad said he would buy me boots for xmas. then my sis and her husband bought my poles. then they decided what the heck they's buy me some skis too, good second hand ones for about $200, they figured they could afford that. so that was so nice right, i was so touched and happy. i got the boots and skis and off we went for my first ski day of the season. well i got up lift and tried to ski and my boots hurt so much i was in tears and couldn't ski at all. so i decided to sit it out, so that i could return the boots without them getting used. now when we left the hill and went to pack up the car: my skis were gone, stolen! so now besides being pissed about the skis my brother law is not too happy because either he has just spent $200 for nothing or he spends $400 total but for worst skis since there aren't any more second hand skis left that late in the season and he can't really afford that anyway. so we bring the boots back and get a credit note since we didn't have time to try on boots that night but would come back later. now we cut away to a couple of weeks later a few days after my brother's birthday and i'm at my sister's house. so my brother and his wife and son show up. they come in and my brother brings out a box with ski boots in it. and i say "oh you got ski boots i thought you were only going to snow board from now on" well they were for me, and then my brother in law brings out a new pair of skis. for me! turns out my brother told everyone not to buy him a birthday present but to put the money towards a new pair of skis for me instead!!! isn't that wonderful? well that was a long story but a good one no? sarah, i know a week of not losing is not going to get you down. it will probably just make you more determined. i heard that about the legs in the lwl forum i think. i'll remember that, although i usually weigh in on mondays and don't go to the gym on sundays. i think i need to work on my diet, still. i know what to do, all the theory and stuff. just need to do it. i think i eat too much supper even though it's not really bad stuff. and we will be doing more cardio and make our weight training routines more time efficient so that we aren't at the gym all night. i think that should help melt some fat away. ince i've started exercising my period has gotten weird (more often :mad: ) do you ususally have week and a half periods??? cause that's a long time to be cranky :p really it's enough to make anybody cranky. i got a new pair of running shoes since my old one finally bit the dust on saturday. i was looking for a pair of lightweight sweatpants and didn't really feel like paying over 70$ for them (that was the lowest price i tried on at the workout clothes store) i found a wonderful pair of cotton one at american apparel. they just opened a bunch of stores here this summer. their clothes are all cotton, not made in sweatshops (the company claims to be big on social conscious stuff) and so soft and comfy. nice colours too. if you have one close to you i highly recommned it. lynne, yeah on the last guest! i'm sure you love them but it must feel good to your place back for yourself, and you son of course. i think scheduling is a good idea. i used to make plans to go to the gym but if something came up i wouldn't go. now i say "i can go to the bar, i'll meet you after i finish at the gym" oh yes it's usually the bar :lol: tomorrow the world cup hockey final is on (canad vs. finland) i don't want exercise to completely take over my life so i don't go 7 days a week and there is some flexibility but generally i treat it like going to work, it's just part of my day. let us know what you figured out. summer, when i run there is an end point. either distance (i'll run around up here, around there and back) or time (i'll run for 20 minutes) and bike riding is good too. i really like it and will miss it when it snows (did someone just say snow, slap slap) it's better outdoors but that's hard in the winter. so an indoor bike is good too. did you consider going to a gym? what is your feeling on that? i don't remember you anser (sorry) but i must have asked you before if you jog with fenway? and if not why not? just asking :) is this the longest post i've ever written? cause i could go on you know allright allright good night ladies, take care gen |
i'm back! ok sarah, i don't know about the calories. are you hungry? do you feel weak? what does you scale say? don't you have one of fat% scales? are you losing any muscle mass? if not your cals may be ok. why don't you give it another couple of weeks or so. one week doesn't really mean much i think. gen |
just a quick note....
I am really tired, so this will be short and sweet. Anyway, Hi to everyone, it sounds like everyone is doing a great job, thanks again for all the support. I have to let you all know that the past 2 days have been great. I have been OP (WW, on points) for 2 days, drank my water, and walked a mile yesterday and 1.5 today. Doing well agrees with me, one of my boss' friends (excuse my language) asked me if I was getting laid. She said I looked way too happy. :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: I like being way too happy. :D
I am going to try resistance tubes tomorrow (I say try, my right arm and shoulder are seriously shot). I will take it slow and hopefully get back to full time weight lifting, I miss the burn. I also use to have big calfs and thighs, now I have fat thighs and calfs, but that is temporary. Hey Gen, where is lake placid? My son's hockey coach just asked all the kids to a tournament up there around Easter. I thought is was in Up state NY!!! I was not aware that Montreal was near there. Although Geography is one of my favorite subjects, it is by far not my best. I love to learn about aother places and cultures. Well Good Night to all of my wonderful friends and supporters. |
hi lynne, it feels good doesn't it. now if we could just get laid we'd never stop grinning. shall we comiserate? boohoo just keep moving :cp: and you'll feel good all the time. what happened to your shoulder? lake placid is in up-state NY. montreal is only a 45min drive from the border (if you drive like a quebecois :lol: ). it's about a 2hr drive from here so it's good for a weekend get-away. your son will love it there, it's beautiful and a really nice town and great facilities for all winter sports. i did legs today and 30mins on exercise bike. i did level 5 and that's still too easy so next time it's level 6 for me. i do the hill programme which intervals. i keep my rpms at 95+ with about 2mins of 105+ at the end. tomorrow we're off and then back on thursday. bonne nuit gen |
Good Morning....
Good morning ladies :coffee: :wave:
Gen thanks for the info, I thought it was in NY, My son loves winter sports. I personally only like the summer. I have tried to get my son to move south to the warmth. But his rebuttle is that he can never find a hockey stick to practice when we go to Florida, so how far away are the skating rinks and he would not be able to skate on fozen cranberry bogs, ponds or anything. I sit in the car while he skates outside, I sit in the lodge while he snowboards (in Upstate New Hamphire). I cannot do the cold, at all. Summer time, I will walk in 90 degree weather, I use to run in the hot, hot weather. Anyway, as for my shoulder, years of weight lifting, pushing too hard. I loved the burn. I was then refinishing a large dresser, (a hobby), and got so into it and worked through the burn, the pain and everything else. My doctor told me to stop, and I did for a bout 2 days, it felt better and started again. Now anytime I do anything, my arm sometimes goes numb and tingles. really aggravating. I try to let it relax and stretch it ofen. But I love to paint and I do the same thing (not listening to my body), very destructive. I get something in my mind and I can't stop. Too bad I couldn't be that with my weight loss ;) . However, I helped my brother paint and I only did 2 hours each day and I stopped, stretched and went to see my Chiropractor, only one night of waking up with the tingling and numbness, getting better. I know I will do it and will keep doing it. 2 days down and today to conquer. :) Now that I have talked your ear off...... Hey I hope everyone is haveing a great day. I hope to log in again later. |
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