You see Shelley, this is the good thing about being your own boss.....I can either put myself down or tell myself I look mahhhvalous and no one is around to tell me differently!!hahaha

Oh Dee, how my heart aches for you. I guess if I've learned anything through all my teen trials is that you have to pick your battles. When DS came home with his tongue pierced I wanted to die but instead I just shrugged my shoulders and told him I hoped he had the money for the dentist when it knocked one of his teeth out. Three days later the bar was out of the tongue and he never mentioned it again. Not long after, he wanted some money for something and I reminded him of the 45 dollars he had thrown away on that ridiculous thing!
I think I would seriously have a talk with MIL. She had no right to do what she did. I hope things will calm down for you soon. You do not need the added stress. What did Larry say about you going to Jamaica? You should go, relax, and enjoy yourself!!!!

Hubby has had some tests done this week and goes back tomorrow for a 5 hour test. The Dr. is afraid he is diabetic and he is also having tests done for autoimmune disease(both of these are prevailent in his family). Do any of you have experience with diabetics?

Sherry, how is the shoulder doing?

later all,
Ramona

OMG, Cheryl, if my boss EVER made a crack like that about my weight I would be in her face SO FAST!!!!! I would tell her that the next time she said ANYTHING about my weight I would slap her *** with a discrimination/hostile work enviroment lawsuit so fast she'd lose 10 lbs. from the giant :censored: she'd leave piled on the floor! That stuff makes me SO MAD!!!!!:mad: It's not okay to make cracks about being black or Jewish or Mexican or Asian - why's it okay to make cracks about someone being fat? I mean, what if she were a minority and you said to her, "I know you would do it yourself, but people of your skin color aren't as smart as us?" It's THE SAME DAMN THING!!!!!!!

Aarrggggh. Time to step down off my :soap:.

Dee - I'm so sorry that you're having such a rough time with the kids. Quite frankly, I would tell MIL that if SHE thinks she knows what's best for Dez, then SHE should take her and raise her.

Have you tried an ultimatum? As in, as long as you live in my house you will follow my rules and if you choose not to then you will no longer be welcome to live here? I know they're your children, but if you continue to let them walk all over you, they're going to. With hubby, have you tried telling him that you can no longer live like this, and if it continues you are leaving. (Admittedly, taking that tack would TOTALLY backfire with my hubby- he does NOT like ultimatums and will cut off his nose to spite his face if he feels like he's being bullied.) Still, it is TOTALLY unfair of them to be treating you like crap. You deserve so much better! On the other hand, remember, like Ann Landers always says, no one can take advantage of you without your permission.

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Have you tried an ultimatum? As in, as long as you live in my house you will follow my rules and if you choose not to then you will no longer be welcome to live here?

Jennelle I tried that one and it was if you don't give us respect that we deserve you will have to leave. Well Jay didn't so I kicked him out in fall. He was gone a month and our relationship was getting better. We all went for counciling and Larry felt that Jay was sincere and had learnt his lesson. Larry let him come back home. I disagreed but since we couldn't meet half way I told Larry that he could decide and that he knew how my health was. I also told him that he had to deal with the big issues if Jay came back. Well I still wish that Jay wouldn't have come back home. We would have a better relationship right now without the stress.

ok Dee, the offer is open to you too, the same as Shelley.

Do I need to hop on a plane and come "rough up" the two, so they treat their mother with respect???? :s: Really, you should have a very long talk with Larry. This is not good for your health or the childrens well being. Larry is enabling them.

Gayle I will take you up on your offer to rough up my kids! To bad that Larry doesn't feel that he is enabling them. He feels that I am a control freak. The thing is no matter who I talk to they agree with me. Larry is on the wrong side of the fence. I guess it is hard for him to deal with these issues as I have bowed down and given him the throne. It is easier for him to see the kids points. They are both very manipulative. Before Dez blew it with her curfew monday I was going to discuss extend it with Larry, since she turn 17. Larry said why not talk to her and tell her we know that she is having a hard time keeping her curfew so we will extend it. Duh, when we phoned her on monday and told her she was an hour late she said so....and then hung up. She didn't come in til about an hour after that. Then decided she needed a drink and openned up a vodka cooler. Drank it by herself and went to sleep. Do any of you think that she is responsible for a longer curfew?
Do I have to come back home from Jamaica? I don't think that I will want to. find myself a black man and live on the beach.

Dee - That's EXACTLY what you need! :lol: Someone to bring you pretty drinks with umbrellas in them and rub suntan oil on your back. I say make that ticket to Jamaica a one-way! :D

Dee-You really need that rest!! I know that you are upset about what Dez did, but think of the alternative. At least she is not thinking about suicide right now. With what you have been through with her, this is nothing. I think she is just revolting against you and society right now. Try to let go of it, and maybe she will find out on her own. As for Jay, I think an ultimatim is a great idea. If he is doing illegal things, then he SHOULD be booted out of the house. Perhaps if Dez sees that you do that to him, it will tame her down a bit.

I love you and thank you so much for your bouquet!! I am sending it right back to you! You are a dear friend, and I hope that life treats you better. You are so lucky to have such an adoring husband and you don't have to worry about money. You have a beautiful house and it sounds like you are able to get away when you really need to. Think of all the blessings that you have, and the answers to everything will come to you on your own.

Everyone-Thank you all so much for your kind words. I am still feeling down, but you all are so wonderful and I love each and every one of you!

Today is Staff Appreciation, so we get to leave at 1PM. Becky has a recital tomorrow (her last, since she is taking a break from dance.) She is also not great. I don't think I told everyone, but her boyfriend emailed her last Friday and broke up with her again. She doesn't know why, but I really think she is too good for him anyway! Now she is avidly studying for finals, which start today. Maybe over the summer she will find a better boyfriend!! Actually, a friend of mine said that she will find out that they are all the same!!:lol:

Better finish getting ready for work.

Thank you for the kind words.

Just when I thought that I wouldn't be able to handle any more Dez called just before Larry and my counciling meeting. She has been in a car accident with her firend. They were on there way to emergency. Her friend had very painful ribs. I never did find out what happen because they were at emerg to long I guess and Dez didn't come home.

Our session last night just stirred the pot and upset me. Our councilor tlaks far to much and assumes a lot and you can't get in there and correct him. By the time he takes a breath it has been 10 minutes or so and I have already forgot what he assumed was incorrect because it was a number of things.

By the way Shelley about money.....Larry said to me when I told him I was going to Jamaica he said where are you going to get the money. I told him I have some saved up in my accout. I do have a few hundred dollars but not enough. You would laugh at me I am so thrift for things when it comes to myself that I shop at salvation army. I just love getting designer clothes or name brands there. The only things I usually buy new is my underware and bathing suits. And I hate wearing underware. lol My grandmother didn't and neither does one of my aunts. When I have to be thrifty so we have more money I will cut down on groceries, I always work around sale prices...etc.

Life goes on and I am going to work out my problems and stress in my flower beds today.

I am sending you all yellow roses for being my friends.

I'M SENDING OUT AN ALL POINTS BULLETIN FOR SHERRY AND DEBBIE........WHERE ARE YOU GUYS!!!!!!!!?????????

Ramona: I bet the two are out trying on bikini's or practicing getting sand in their cracks!!!

Dee: Is Dez ok from the accident? Just because I'm curious, whats the legal age to drink in Canada? You are a thrifty one...I am too...I hardly ever buy myself anything new. I needed new shoes forever...just went to payless this last week and ended up getting two pair for $26.00 total.

Today will be a busy one, getting ready for graduation. Hopefully I can color my hair before then....hmmm...guess I better start looking in my closet for something to wear! None of my smaller clothes fit...:mad:

Have a GREAT OP DAY!!!!!!!

Good luck this weekend Gayle. give Liz a hug for me. Our legal drinking age is 18. I still haven't talked to dez to see how she is feeling after the accident. I should be seeing her at lunch.

I can't remember if I told you all that the reason I can afford to go to Jamaica is because my friends husband works for air canada and our flight will be less than $200 canadian. We don't even care if we sleep on a hammock on the beach.

Hmmmm...Dee....daughter's been talking about going to college in Canada...if she finds out the drinking age is 18 she's going to DEFINITELY want to go! :lol:

Jennelle different provinces have different ages. It hink that the highest age is 19.

An update on the car accident. Dez is ok. Her friend may have injured her pancreas or liver. They said that if she is in more pain today to go back to emerg. Well she is in severe pain.

Well back to gardening. My arms are gonna fall off. Forking up that solid ground is hard work.