Awww...poor baby Krystal. Is this your older or younger fry baby? Maybe she ate something outside or from garbage and this will pass soon! -- You will love this; Shadow is the baby of the family, spoiled rotten. I bought one of those running belts with water bottles, just for her. Not for me :D I carry a soft waterbowl with me for her. Not only she gets 5.5 mile daily walk, off the leash, and a 20 minute swim, but mama stops every 2 miles and gives her a drink....

Star you are my hero!

Jo how is your son's shoulder? My son just had his follow up appointment, it is slightly better. It will be a long healing process. Interesting thing tho....the surgeon said that based on his growth plates, he has LOTS of growing to do. Sheesh....he is 5'10 and he may grow another 6+ inches.....but he has to grow into those size 14 1/2 feet...hehe I never pictured having a giant son.

I am wearing my sexy jeans today. I have not been able to wear them in a looooong time. P is coming home tonite ;) I took measurements after lunch. Well belly and hips were the same as last month....they may be a bit less tomorrow morning...but my calves have lost nearly an inch, 13+ inches; and my mid thigh was 18 inches, one inch loss. I don't want to shrink on THOSE areas, but please let my torso area make some progress!!

I am cleaning my house, hubby is coming home :cloud9: I better finish.

:woohoo: I am so happy for you! :woohoo:

Thanks Jo!! :hug: I pound and I have lost 20 pounds....I am excited and invigorated.

So I came here this morning to say this maintenance reset thing is going to be hard.
I didn't realize how ingrained in my head "eat less, workout more" was!
Yesterday, I kept finding my thoughts telling me to skip meals/parts of meals and I just felt awkward not working out. I actually put on my workout clothes and shoes at one point and was going to just get on the treadmill for a little bit.
My gosh, what is wrong with me that I can't take a break?
I ended up burning 2636 and ate just under 2500. I am wearing my bodybugg this week just to see where I am falling again. That was without working out yesterday. That's just terrible what I have been doing to my body. If I had worked out, I would have burned over 3000 calories and I might have eaten 1200 or 1400. Seriously? 1800-1600 calorie burn? What was I thinking? I know better than that. There is no quick fix. No wonder my body is fighting me. I have abused it.
OMG, I think this might kill me just knowing I won't lose. I mean, before I wasn't losing anyways, but at least I knew there was a chance of losing. Sigh. (Dreamily looking at Sum's post).
Okay, morning rant over, I feel better :) I know I am doing what I need to do, and today is a new day. I just have to keep stringing one maintenance level day after another and before I know it, it will be time to start losing again.
I am determined to change this. I will get my metabolism burning again and finish this in a healthy way.
Thanks for "listening"! :grouphug:

Oh my gosh, that is amazing! I bet you and P are going to have a fantastic walk today!!!

Oh, I have one more issue. I am really supposed to cut back if not cut out the cardio during this phase. I feel so guilty about my walking partner, I don't know how to tell her. I wonder if I should just cut back to a couple days a week and make something up or tell her the truth. She doesn't have a weight problem and never has/will, so I don't usually talk about it to her. Our walks are not super strenuous, but I do burn at least 400 cals each time. That on top of what I normally burn in a day and then if I need to do weight lifting that day, that's a lot of burn when I am supposed to be giving my body a break. Hmmmm.

About your walks, if you skip them what would you be doing? Housecleaning? Errands? Or sitting around (which I doubt :lol:) If your walks are not fast, I would just keep going. You would be burning atleast 250 calories during that hour anyways? Maybe just slower them a bit, intentionally.

:woohoo:
Yippee!! You're catching up quickly!!
You Geaux Girl ;)

i haven't weighed.
I feel like I have retained water.
I might weigh when I return from Tahoe.
TOM is expected Thursday! JOY! (That's the day we are going to San Fran)
Good thing I'm taking fat girl clothes :lol:

Chels's pinning ceremony was just perfect. It was rather inspiring to hear again all the reasons why I became a nurse in the first place. There is a HUGE disconnect from the "reasons why I want to become a nurse" to "actually being a bedside nurse". Funny how these 2 concepts don't jive when the rubber meets the road, especially in caring for chronic heart failure patients. I need a new field. I need to re-visit why the passion of nursing was so passionate to me once before & find that spark of genius that I once had for the profession.

Anywho..... Happi Friday1
I'm in celebration mode :celebrate:

Ok, I gave in to that evil scale:: 144.6
I guess it was "water in my head"! :dizzy:
Loss of 1lb for the week (from last Friday).
Hey, for once, I was right on!!
I said after spiking I was intending on losing a pound this week and I did :woohoo:
I'm excited!!

Oh my goodness, I am only on day 2 of my reset, do you guys have to post such good losses right now???

:lol: jk, Congrats to you too Krystal, that's awesome!

i calculated my BMR just out of curiosity and it says at my height, weight, age i should eat 1644 calories a day to maintain....so assuming i subtract 500 per day to lose, that means i should eat 1144 calories a day?? how can that be right? arent you supposed to be above 1200 a day?

If that was your bmr, that is the minimum amount of calories you body needs as if you were in bed in a coma all day, just for breathing, digestion, and other bodily processes.
Most of us that try to lose weight eat under this number and then exercise on top of that so essentially we are asking our bodies to function on less than half of what they need as a baseline. So where does the body take what it needs from? Unfortunately it is not always from the fat stores. More often than not, it is muscles, organs, hair, skin, nails. No different than an anorexic that only feeds herself a couple hundred calories a day. Scary. And when we do splurge because we can't hack it anymore? Yup, our body hangs onto that fat for dear life. I have done so much reading on this lately and I will never starve my body again. I will do this the right way. You have to eat to lose fat and gain muscle. I cringe at how much muscle I have lost. So anyways, I ramble. . .
You need to calculate your TDEE which stands for total daily energy expenditure. You will be multiplying your bmr by your activity/exercise level. I would bet you are at least moderately active, if not heavy due to your active job and how many workouts you do. Here's a cool calculator that I have used, but there are many out there and they all come to around the same numbers.
http://scoobysworkshop.com/calorie-calculator/
Remember, with TDEE, your exercise burns are already factored in, so you just have to do a cut with food to lose weight (in theory).

thank you jo! ive always been worried about eating too little and have been trying to keep my net calories to about 1200-1400, and counting back exercise calories to really my gross calories are about 1600..i also dont count veggies and fruits, but i should start doing that

this calculator says 1638 BMR, 2539 TDEE and 2158 to lose...im VERY scared to eat more but maybe i will try for a week or so and make those extra calories the very BEST possible of foods and see what happens...i gain weight SO easily though that i would hate to undo all of my work and get right back to 200 again :( im still right at 195 and have been maintaining that for a few months...and it's hard to beleive that with all my workouts, and eating that few calories, that i havent lost any more weight

Congrats to Chels! Have fun today Krystal!

Just a warning, you may gain initially at first, lots of people report gaining around 5 pounds. It is hard to see, but it is most likely not fat if you are eating clean. Just extra water, glycogen, waste and all that. For most, it comes back off in a week or two/three. Some people ease up slowly because of that, adding 1-200 cals/day a week. I just jumped in with both feet like I always do :lol: right up to maintenance. I just felt like this is what I needed to do though. Everyone is different and are at different places in their journeys. Let me know if you have any other questions, I have done a lot of reading on the subject lately.

ETA: if you weren't counting veggies or fruits, I bet you were closer than you thought, good job! Your metabolism is most likely not as messed up as mine.

Sum, I am trying to find the recipe you posted for chili that had pineapple and ground turkey??? I have some ground turkey to cook up and was thinking regular chili, but then I remembered that one. Maybe it was on the previous thread.

ETA: found it! I have never heard of pineapple salsa, will have to run to the store for that one, but I have the rest! Hope it was good?

I had none this time, but I had peach mango salsa and I added canned green chilies....yum!

I couldn't find the old elpaso at Kroger or Meijer, I just ended up buying Meijer gold grilled pineapple chipoltle salsa (which is really good by the way, who knew?). We haven't eaten the chili yet, but I have been tasting and it is good! I added one can of tomato soup just for personal preference and also added the a small onion, red peppers and corn that you made a note of at the bottom. My calories came out a little higher, but that may just be a portion thing, I have to see how much we get out of it and adjust from there. Oh, and I started too late to do it in the crock pot, so I just cooked it on the stove top. Thanks so much, I think 3/4 of us will really like this! My youngest considers this "mexican" I don't think chili is mexican do you? Weird kid.
Where did you find the old elpaso spicy pineapple chile salsa (or whatever it is called)?

I think I bought it from Kroger or Hollywood Market... I think any salsa will work. I added canned diced tomatoes this time, as well.

P just had his chili :) It is like all of us having dinner together :D -- He put in some sour cream, and liked it. I did not think of adding that....

i have been SO thirsty today, i think, because i've been gravitating towards liquids....although i don't feel thirsty....i had some granola and milk, a protein shake, some coffee, some gatorade and just now ate a few bites of cheese and meat...somehow this all totals 1065 calories :( and its only 3 p.m.

im planning to make my own veggie pizza for dinner...should be interesting...

gave myself a horrid blister yesterday while working out...wore a hole in my sock which in turn gave me a blister bigger than my thumbnail :( ouchhhh...its a bit better today, being careful walking

we just went to all three stores in town for groceries...i spent A LOT of time in the produce section and came home with oranges, bananas, swiss chard, onions, mushrooms, peppers, corn on the cob and probably more than i forgot...sadly my budget now hates me :( lol

I am so proud of myself! :love:

DS had 2 games last night, and games today. -- And between games we always feed the boys.... so there is a lot of together time. -- I actually did not let my MIL get to me :p I chatted with her awhile and when she started poking at me, I politely got up and said; I am going to go and say hello to so and so. Today, when she started antaganising me again, I did the same thing, with a smile. I just said "uhum, yes (and smiled)... I am going to go and say hi to Kim".

I did not over eat :woohoo: I actually had none of the food. It is all kid food and loaded with carbs.

I am doing some personal growth here ladies. -- It is easy to tell someone to follow above advice, but actually execute it with grace is another story. Took me many years, and many pounds.

My 5 pound bloat loss last week "shaped" my body somewhat. My belly looks thinner and flatter. It makes me feel good. -- I wore a really pretty dress last night and I received many compliments. My DH said, wow you look really thin.... which was the best out of all :hug: I wore a pair of jeans today that are a true size 8 with a t-shirt and I actually had a little bit of a waist. :eek: -- The point here is. I have given my MIL too much power over me. I am done eating after seeing her. I am done feeling sad after seeing her; so today I felt empowered, almost, when I was able to walk away and not take the abuse. And I was able to walk away feeling thin...does that make sense to you?

P says I have hit an enormous milestone. :carrot: I have realized, I can not make her happy.... she loves misery. She loved making me miserable and I won't let her any longer. It is almost like a switch went off....I am a slow learner (and a people pleaser what comes to my loved ones).

Thanks for listening :grouphug: Maybe I will approach this whole MIL thing with humor from now on. :carrot:

:tantrum:
The graduation party turned out to be embarrassment of the century!!
My sis had asked if I knew a DJ, which I did. She hired one of mine & DH's friends to do it. I bought all of the alcoholic beverages and had planned a very sentimental toast for my niece. It rained a bit, so the pool was closed of course, but the party was set up in a sunroom and a covered area on the outside patio.
All of Chels's friends hung out in the driveway--sitting on her bf's truck tailgate while the "adults" sat in the house around the table!

My BIL, who had come in later for the party from a baseball game, became very upset with me when I walked in and said, "What are you all doing in here while D is playing outside? This is so embarrassing to me!"
(He was basically playing for himself b/c all of the younger crowd was in the driveway & all the older crowd was inside the house!)
I wouldn't have cared less if it would not have been a friend of ours, but it was!
My BIL shouted, "You will not speak like this to my family."
His mom and step dad were down (for the 2nd time in 22 yrs) from Idaho.
The rest of the room was MY family!

It was by far the WORST party I had ever been too!
I was so furious!
I had bought all of the wine, champagne, and rum for this party (over $100 worth), & I am hoping I can return it!

I so wanted to tell him that DH and I paid for MOST of the tuition for her to even go to nursing school, but I just left.
Funny, after that, my sis, my mom, and my nephew came up to me and said, "What's wrong? Why are you so mad? Why are you leaving?"

:tantrum:

I should have just been a guest and not volunteered anything.
Did I mention I HANDMADE all 30 invitations for this party and only like 3 couples came???

They have a wedding next March-- God willing--and I will be a guest only & nothing else.

oh krystal i'm so sorry ...and mad for you...grrr that sounds just terrible, especially after you went to all that work...

i mustve been channeling you because i just ate way more pizza than anyone should reasonably eat

OMGaaaaaHHHHH!!

How about DH stayed at the party to talk to our friend D--the DJ.
When he came home he said, "Guess who D thought was your parents?"
I'm like, "IDK, who?"
DH replied, "Your sis and your BIL!" :o
What had he been :smoking: ??

Oh my gosh, I loved, loved, loved that chili!!!!! Thank you for posting that. It will definitely be a regular in my rotation. I think some diced tomatoes would be good! And next time I think I will add a can of black beans too. I normally make my chili with salsa, black beans and corn, so this was similar, but the pineapple salsa and extra pineapple was the bomb! Also, that salsa had a little smokiness to it (chipoltle) and I added some southwest chipoltle seasoning to bring that out some more and some hungarian paprika. Oh my goodness it was good! My salsa wasn't hot at all, so I added red pepper flakes, but I want more heat, so maybe a jalapeno or two next time. Sounds like your salsa had some heat. I am so glad I doubled it for leftovers soon! We had ours with cheese and cornbread, but sour cream (or greek yogurt) does sound yummy!

Krystal, :hug: I am so sorry that party was so disappointing. Sometimes family doesn't always live up to our expectations, been there. What a bummer. Maybe a good workout will help you blow off some steam.

Sum, so proud of you and your personal growth! You are rocking it this week between that and the weight loss! Can I live vicariously through you right now? I soooo want to be in weight loss mode and feeling the things you are feeling with the jeans and the pretty dress.

Alaskan, great job on all the good groceries. Sorry the pizza got the best of you, but today is a new day. It's a marathon, not a quick race. Use that extra fuel for a kick butt workout once your blister is healed!

Morning.

Holding steady at 146. It is sticking. Now do I dare to dream of 145 by next Friday?

Jo, I am so glad you liked it. It is one of our favorite meals right now as well. It has only 170-180 calories per cup. But tastes totally sinful.

Krystal I am so sorry about your party! Your BIL does not understand the love you poored into this event.

Where is Star?

I am supposed to have a spike day....I am scared to death!

Kristiina - SOOOO proud of you on the MIL front!!! I am here, just been so slammed busy that I have only been able to pop by for my inspirational reading :) Not only are you having personal growth, but to have all those compliments on the dress too??? That's a great week right there!

Krystal - I am so sorry for the way the party went. I laughed at who was thought to be your parents though; shows how young you look and how the "personality" can age others, :lol: Hope you have had a happy National Nurses Week :)

Jo - I love that you are discovering so much more now with the metabolism reset you are trying. How awesome to have discovered more even about behaviors you have gained :) I say walk, cause you are active anyway... just no huge cardio if that is what should be out.

Alaskan - You gotta stop channeling others, :lol:

For me - no loss this week, however no gain with TOM approaching either, so I will take it. My body all messed up, cause it's supposed to be a full week before I started this "constipation, bloat" crap... I am guessing since I am so anxious for my parents' arrival that it's throwing off my system? Still amazed no 2lb normal gain at this time though, so I will take it :) Parents will be here in 9 days, SSI has pulled DD16's benefits (so have to figure out what happened there), getting her set for dental appointment, 10 days and I go for my schooling paperwork appointment - lots of things on tap, but honestly almost all of them are good things, so been happy! Busy busy, but happy.

Happy Mother's Day!!!!

Dare to dream girl!!!
Not sure why mine came out to be a little over 200 cals, probably just the ingredients I selected from mfp. And that was before I added the tomato soup, I have to go back and add that in so it is right for next time. I divided the single recipe into 5, maybe you did 6? Anyhow, I could care less, it is low in calorie either way, and yummy.
Maybe just have a spike meal? It wouldn't get you up where you want to be calorie wise, but may serve as a little break. Or just skip it and try again next week ;) It is hard to Spike when you are on a roll, but remember it is supposed to keep things rolling, not stop them so don't worry if you do end up doing it.
Hope you have a great Mother's Day!

Happy Mother's Day to the baby Mommas and the furbaby Mommas of the group :grouphug:
Hope everyone has a great day!

good morning and happy mother's day!! :)

got to sleep in today because i got up early and settled younger son on the couch with cartoons lol...once i got up i cleaned the kitchen and swept the floors...need to do some laundry today and clean out the back room, because we're putting in another washer tomorrow

it even stopped raining! not exactly sunny but at least not pouring rain like it has for the last week! blister is huge but healing up faster than some of the other ones

I can't wait to get to maint!!!!! I will eat like a king :woohoo: my 2000 cal felt so MUCH.

Mmmm food!

i had to re-think the whole idea of eating over 2000 calories and upping it....i know that my body is sensitive to sugar, carbs and somewhat to dairy...i could be sensitive to more, as my mom was just diagnosed at age 71 with gluten sensitivity also

anyhow, i have to remind myself that i didnt lose 35 pounds and kept it off by eating over 2000 calories a day...i lost that by eating about 1400 a day and exercising regularly...i just have to keep on doing what i know has been working, and not look for ways to "upset the apple cart"

i KNOW i was eating over 2000 calories a day when i weighted 230...and i dont want to have an "experiment gone wrong" where i toss out my whole counting calories thing and gain right back to where i started

i think i'm just in a bit of diet fatigue and have to remind myself of HOW i got down to 195 and just keep at it

Up bright and early.

I feel bloated after yesterday. I am looking forward to a normal eating plan. But I did have a few skinny girl margaritas....about 4 1/2 oz of alcohol.

Weight 146.5 lbs
Plan for the day
Walk 5.5 miles + upper body toning
No bfast
Lunch
Mozzarella/tomato/basil salad
Snacks
Sunflower seeds and dark chocolate
Dinner
Pork tenderloin, 3 baby potatoes, asparagus and salad

Total calories 1200, I will add an evening snack based on cravings :D

Did double workout yesterday and enjoyed mother's day in the pool most of the day. Back to the real world today. I won't be home until late and work will be slammed, so will check in with you ladies tomorrow morning again :)

i had too much to eat this weekend...partly due to extra carbs and sweets, which set off cravings for more....i know i ate too much, i know for sure that my calories were much higher yesterday...today being back to work and gym helps with my eating routine alot...im tired, didnt sleep well, will try to sleep before i go to the gym this morning ughhh