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~~ The Thin Group #91 ~~
Hello and welcome to the Thin Group! We are a great group of ladies (but men are welcome if there are any who care to join us) who have one thing in common. We are all working together toward our goal of being healthier in our daily lifestyles and to lose weight. There are all different ages and backgrounds here and we all have different ways of losing our weight. We all love to have fun and laugh, but we also give a lot of support, encouragement and motivation for one another. Everyone has their ups and downs and well be here with you thru both! Please feel free to post with us - just jump right in and believe me, you will be welcomed with open arms. The more the merrier!
Lets all work together towards a healthier us in 2003! Please feel free to check out our website and learn more about us at: www.geocities.com/hotsprings/sauna/4797 Love, CJ |
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Don't forget to take a moment and check out the last posts on #90 thread ... HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE! Love, CJ |
Hello Ladies!
CJ ....you took back your "brat" crown!!!! lol Well, I was weighed in a week ago at Curves....I lost a pound (better than a gain) and lost 8 inches for a total of 19.5 inches. Not bad, was expecting more. I haven't gone in the past couple of weeks, the Holidays are making it hard. They are closed the next couple of days so I'll be there on Thursday! I really need to stay focused and take care of myself. If I don't do if for myself, no one else will do it for me! CJ- Sounds like you had a nice Christmas with your daughter and her family. I'll try to join you on the journaling thread.....try being the operative word:) Judy- It's nice to hear that your daughter is getting her act together not only for her sake but for the sake of Allura. I'm sure that's the best gift you could ask for. Sam- Hey chickie! So nice to hear from you! You've had quite a year...first a baby and then marriage. :bravo: I wish you a lifetime of happiness! Sherry- I look forward to reading your posts...they are always quite entertaining. Carolyn (Regency)- I hope you are feeling better. Well ladies, I'm off to a "special" New Year's Eve dinner. I would like to wish all of you (including you lovely lurkers) a Happy, Healthy, Skinny and Safe New Year. May all of your dreams and goals become realities and may you be showered by love, peace, happiness and blessings in the New Year! WATCH OUT 2003....HERE WE COME!!!:flow2: |
Just a quickie note...... HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL!!! A NEW YEAR FOR GOOD HEALTH AND HAPPINESS.......
Everyone take care.... Love to all....... Carolyn |
Here we are at year's end, a group of ladies different ages, different backgrounds, we come from different parts of the country. Some of our original group have left us, but they will always be in our hearts. Our lifestyles are different, our problems are different. But, here we are, with more similarities than we ever thought possible. We came to this group to lose weight, looking for support from others, maybe to feel better about ourselves. We have grown into a group of friends who wish we could do even more for one another. We support each other, we worry about each other and are truly happy with one another's successes, and not just in the dieting area. We came to this group as individuals, but at year's end, we leave as "family". No matter what 2003 brings for us I pray we stick together and continue to provide the support and love that means so much to all of us.
May the new year be everything you hope and wish it to be. May you all see health, happiness and love. May we all remain family and may our family grow this year of 2003. Love, CJ |
Howdy Ladies!! :wave:
I told ya'll that I would be back the 1st of the year!! :D I have missed ya'll so much! Sometimes I find myself "lurking" over here reading your posts. I honestly stopped posting here because of time!! With my other forum I post at AND working at the School and the Titan ballgames.There wasn't enough time and I was running myself CRAZY!! :stress: I'm still working both jobs but I NOW find time for myself!! Even if it's just for 15 min!! I'm getting a lot better on my "cleanliness" too. I now will sleep if there are towels left in the dryer.Where before I would get out of bed to fold them.I'm finding myself letting things go until the next day. I have NO IDEA what my weight is now.I will weigh on Monday morning.That's when I will get back to being OP! This is a New Year and I will get this weight off!!! I'm also going to be joining CURVES!! Sylvia.....will you let me know how much you have lost since you joined? Do you like it? I'm excited about it!! Hubby & I are going to watch a movie that we rented now. I'm lookin' forward to being back here and GIVING & GETTING motivation from ya'll!!! I missed ya'll!! Love, Sherry |
Sherry!!! I'm so glad to see you back here - I have missed you too! Our group has been a little "scarce" lately, but I think we will make a comback this year! Talk to you soon - glad you're back!
Love, CJ |
HAPPY NEW YEAR LADIES!!!!!
I completely agree with what CJ wrote. We are all more than just "friends" here...we are family (sing the song if you'd like). Welcome back Sherry! I always loved reading your posts. No matter what was happening in your life, your sense of humor always comes out. Congratulations on joining Curves. I really like it. I joined October 17 and have lost 19.5 inches and 8 pounds. There are some people that have lost more than than, it all depends on your body and you going at least 3 times a week. My husband and I started 2003 with a 2 hour walk through Golden Gate Park here in San Francisco. It was a beautiful day and everything seemed to be magical and full of hope. Here is to a wonderful 2003! Sylvia |
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GOOD MORNING!
You are soooo right! We are like family! Actually I feel closer to most of you than I do to my real family! I can say things to you that I could never say to my relatives! They would never understand. I can share my feeling a lot easier with someone that I don't have to see face to face.:o I am soooo broke, don't know where all the money went. With the trip down into Texas to get my grandaughter and all the Christmas presents, I've really been hit hard this past month! Well, I guess it's time to get started on my new year dieting. I start every Jan. but usually by Mar. I'm off again! Just can't seem to keep it going! Won't stop me from trying again this year though. Hugs, Judy |
Howdy Ladies!
Here is a little something that I would like to share with you. I hope I don't offend anyone! I hope all is well! Sylvia ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~* Prayer for Dieters * Holy Spirit, I want to lose weight, but I keep on eating, and eating. * Help me to understand myself. Why do I eat when I am not hungry? * What is it that I am trying to satisfy or fill up? * My need for affection? My desire to feel full and strong? * Am I confusing a feeling of weakness and inadequacy with hunger? * Do I binge eat in order to smother my anger? * Please Holy Spirit, give me the peace of heart I need in order to understand me. * And help me to say "no" to myself, to control my urge to put something in my mouth, to acquire some self discipline. * Help me to understand that my "no" is really a "yes" to the person you are calling me to be. * Strengthen me to say "no" to myself and "yes" to You. Amen. |
Howdy :wave:
I have cleaned house all day! You never really know how many cob webs you have until you do DEEP cleaning!! :o I weighed this morning and I'm back up to 180. :( I was so disappointed in myself.But it's a New Year and I WILL get this weight off once and for all!!!! Sylvia****** I loved your "Prayers for Dieters!" Thanks for sharing it! Also...Thanks for the info on Curves.If it don't snow here tonight, I'm planning on getting out tomorrow to buy a new bra and to check it out!! I'm so excited to go!! I'll let you know when I check it out! CJ****** Thanks so much for the welcome back! Like I said, I have missed ya'll!! Are you still at the cabin? Where exactly is it? Do you have snow there? Wow....look at me....Come back here and start asking questions already!! :lol: Judy******Do you remember me? How are you? I KNOW exactly how you feel about getting started back on dieting!! But after weighing this morning, I'm ready!! I had done so well...even getting down to 170 at one point.But hopefully with joining Curves and cutting back on portion sizes, I'll be close to goal by June (Florida Vacation Time!) Carolyn******Hey sweetie! How are you?! Gosh, I've missed ya'll!! But I'm back to give motivation AND butt kicks!! :lol: Sharon******Hi Darlin' Wild Thang!! How are you!!?? How's your Dad? It's been sooooo long!! I'm looking forward to bringing our friendship back to surface!! I've missed talking to you!!! Hope you come back soon & post!! {{{{ hugs }}}} Have a good evening everyone!! :grouphug: Love, Sherry (Sher-Bear) |
Hi there! Just got home from the casino so naturally have to get on the computer and check in here.
Sherry: Don't feel bad about the (ahem - 180 wt) .... I had gotten myself down to 170 too, and then got up to 174 ... held that for a long while, then too got up to 180 before xmas - thankfully have gotten back down to 177 now ... and if I have my way the place to go now is down down down! I'm gonna be back to the 170 mark by the end of this month! (or sooner)! You will too! Yes, still at the cabin ... were going to stay until next Tuesday but think we may come back home tomorrow morning. We have been taking care of our son's dog while they were in North Carolina and he is kind of a pesty dog - nice, but what a begger and whiner ... so we think we are coming back earlier and dropping him off. hee hee .. besides, our cat does not like sharing and is a bit "bent out of shape" to put it mildly! To answer your ?????? ... our cabin is in Gaylord, MI - we have 20 acres and are completely surrounded by woods with a beautiful valley and believe it or not, we don't have any snow left up here. This is right in the snowbelt of Michigan and usually is covered deep but not now ... actually, we have more snow back home in Royal Oak then we do up here and I understand we have a storm coming our way and could drop up to 6" of snow! What fun! (now that I don't have to clean off car and get to work any more) LOL Sylvia: Thanks for sharing the prayer! Loved it. We are going to do it this year! Judy: I think we are all "kinda broke" at this time of year. Every year I say I am going to cut back, but haven't done it yet. Well, we went to the casino last Monday and hubby won $270 and I won $240 ... went again tonite and I won $280 ... hubby did not win this time. OK ... off to do my journals ... talk to you tomorrow! Love, CJ PS: I forgot to mention that I have 2 xmas presents bought for 2003 already and wrapped! hee hee hee :) |
Here's another something that was sent to me that I would like to share with all of you lovely ladies!
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~* 50 Ways to Snack in 100 Calories or Less by Lindsey Emery Sweet 1. 20 chocolate-covered raisins. 87 cal 2. Half a slice of angel food cake with 1 Tbsp thawed, frozen light whipped topping and 1 maraschino cherry. 94 cal 3. 5 Starburst Fruit Chews. 100 cal 4. 1 whole graham cracker, broken into 2 squares. Top one square with 1/4 oz-piece milk chocolate and 1 large marshmallow. Top with the other square and microwave for about 12 seconds. 90 cal 5. Two 1-in. squares chocolate fudge. 86 cal 6. Fruit mix: 3 dried apricot halves, 4 almonds and 1 Tbsp chocolate chips. 100 cal 7. 1 frozen waffle, toasted and topped with 2 sliced strawberries and 1Tbsp whipped cream. 99 cal 8. 1/2 cup Cocoa Puffs cereal with 1/4 cup skim milk. 81 cal 9. 3 gingersnaps. 80 cal 10. 6-oz tub Yoplait White Chocolate Strawberry nonfat yogurt. 100 cal 11. Half a banana, with 1 Tbsp each chocolate syrup and thawed, frozenlight whipped topping. 99 cal 12. 2 fun-size Nestle Butterfinger bars. 68 cal 13. 1 cup sugar-free hot chocolate with 2 Tbsp miniature marshmallows. 66 cal 14. 2 caramel corn cakes. 90 cal Savory 15. 3/4-oz serving baked potato chips (7 to 12 chips) with 2 Tbspfat-free onion dip. 85 cal 16. 4 wheat crackers with 1 oz reduced-fat cheddar cheese. 87 cal 17. Half a baked potato, with 1 Tbsp each reduced-fat sour cream and salsa. 98 cal 18. 6 medium pretzel twists with 2 Tbsp mustard. 91 cal 19. 7 medium shrimp with lemon to taste. 70 cal 20. Half a medium onion bagel. 97 cal 21. 3 toasted 1/4-in.-thick slices Italian bread, topped with 3 Tbspchopped tomatoes, 1/2 tsp olive oil, minced garlic and fresh basil. 79 cal 22. 4 pieces plain melba toast. 78 cal 23. 25 pistachio nuts. 85 cal 24. Half a baked flour tortilla with 1 oz avocado and 1 Tbsp salsa. 88 cal 25. 6 cups light microwaveable popcorn. Season to taste. 93 cal 26. Half a toasted whole-wheat English muffin with 1 tsp reduced-fat chunky peanut butter. 85 cal 27. 3 dill pickles. 36 cal 28. 1 baked hash-brown potato patty, with 1 Tbsp ketchup. 79 cal Comforting 29. 2 Tbsp hummus on a quarter toasted pita. 93 cal 30. Half a baked sweet potato, mashed with 1 tsp each honey and diet margarine. 96 cal 31. Skinny caffθ latte (2 oz brewed espresso with 1 cup steamed skim milk). 91 cal 32. 1/2 cup cooked couscous and 2 tsp grated Parmesan cheese. 100 cal 33. 1-cup serving canned condensed tomato soup, prepared with water. 85 cal 34. 1 oz light roasted turkey breast, with 1 tsp yellow mustard and 1leaf romaine lettuce on 1 slice toasted light whole-wheat bread. 94 cal 35. 2 lowfat chocolate chip cookies (store-bought), heated in microwave for 10 seconds. 90 cal 36. 1/2 cup prepared plain instant oatmeal, with 2 Tbsp frozen blueberries and cinnamon to taste. 82 cal 37. 1 slice toasted raisin bread with 1 Tbsp fat-free cream cheese. 86cal 38. 1/4 cup egg substitute omelet, filled with 1 Tbsp reduced-fat cheddar cheese and 1/4 cup diced tomatoes. 88 cal 39. 1 cup green tea with 2 tsp sugar. 30 cal 40. 10 baby carrots with 2 Tbsp fat-free ranch dressing. 90 cal 41. 1/2 each green and red bell pepper, sliced and dipped in 2 Tbsp light Thousand Island dressing. 80 cal 42. 1/2 cup canned pine-apple chunks, packed in juice. 75 cal 43. 1 chocolate-dipped strawberry. 62 cal 44. 5 small celery ribs, stuffed with 2 tsp peanut butter and 1 Tbsp raisins. 100 cal 45. Half a medium grapefruit with1 tsp sugar. 38 cal 46. 1 each sliced medium tomato and red onion with 2 Tbsp lowfat Italiansalad dressing. 100 cal 47. 1/2 cup lowfat cottage cheese blended with 4 Tbsp fresh blueberries.100 cal 48. 1 small baked apple with 11/2 Tbsp light pancake syrup. 97 cal 49. 1/2 cup light vanilla ice cream with 2 Tbsp frozen raspberries. 100 cal 50. 1/4 cup cooked soybeans (edamame) seasoned to taste. 64 cal |
Thanks Sylvia! I printed it out and put it in my food journal book ... very helpful.
Good nite all ... sleep tight ... :wave: Love, CJ |
GOOD MORNING!
Thanks Sylvia, I printed it all too! The Dieter's Prayer will go on the refrigerator door and the list of snacks will stay handy for a quick look when needed! (Which will probably be often!) I finally got brave enough to step on the scales again. I'm kinda ashamed to tell .......but, here goes.....239! You know, when I first joined this group I think I weighed something like 270. Each year I have lost a little then gained back a little, then started all over the next year. But if you look at the positive side of this journey.......If I live to be 100 I may get down to my goal weight! :balloons: Hugs, Judy |
I have a curves membership too. I haven't been going, but I never thought of using it as myweigh in weekly! That will really help with doing ww at home!
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Where is everyone??? :?:
I was going to post yesterday but I didn't want to be talking to myself! :lol: Come back soon!! Did I run ya'll off when I came back????? I went to join CURVES today!! I got measured, weighed and did the machines.I think I'm really going to like it!! :D Here are my Fat results after they measured me! :( 1-7-03 Weight: 186 (it was 181 this am on MY scales) Bust: 45 inches Waist: 38.5 inches Abdomen: 41 inches Hips: 44 inches Thighs: 23 inches Calves: 13 inches Arms: 10 inches (The SKINNEST thang on my bod!) I will not weigh OR check my measurements until THEY do it on Feb.7th.......It will be only ONCE a Month.]] I'm so determined this time!!! I will get to my ideal weight and clothes size!! Well better go and wash dishes now.Hope to "see" ya'll soon!! Love, Sherry (Sher-Bear) |
Howdy Ladies! :wave:
Just popping in for a quick hello! Sherry, don't worry about your measurements, they will go down if you do curves at least 3 days a week. It is fun and it's addictive. I haven't gone in a couple of weeks and I'm going through withdrawls! I was going 4 times a week and was loving it. I'm sure Viola can attest to it! Well ladies, I have some laundry to do.....that counts as exercise right? I leave you with a little something inspirational from Dr. Phil Have a great day and remember to think positive and take care of yourselves! Sylvia ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~* Seven Steps to Acquiring Your Goals Successfully executing any personal strategic plan for change requires that as you develop your plan, you effectively incorporate these seven steps for attaining each and every goal. 1. Express your goal in terms of specific events or behaviors. For a dream to become a goal, it has to be specifically defined in terms of operations, meaning what will be done. When a goal is broken down into steps, it can be managed and pursued much more directly. "Being happy," for example, is neither an event nor a behavior. When you set out to identify a goal, define what you want in clear and specific terms. 2. Express your goal in terms that can be measured. How else will you be able to determine your level of progress, or even know when you have successfully arrived at where you wanted to be? For instance, how much money do you aspire to make? 3. Assign a timeline to your goal. Once you have determined precisely what it is you want, you must decide on a timeframe for having it. The deadline you've created fosters a sense of urgency or purpose, which in turn will serve as an important motivator, and prevent inertia or procrastination. 4. Choose a goal you can control. Unlike dreams, which allow you to fantasize about events over which you have no control, goals have to do with aspects of your existence that you control and can therefore manipulate. In identifying your goal, strive for what you can create, not for what you can't. 5. Plan and program a strategy that will get you to your goal. Pursuing a goal seriously requires that you realistically assess the obstacles and resources involved, and that you create a strategy for navigating that reality. Willpower is unreliable, fickle fuel because it is based on your emotions. Your environment, your schedule and your accountability must be programmed in such a way that all three support you long after an emotional high is gone. Life is full of temptations and opportunities to fail. Those temptations and opportunities compete with your more constructive and task-oriented behavior. Without programming, you will find it much harder to stay the course. 6. Define your goal in terms of steps. Major life changes don't just happen; they happen one step at a time. Steady progress, through well-chosen, realistic, interval steps, produces results in the end. Know what those steps are before you set out. 7. Create accountability for your progress toward your goal. Without accountability, people are apt to con themselves.If you know precisely what you want, when you want it by and there are real consequences for not doing the assigned work you are much more likely to continue in your pursuit of your goal. Find someone in your circle of family or friends to whom you can be accountable. Make periodic reports on your progress. |
Here is another little something from Dr. Phil-sorry it's kind of long!
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~* Dr. Phil's Ten Life Laws Life Law #1: You either get it, or you don't. Strategy: Become one of those who gets it. It's easy to tell these people apart. Those who "get it" understand how things work and have a strategy to create the results they want. Those who don't are stumbling along looking puzzled, and can be found complaining that they never seem to get a break. You must do what it takes to accumulate enough knowledge to "get it." You need to operate with the information and skills that are necessary to win. Be prepared, tune in, find out how the game is played and play by the rules. In designing a strategy and getting the information you need about yourself, people you encounter, or situations be careful from whom you accept input. Wrong thinking and misinformation can seal your fate before you even begin. Life Law #2: You create your own experience. Strategy: Acknowledge and accept accountability for your life. Understand your role in creating results. You cannot dodge responsibility for how and why your life is the way it is. If you don't like your job, you are accountable. If you are overweight, you are accountable. If you are not happy, you are accountable. You are creating the situations you are in and the emotions that flow from those situations. Don't play the role of victim, or use past events to build excuses. It guarantees you no progress, no healing, and no victory. You will never fix a problem by blaming someone else. Whether the cards you've been dealt are good or bad, you're in charge of yourself now. Every choice you make including the thoughts you think has consequences. When you choose the behavior or thought, you choose the consequences. If you choose to stay with a destructive partner, then you choose the consequences of pain and suffering. If you choose thoughts contaminated with anger and bitterness, then you will create an experience of alienation and hostility. When you start choosing the right behavior and thoughts which will take a lot of discipline you'll get the right consequences. Life Law #3: People do what works. Strategy: Identify the payoffs that drive your behavior and that of others. Even the most destructive behaviors have a payoff. If you did not perceive the behavior in question to generate some value to you, you would not do it. If you want to stop behaving in a certain way, you've got to stop "paying yourself off" for doing it. Find and control the payoffs, because you can't stop a behavior until you recognize what you are gaining from it. Payoffs can be as simple as money gained by going to work to psychological payoffs of acceptance, approval, praise, love or companionship. It is possible that you are feeding off unhealthy, addictive and imprisoning payoffs, such as self-punishment or distorted self-importance. Be alert to the possibility that your behavior is controlled by fear of rejection. It's easier not to change, try something new or put yourself on the line. Also consider if your need for immediate gratification creates an appetite for a small payoff now rather than a large payoff later. Life Law #4: You cannot change what you do not acknowledge. Strategy: Get real with yourself about life and everybody in it. Be truthful about what isn't working in your life. Stop making excuses and start making results. If you're unwilling or unable to identify and consciously acknowledge your negative behaviors, characteristics or life patterns, then you will not change them. (In fact, they will only grow worse and become more entrenched in your life.) You've got to face it to replace it. Acknowledgment means slapping yourself in the face with the brutal reality, admitting that you are getting payoffs for what you are doing, and giving yourself a no-kidding bottom-line truthful confrontation. You cannot afford the luxury of lies, denial or defensiveness. Where are you now? If you hope to have a winning life strategy, you have to be honest about where your life is right now. Your life is not too bad to fix and it's not too late to fix it. But be honest about what needs fixing. If you lie to yourself about any dimension of your life, an otherwise sound strategy will be compromised. Life Law #5: Life rewards action. Strategy: Make careful decisions and then pull the trigger. Learn that the world couldn't care less about thoughts without actions. Talk is cheap. It's what you do that determines the script of your life. Translate your insights, understandings and awareness into purposeful, meaningful, constructive actions. They are of no value until then. Measure yourself and others based on results not intentions or words. Use any pain you have to propel you out of the situation you are in and to get you where you want to be. The same pain that burdens you now could be turned to your advantage. It may be the very motivation you need to change your life. Decide that you are worth the risk of taking action, and that your dreams are not to be sold out. Know that putting yourself at risk may be scary, but it will be worth it. You must call upon yourself to leave behind the comfortable and familiar if you are to move onward and upward. Life Law #6: There is no reality; only perception. Strategy: Identify the filters through which you view the world. Acknowledge your history without being controlled by it. You know and experience this world only through the perceptions that you create. You have the ability to choose how you perceive any event in your life, and you exercise this power of choice in every circumstance, every day of your life. No matter what the situation, you choose your reaction, assigning meaning and value to an event. We all view the world through individual filters, which influence the interpretations we give events, how we respond, and how we are responded to. Be aware of the factors that influence the way you see the world, so you can compensate for them and react against them. If you continue to view the world through a filter created by past events, then you are allowing your past to control and dictate both your present and your future. Filters are made up of fixed beliefs, negative ideas that have become entrenched in your thinking. They are dangerous because if you treat them as fact, you will not seek, receive or process new information, which undermines your plans for change. If you "shake up" your belief system by challenging these views and testing their validity, the freshness of your perspective can be startling. Life Law #7: Life is managed; it is not cured. Strategy: Learn to take charge of your life and hold on. This is a long ride, and you are the driver every single day. You are a life manager, and your objective is to actively manage your life in a way that generates high-quality results. You are your own most important resource for making your life work. Success is a moving target that must be tracked and continually pursued. Effective life management means you need to require more of yourself in your grooming, self-control, emotional management, interaction with others, work performance, dealing with fear, and in every other category you can think of. You must approach this task with the most intense commitment, direction and urgency you can muster. The key to managing your life is to have a strategy. If you have a clear-cut plan, and the courage, commitment and energy to execute that strategy, you can flourish. If you don't have a plan, you'll be a stepping stone for those who do. You can also help yourself as a life manager if you manage your expectations. If you don't require much of yourself, your life will be of poor quality. If you have unrealistic standards, then you are adding to your difficulties. Life Law #8: We teach people how to treat us. Strategy: Own, rather than complain about, how people treat you. Learn to renegotiate your relationships to have what you want. You either teach people to treat you with dignity and respect, or you don't. This means you are partly responsible for the mistreatment that you get at the hands of someone else. You shape others' behavior when you teach them what they can get away with and what they cannot. If the people in your life treat you in an undesirable way, figure out what you are doing to reinforce, elicit or allow that treatment. Identify the payoffs you may be giving someone in response to any negative behavior. For example, when people are aggressive, bossy or controlling and then get their way you have rewarded them for unacceptable behavior. Because you are accountable, you can declare the relationship "reopened for negotiation" at any time you choose, and for as long as you choose. Even a pattern of relating that is 30 years old can be redefined. Before you reopen the negotiation, you must commit to do so from a position of strength and power, not fear and self-doubt. Life Law #9: There is power in forgiveness. Strategy: Open your eyes to what anger and resentment are doing to you. Take your power back from those who have hurt you. Hate, anger and resentment are destructive, eating away at the heart and soul of the person who carries them. They are absolutely incompatible with your own peace, joy and relaxation. Ugly emotions change who you are and contaminate every relationship you have. They can also take a physical toll on your body, including sleep disturbance, headaches, back spasms, and even heart attacks. Forgiveness sets you free from the bonds of hatred, anger and resentment. The only way to rise above the negatives of a relationship in which you were hurt is to take the moral high ground, and forgive the person who hurt you. Forgiveness is not about another person who has transgressed against you; it is about you. Forgiveness is about doing whatever it takes to preserve the power to create your own emotional state. It is a gift to yourself and it frees you. You don't have to have the other person's cooperation, and they do not have to be sorry or admit the error of their ways. Do it for yourself. Life Law #10: You have to name it before you can claim it. Strategy: Get clear about what you want and take your turn. Not knowing what you want from your major life goals to your day-to-day desires is not OK. The most you'll ever get is what you ask for. If you don't even know what it is that you want, then you can't even ask for it. You also won't even know if you get there! By being specific in defining your goal, the choices you make along the way will be more goal-directed. You will recognize which behaviors and choices support your goals and which do not. You will know when you are heading toward your goal, and when you are off track. Be bold enough to reach for what will truly fill you up, without being unrealistic. Once you have the strength and resolve enough to believe that you deserve what it is that you want, then and only then will you be bold enough to step up and claim it. Remember that if you don't, someone else will. |
Yup, you guessed it another Dr. Phil goodie! I hope nobody minds!
Sylvia ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ Making Resolutions a Reality Whether you want to lose weight, quit smoking, get your finances in order, or stop procrastinating, Dr. Phil has advice to help make your resolutions stick. Set a very specific goal. Do you want to work out 30 minutes a day four days a week? "Being happy," for example, is not specific enough. Define exactly what you want in clear terms. Set a goal that has a measurable outcome. "Getting in shape" is not quantifiable. Without a goal that is measurable, how will you know when you've made progress or even reached it? Assign a timeline. "Someday" is not a day of the week. The difference between a dream and a goal is a timeframe for making it happen. A deadline can also help motivate you and prevent you from procrastinating. Choose a goal you can control. You don't control how much you weigh. You can influence it, and you can control the things upon which your weight is based, but you do not control the number on the scale. In identifying your goal, strive for what you can really create not just what you fantasize about. Program your life with a strategy. Willpower is a myth. It's emotionally powered, and emotions are fickle. Wanting to do something no matter how badly you want it won't make it happen. You need a plan and you need to change something in your lifestyle. Realistically asses the obstacles and resources involved, and create a strategy for navigating that reality. Your environment, your schedule and your accountability must be programmed in such a way that all three support you. Life is full of temptations and opportunities to fail. Without programming, you will find it much harder to stay the course. Identify small steps. Major life changes don't just happen; they happen one step at a time. Keep putting one foot in front of the other. Steady progress through well-chosen, realistic, interval steps produces results. Know what those steps are before you set out. Create accountability. Without accountability, people are apt to con themselves. If you know precisely what you want and there are real consequences for not doing the assigned work you are more likely to continue in your pursuit of your goal. Find someone in your circle of family or friends to whom you can be accountable. Make periodic reports on your progress. If you're trying to quit smoking, the one thing you need to control is your environment. Set your environment up so that it does not support your habit. Don't keep cigarettes in the house. Don't buy them at all, or you're programming yourself for failure. Your lifestyle supports your habit, so you need to change your lifestyle. Yes, there is a physical addiction. But it's also a choice. Don't use the addiction as your permission slip to keep doing it. Remember that you don't break habits: You replace one behavior with a new one. If you're trying to get in shape or lose weight, make sure you have a plan and start making a lifestyle change. It is difficult to be overweight without a lifestyle that supports it. Willpower will not make things change. "Gym memberships don't take weight off," says Dr. Phil. "Using them does." Do not feed loneliness with food, he suggests, and be sure to clean up your environment by getting rid of "impulse foods." You can't eat what's not there. Remember, winners do what losers don't want to do. Have passion, take action, and you'll get what you're after. |
Sylvia, Dr. Phil really says it like it is and hits where it hurts! I printed these words of wisdom and will read them every day to inforce my new resolve!
I'm trying again this year! Maybe this time I will keep it going all year long! I'm journaling all my food and water intake and so far doing really well. Sure miss all my old friends on the thin group! Hugs, Judy |
DON'T YOU QUIT
When things go wrong as they sometimes will; When the road you're trudging seems all up hill; When the funds are low and the debts are high When you want to smile, but you have to sigh; When care is pressing you down a bit-- Rest, if you must --but DON'T YOU QUIT. Success is failure turned inside out-- The silver tint of the clouds of doubt. And you never can tell how close you are; It may be near when it seems so far. So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit-- It's when things seem worse that you MUST NOT QUIT. anonymous |
Howdy ladies:wave:
Just popping in for a quick hello. I have a nutritionist appointment tomorrow so I will check in with all of you lovely ladies to let you know how it went. I don't think it will be good but at least I know it! I have been walking the dogs every night with my husband, so I am moving! Judy-I know what you mean, I miss everyone as well. Seems kind of sad in here! YOOOOHOOOO!!! Where is everyone? Here is another little something that was sent to me! I know I'm probably driving all of you crazy with these things! I just hope they help us to keep on track. Ta ta! Sylvia ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~* Top 10 Feel-Good Foods by Bridget Kelly eDiets Senior Writer Want to feel better right now? While most of the weight-loss and health benefits that come from changing your diet take time to realize, there are some foods that can produce almost immediate gratification. Check out our list of foods with physical, mental or emotional benefits that you can really feel. Try some today and gradually incorporate them into your diet to start improving your overall health and well-being: 1. Watermelon Just one bite into a cold wedge of this juicy fruit makes you feel like a kid again. It's so packed with water, one serving counts as one of those 8 glasses you should drink for optimal energy. 2. Ginger The next time you feel a bit nauseous, grate some fresh ginger on your toast -- it's purported to aid digestion and reduce stomach upset. In fact, ginger's anti-nausea powers have been used by seasick soldiers for centuries. 3. Sweet potatoes Carbohydrates, including potatoes, are known for their ability to ease stress and boost mood by increasing levels of the brain chemical serotonin. These bright orange spuds live up to their name, plus they're just as filling and satisfying (maybe even more so because of their sweet flavor) as their colorless cousins. We like them for their high levels of vitamin A, too. 4. Cherries Sweet relief from arthritis, gout or other pain caused by inflammation can come in the form of tart cherries. Researchers at the University of Michigan found that the antioxidants in 20 tart cherries may reduce pain even more effectively than aspirin. Test their natural pain-killing potential for yourself. 5. Bananas Do you suffer from muscle cramps after exercise? You might need more potassium, which is why athletes eat these yellow breakfast staples. Bananas also appear to help lower blood pressure on a daily basis -- one reason many elderly Americans are advised to eat them every day. (They're also a good source of those stress-relieving carbs.) 6. Lemon sorbet or sherbet You can wipe out an unpleasant taste or cleanse your palate to ensure that you enjoy every bit of your meal with this refresher. Lemon has also been shown to relieve cold symptoms and possess antibacterial action. Just watch portion sizes, since both sorbet and sherbet (the latter of which often contains dairy) can be high in calories. 7. Oysters Want to spice up your love life? While there may not be much clinical evidence to back it up, proponents of the oyster's aphrodisiac qualities swear by it. 8. Blueberries/Cranberries If you're prone to urinary tract infections, these fruity bites, bursting with tangy flavor, can thwart future flare-ups by preventing UTI-causing bacteria from adhering to bladder walls. 9. Dried plums (a.k.a. "prunes") This one's a no-brainer: An age-old home remedy used to promote digestion, they really work. Eat them as a snack or toss some on cereal, yogurt or a green salad. 10. Ice water While it's not technically a food, when it comes to immediate gratification, water takes the cake. The benefits are innumerable, ranging from cooling you down to reducing fatigue and boosting energy -- get your fill every day (at least eight glasses). |
WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT
The most destructive habit ............... Worry The greatest joy ............................. Giving The greatest loss ............................ Loss of self-respect The most satisfying work ................. Helping others The ugliest personality trait............... Selfishness The most endangered species ......... Dedicated leaders Our greatest natural resource........... Our youth The greatest "shot in the arm".......... Encouragement The greatest problem to overcome.... Fear The most effective sleeping pill......... Peace of mind The most crippling failure disease..... Excuses The most powerful force in life ......... Love! The most dangerous pariah ............ A gossiper The worlds most incredible computer.... The brain The worst thing to be without ................ Hope The deadliest weapon ......................... The tongue The two most power-filled words ............"I Am" and/or "I Can" The greatest asset ............................... Faith The most worthless emotion ..................Self-pity The most beautiful attire ....................... SMILE! The most prized possession ................. Self esteem The most powerful channel of communication ... Prayer The most contagious spirit .Enthusiasm "To the world, you may be one person; but to one person, you may be the world." "A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it Back to you when you have forgotten the words." Found this on EDiets.......thought it worth sharing! Hugs, Judy |
Hello Ladies!
I hope you are all doing well. Well, you all know how much I dread getting weighed at my nutritionist. I thought I blew it, I haven't been really eating what I'm supposed to and I haven't even journaled. I got on the scale and I was down 5 pounds! I was surprised! Hang in there ladies, we can all achieve whatever we set our minds to do, never give up on yourselves! Even you lovely lurkers out there, have faith sisters! Sylvia |
POST NEW YEAR
Twas the month after New Year's, and all through the house Nothing would fit me, not even a blouse. The cookies I'd nibbled, the eggnog I'd taste At the holiday parties had gone to my waist. When I got on the scales there arose such a number! When I walked to the store (less a walk than a lumber). I'd remember the marvelous meals I'd prepared; The gravies and sauces and beef nicely rared, The wine and the rum balls, the bread and the cheese And the way I'd never said, "No thank you, please." As I dressed myself in my husband's old shirt And prepared once again to do battle with dirt--- I said to myself, as I only can "You can't spend a winter disguised as a man!" So--away with the last of the sour cream dip, Get rid of the fruit cake, every cracker and chip Every last bit of food that I like must be banished 'Till all the additional ounces have vanished. I won't have a cookie--not even a lick. I'll want only to chew on a long celery stick. I won't have hot biscuits, or corn bread, or pie, I'll munch on a carrot and quietly cry. I'm hungry, I'm lonesome, and life is a bore--- But isn't that what January is for? Unable to giggle, no longer a riot. Happy New Year to all and to all a good diet!!! Have to keep this group going even if it's just by posting little things like this! Hugs, Judy |
Good morning girls! Sorry I have not been in to post lately - have been extremely busy ... just wanted to check in and let ya all know that I have been OP since the 1st and so far have lost 2 lbs! In case you haven't noticed, I also have faithfully posted my journal every day too!
Slyvia: Great job! 5 lbs! Thats great! Can anyone join Curves? It sounds very interesting ... well, just as soon as I get the rest of my decorations down and put away I'll get my treadmill out and dust it off - still nurturing my bad knee so don't want to agitate it too much yet. Sherry - where are you? Don't dissappear on us again! Way to go joining curves! Maybe, just maybe, I'll get the courage to join myself - we'll see! Keep us informed how you do and how yu like it ok? Well got to go get busy - taking my decorations down today - so sad ... always hate to put them away! I'll check in later - have a good day! Love, CJ |
OK ... I am starting a new thread right now cuz there is a surprise for you on the new one ... someone from the past is going to appear ..
DON'T POST ON THIS THREAD ANYMORE ... GO TO #92 CJ |
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