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Mod, Arabella! :wave:
Day 4 completed!!! And it was a beauty!!!! NO pauses left |
Day 3 down, Day 4 on the go
205.8. :carrot: :carrot: That's 1.2 down from Friday and the best part of a week to get more off for next week.
Good time to have a little progress, too, with this dinner coming up tonight. Here and now, I pledge: not a roll, not a chip, no dessert. (I might have one taste of someone else's but maybe not. Might not be prudent.) I could have those things with my saved points but I know I'd be up again tomorrow and I just don't want to see it. K, just going to look up a couple recipes and then DH and I are going for our long Sunday walk, which will take care of most of my steps for today. Hope all have a lovely Sunday! :wave: |
Hey all. I need to vent my mood - sorry :(
My aunt's funeral was yesterday. Was hard enough - my poor mom is just heartbroken, and then add in her brother, only remaining sibling, left without even saying goodbye. Then, I was wearing this sweater I loved - a soft gray I thought was so pretty and so flattering. I bought it when I splurged on some clothes that fit my new size. My cousin's aunt asked me when I was due. :fr: My mom said I should have told her "9 months and1 day after tonight, if I get lucky!" However, after losing 65 pounds, and wearing an outfit I thought was nice, to still be thought pregnant! I was crushed. The other thing is looking all around at everyone. I will be 38 in a couple weeks. I have nobody. I want a family of my own. It doesn't help when people say "you just haven't met the right person" or "you just need someone real special to appreciate you." I can't even attract attention from the wrong guys. The only time I have ever gotten any male attention was in college as a barfly. What is so wrong with me that guys won't even see if there is something worthwhile about me??? I used to joke that if nothing else, plan B was to be 90 years old, in a nursing home, wheel into some blind guy, get married, have one night of passion, and die from the experience. it isn't so funny anymore. What is the point of getting healthy and in shape, if I am going to die alone anyway??? Sorry. I am taking a few days here to see if it even matters anymore. Everyone else, keep up the good work with your challenges. |
Jolly--:hug: I feel so bad for you. I can't say I am in your situation exactly, but I feel your stress and agony even over cyberspace. And maybe I can't give advice, but it helps to talk it out. I do know someone who was with someone for 8 years. He never wanted to get married or have children. She was almost 38 and she decided she did want to get married and she did want a child. I don't know exactly how she did it, but she did. She broke it off, moved out, started going out with friends, etc.
Of course she started working out, losing a bit (although she wasn't really too much overweight) took care of her appearance and well, she met someone, got married and just had a baby! She is thirty-eight! All within a year-and-a-half. There are guys out there who think the same thing--they would really like to meet someone, have a family. I do think it is much more difficult the older we get--I mean, where do you meet someone if it isn't at school or at work? There is NOTHING wrong to look at this as another goal, another challenge to work towards. We cannot just sit around and wait for good things to drop into our lap in any other area, so why this? Maybe make it a priority to work towards, and heck, why do you suppose all these on-line dating sites are sooo popular? Thousands in the same boat--maybe living in small population areas, don't know where to go to meet the right kind of mate, etc. I personally know three people who met their spouse on-line. One is my brother--he and his wife have been very happily married for 7 years now. Two were people from work. And yes, the relationships there started out long-distance, but finally they got together and are married with kids now and everything. As far as the tactless cousin's comment--:devil: The problem with cold weather clothes is you have to cover up your shape so much. I lived in the Midwest for 41 years--I know! Try to shrug it off--I hope she didn't deliberately say that to be mean, but you never know. Don't give her anymore importance in your mind. You know what hard work you are putting in to change your life and let yourself be your own coach and motivator and inspiration. Try to find validation elsewhere, (like maybe here?) I hope things start looking up for you soon....... |
I'll throw in another comment -- Jolly, when you look around at all the couples, I'm sure you're thinking of them as happy. But you know a lot of them aren't even if they might appear to be in public.
I guess what I'm saying is that there are good things and bad things about both being married and being single. Whichever our situation, we just need to enjoy our lives. And I do think that if you want a partner it'll happen. Just focus on yourself, living a satisfying life. And as modcat said, it can all happen very quickly. Life can turn on a dime! xo |
Arabella - WTG on your loss! Look at your ticker go!! :)
Red - keep it up! In the long run - it is the BIG PICTURE which counts! Jolly - I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through such a rough time! I hate the "when are you due"? question. And you really have gotten soooo far! I hear ya on the being all alone part. Do you get out anywhere where you could meet new people and see new faces? I have been at work FOREVER today - 10 1/2 hours!! I'm going HOME now!!! Tomorrow night starts the holiday of Succot - (tabernacles) - for 8 days. Gonna need a lot of positive thoughts to both survive being home and not eat myself to death!!!!! |
rollin' rollin' rollin' keep them doggies rollin'....
Day 5 completed NO pauses left. :dance:
I notched another excellent day. OK, it's all made easy by the fact that I am NOT in the hated office. It's SO hard to notch good days when I don't want to be there. Let's see if I can continue. I have decided that the experiment with controlled sugar and alcohol is at an end! I simply cannot control it. Perhaps for a day or two or three but not in the long run. I slowly snowball, my eating and drinking along with my gut. Not pretty. ************** jolly -- :drill: PULL OUT OF IT!!!! "What is the purpose of getting healthy and in shape?" My God, do you think we're all here trying to get the bodies we love and get healthy in order to hook up or stay hooked up with some guy?!?!??! Please! Getting/staying healthy is about being able to get out and feel good about ourselves while we're alive, about being able to take advantage of this amazing world. Obviously. And, we ALL die alone. Man is mortal. Please forget the needing a guy thing. I know you're having a low moment here, but stop humiliating yourself. You, strong, independent, gutsy you, suddenly crumbling to the ground moaning about needing a guy. You're having the 38-year-old equivalent of a 2-year-old's tantrum, but it sounds better because so many more people are willing to buy into it. Have some pride. I am single, always have been, if I meet someone I like and he likes me, so be it, if I don't, so be it. I went to bars, oh, boy, did I ever. I wasn't looking for a guy, but I admit, somewhere in the back of my mind, maybe a little bit. Then I realized, my God, I've done this before. A bar is NOT where I'm going to find the guy I want, the guy I don't have to redefine to fit my likes. I'll find him DOING the things I love. So, just keep doing the things you love. If that's running, keep at it. You're probably not entirely happy with yourself yet though you've come light years. When you're totally happy with yourself, you and that guy will come together....and then YOU won't want him anymore... :lol3: Sorry, that's the way it works... And the pregnant comment, come on! You should have just turned to her and say, "It's not a baby. It's fat." Nothing biting, nothing defensive. It just is. And jolly, I bet you looked wonderful in your new sweater. :hug: |
full moon boogie!
Boy, oh, boy, oh, boy, I am having a GOOD streak. Just got home and am sitting down to my curry that I cooked this morning with extra veggies. Did a LOT of exercise today, walked, rode my horse, walked some more, jogged 3 K at the gym, did weight training, walked some more! Wow. Can we spell FULL MOON! (Twilight Zone music here...how many of you are too young to remember Rod Serling and that show?)
Well, I won't call it yet but Day 6 is looking to be a goner! You bet!! ************** jolly -- Have we come home from that little pity party yet? You just keep doing the things you love and being the YOU you love and things are going to come your way. It may take a loooong time, but all good things do. Don't forget that. :sunny: miriam -- I've been wondering about your motto under your user name there....does that "rowdy" part refer to the Red part, the team part or the member part? I'm afraid to ask. :rofl: Happy Succot! Arabella -- Congrats on that 1.2 lbs down. You can still make October Onederland! mod, Apple, beach, Shari, fit, others! How ya all doing? :wave: |
RED--LMAO! You are in fine form lately! I do agree with your point of view as well--we need to do this FOR US! And the point you made about once we get a guy, we often don't want him..:lol3:
Oh it's so good to see you feeling so good! I am so happy for you! Yeah I think we set ourselves up to fail, and are WAY too hard on ourselves, where others we would give a break. We are all making improvements, we have all come a long way. We should start being PROUD of ourselves. As Jillian said on TBL (this is the first season I have watched this show) why is it we think we don't DESERVE the attention and effort and money it takes to look and feel GOOD? Why are we cheating ourselves? Why do we put ourselves down? No real answer there, just, it makes you think, huh? :chin: miriam--my gosh, you have so many holidays in a row!!! How difficult it must be to stay on plan! Of course, you don't have Thanksgiving there, and I guess maybe no Halloween? But then Hannakuh--EIGHT days!! Is that an eating holiday with special food like Christmas? And you with 6 kids--of course you have to celebrate them all! I am realizing how difficult this journey is for you to be able to devote attention to yourself and be able to lose weight as well. WTG! :flow1: Gotta go to work today--Yaay! I'm actually happy these days to go to work--b/c my work week is too light. I need some $$$!! See ya later! |
Day 4 again.
Two pauses left. I didn't go overboard at all at the party last night but had a few too many rice crackers and dip. Stayed away from dessert, rolls, stuffing, potato chips as I swore I would. But I didn't track, maybe had a little more wine than I should have. So. Onward
207.2 again this a.m. but I'm sure it's the rice crackers and dip and will be gone again tomorrow. :yes: I'm sure I wasn't over calorie-wise. Red, what a great rant -- High FIIIIIIIIIVE, Girlfriend! And the important thing is to remember to be ourselves and live our lives whether we're partnered or not -- sometimes it's much harder to do that WHEN we've got an SO, in my experience. So many trade-offs. Miriam, good luck with the marathon of holidays! So hard to keep focused when they're so relentless, huh. Modcat, I loved it when Gillian said that. And it seemed like the first time she was being really genuine instead of reading a script, too, which was nice. K, Wimmen, let's get out there and do this thing! |
Day 6 is done!!!!
Morning all. Accounting for yesterday before getting out to the gym AGAIN!! Holy smokes, did she say A-G-A-I-N?!?!? Yup. Although I'm sore and stiff, I am on a high, a high thanks to yours truly -- ME! ;)
I used to do 5 K on the treadmill no problem but got out of jogging. So, starting back was daunting. I played with 2 K for a week. It was sheer boredom. I literally count the tenths of a kilometer. 60 steps, split it up 5-5-10-20-20. I have all sorts of counting methods. Anyhow....yeah I'm afraid of going to work today. The place always kills my spirit, my joie de vivre, my everything, so this will be a test of the great stuff I got under my belt over the past few days, a long weekend here with a holiday on Monday. I'm preparing for it though, with an apple and lunch packed. Wish me luck, please. :trampo: ************** modcat -- Thanks! Yes, jolly hit a nerve. Living in Japan, it's even more in your face than in the States, where it permeates the TV and media. But, here, it's common conversation. If you're not playing mama to some sorry excuse of a man, then you must be a lesbian or perhaps a transexual or in drag. In any case, something's gotta be wrong! :eek: Oh, and the not wanting the guys when they start to show up is funny. Even I start to doubt whether I haven't become more like an amoeba or something, asexual or a hermaphrodite perhaps! :rofl: Whatever, I am getting fed up with now being told I'm "masculine" because I'm not bent on landing a GUY. Oh, give me a friggin' break. That right up there with the "you look good for your age." This, sweetheart is what my age looks like, so get over it and take better care of yourself and stop trying to justify your bad habits by telling me I look good. Sigh. Oops, I said this was going to be a short post. Just letting my oatmeal cool, just letting my oatmeal cool. Arabella -- High five to you too! :high: Jolly had no idea what she was getting in to.... :lol: The other night there was this guy telling me he liked older, strong, independent women, that he loved all the songs I'd been playing (was kind of DJing it with my iPod hooked up) and it was like he was expecting me to be absolutely blown away by his attentions. I couldn't have cared less. It was like, "oh, really, that's nice." He was cute enough but not the kind of guy I'm going to go gah-gah over. (Oh, I do see them still occassionally...one, a flamenco dancer the other night..oh, please just sit next to me so I can look at you all day long....) Deep exhalation. Now, years ago, I would have been so happy for the attention (since I never gave MYSELF any credit), and then three months later been wondering why I had once again dragged home some needy puppy of a guy. Those days are over! Anyhow, good for you for keeping to your calorie count. Keep those numbers coming DOWN! |
Going to do a start-over
Just because I feel like a fresh start. I did well yesterday but skipped yoga/tai chi. I got over 14500 steps in. Eating was good. But. Let's call this Day 1. 207 this morning, which is where I was last Friday. I'm going to be very vigilant this week to ensure I see a loss at WI.
Here's my list. Three pauses:
I know what you mean about the attention, too. I like it but it doesn't rock my world. I wonder, sometimes, what possessed me to get involved with some of the men that I did. All that pressure to be part of a couple, I think. :p I consider myself happily married but it really involves a lot of compromise and sacrifice. All right, time to get nose to grindstone. Going to get a bit done, drink some more coffee, go for a run. Let's make this one work for us! |
Hi everyone!
I am so sick of myself and lack of control over food!!!!!!!! I can't exactly blame the holidays, can I - when it's me doing the Cooking, baking - and of course - the EATING!! Grr! Sometimes I wish I wasn't such a bad-a$$ baker! Hah! Anyway - I feel physically nauseous about all the food I ate and I can't escape it - I have another week + off work and home with the kids, and all you mommies know that kids off school equals one thing, actually - two: I'M BORED and I'M HUNGRY!!!! Sheesh. I need a good kick in the pants. And "supportive" DH went and bought a whole ton of goodies, as if my homebaked stuff wasn;t enough to get fat on. RED - you're sounding great!Almost a week down! WTG for planning your food and packing your lunch. I was actually thinking to make some sort of weekly menu of things for me to take to work (I have to take 2 meals as I work freakily weird hours). Wish we had a microwave. Are you still drinking green juice? And BTW - rowdy - just my personality :) ARABELLA - Happy thanksgiving - I see you are in canada. You have a heck of a long list of challenges! Good luck on them!! Anyone feel like posting a menu? I'm feeling clueless. MODCAT - Hannukah? HELLO - the holiday with deep fried jelly donuts and fried potato pancakes?! Ugh!!! I'm trying to get through this one - we have wed, turs, fri, sat, sun,mon, and tues to go..... Regarding spending time and money on ourselves (Jillian's comment) : As a mother, I've always seemed to put everyone first. My husband, my children, etc... aDn at some point - I got to the realization that if I don't take care of myself, I won't be able to take care of anyone else! (Duh - right?) But regardless - each one of us is important as a PERSON, not who they are related to or what job they hold etc. We are ALL important, certainly more than the food we put in our mouths! <now - when will I internalize THAT one?? :) > Have a great day! |
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I'M SO GLAD I FOUND OUT ABOUT THIS!
I can't believe I was doing it wrong all these years. WE MUST SPREAD THE WORD!! The correct way to weigh yourself: |
Roflmao!!
:yes: NO WONDER I don't seem to be losing any weight! Thanks for pointing us in the right direction, Red!!! :)
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