Hello Ladies,

I think you definitely hit my reasons. I know when I was in sixth grade and I was very big chested that summer I went up two blouse sizes. The next year the boys didn't really say anything to me cause I was just fat. As I grew up I continued to keep that shield. Now i'm in my 40's and I"m a yo-yo dieter. When I do lose weight and look good I can feel the stares. A while back I went to a baseball game with some friends and as we were walking up the stairs I could feel the stares, they were not looking at me but my friend. I asked her if it bothered her and she said no. She feels good when men/women look at her. I was feeling so self conscious and they weren't even looking at me.

Think i definitely need to work on that.

Wow...cool!! I went out with some friends last Friday and we were talking about this!!! I told them that I had discovered a lot about why I over eat, what motivates me to turn to food for comfort and why I have waited so many many years to change my pattern.
It is so interesting to make discoveries about ourselves...It is amazing how much junk we store deep inside ourselves and hurt ourselves so much, even though we could just change our behavior patterns and break the cycle!
That is what I want to do now!! Break the cycle!!
Thanks for starting this thread, it's awesome!!!

These days I go out and see men staring - at my 15-year-old daughter. I want to throttle them! Young boys are fine, but men my own age?! (no, not jealous of my daughter, just disgusted by these men)

Weight can be a shield, but I think in my case it was also a test. Always seeking that unconditional love, I believe much of my gain was to test my husband. He passed with flying colours, :angel: but I wonder if there was an easier way to verify his love and faithfulness?! All this is in retrospect, of course.