In-law Trouble!
 

Hi All!

Went camping over the weekend with my DH's side of the family. This has become an annual thing and I'm starting to get used to the idea. Anyway, because of all of the great suggestions last week, I was able to plan my meals and stay OP very well. I may have over done the trail mix a little though! You'll understand why!

I know...get to the point! Right...My In-Laws would stop by the campsite twice a day with cupcakes, Special K Bars, Rice Krispie bars and offer them to the rest of my family. Sometimes they would smile and say, "Sorry Barb" as they were waving them under my nose! Maybe I am just overly sensitive, but I got the feeling that they were kind of enjoying the difficult spot they were putting me in. Then at the evening campfires they would bring candies and pass them around or put them on my camp chair if I wasn't sitting there. My In-Laws are very nice people and we usually get along great.

My FIL is a type 2 diabetic, so you would thing that he would be sensitive to my sugar intake concerns. I have told them how much I have already lost, and that I am trying very hard to lose more weight. I don't know how to tell them politely to "Knock it off!" Any ideas?

Barb

People who don't diet or watch what they eat have no idea what it's like to stay OP in the land of junk food.
They Sound like Food is Love people they show affection with food and for some that's ok
hmm Maybe next time when you are at your goal weight! :D Counter with Some SBD friendly stuff sf candy etc
they probably figure since you're eating healthy your fam might be "deprived" somehow. its part of the food/love thing
Just my 2 cents
Kierie

In-laws have strange ideas of what is funny. Just take is as them teasing you and be thankful you don't live with them...you don't do you?

It's amazing how people view weight loss. Some people see every holiday/vacation as an excuse to go back to their previous way of eating, drop the diet until afterwards. Other non-dieters see it as a challenge to get the dieting person to break down and eat the fattening/bad things. At least that's how it is in my family, how fast will this person crack at Christmas? It's very annoying.

My mil thought that I was a terrible person because I wouldn't buy the cheap white bread when she came to visit. She was upset because that was what she used to feed her wonderful, oh so perfect son, who happens to be my DH. And how could I be so cruel as to inflict my food choices on the rest of them...of course she wouldn't listen when I told her we switched to whole grain breads because DH has high cholesterol and I didn't want him to drop dead of a heart attack. She went out and bought herself a loaf of white bread while she was visiting and tried to put away the good bread so her ds could have a decent breakfast..he didn't go for it. He was like, "Mom, if I wanted white bread I would have told Sarah to buy me white bread or I would have gotten it myself. I like the stuff she buys me."

Family-you gotta love 'em or they'll drive you crazy.

Strange.....
 

I don't know why people do that, but I think it's pretty common. My own mother does that. I'm supposed to go camping with them this week. I'm not gonig to go the entire 4 days just because it's so hard to stay OP when I'm not in a controlled environment. Especially since I've been so bad this past week.

I have a friend that's lost 20+ pounds and her own husband is trying to sabatoge her.

Barb, people like that just want you to "sink with them". :rolleyes: It's such an ignorant thing to do. Rise above it and ignore them as best you can, or simply don't discuss your weight loss with them.
Remember your worth, hon. :grouphug:

Very inconsiderate! But I'd assume that is all it is - either they just aren't thinking, or else they are trying to tease without meaning to cause you distress. If you have a good relationship with your MIL, maybe you could bring it up sometime when it's just the two of you - just let her know that you don't want them to feel deprived, but that they are making YOU feel deprived and left out. Maybe you could ask if they would mind being a little more discreet about handing out the goodies.

The other thing you could do is bring your own treats next time - OP treats. Make sure they are extra-extra scrummy, and then offer to share - they'll see that dieting doesn't have to equal deprivation!