Bamie darlin' - I think I would of looked your husband square in the eye & told him that I like him a lot more if he keep his damn mouth shut! Men can say some dumb things!! I know you look fab!!

Amen, Soon! :cp: Bamie, I'm distressed that your DH isn't supportive of you while you're recouperating from your knee surgery and not supportive of your weight loss either. :( You deserve better treatment. He is one lucky guy to have you and I hope he figures that out! :yes: Do I think my DH looks more attractive when he doesn't have a belly? Sure! Do I think he looks amazingly hot right now with a belly? Absolutely!!! :flame: :love: :flame: The love in his eyes, his muscley arms, the way he's done dishes for two years while I went to school, and the massages he gives me at night...you put that all together and I think he's the most wonderful man in the world. :love: Hopefully your DH just opened his mouth when he shouldn't have. :nono: Your personality shines through your posts and I know that if you are half as fun in person you must be an incredibly attractive woman!!! :grouphug:

Jenn, 'Honey Bunny'? That's SO sweet! :love: DF stands for Dear (or D**n) Fiancee. :D I hear you...but I bet that HB probably didn't eat much the day before, and didn't eat in between those meals. When you total her calories for the day, I bet they aren't much. In spite of the study, I do think some people have a faster metabolism. But I don't think it's fast enough to keep up with the diet I'd like to be eating, you know? :dunno: And perhaps that metabolism is a result of a lifestyle rather than genetic? Hmmm... Besides, you and I both know that those cupcakes and the breakfast HB had aren't healthy. She can gain muscle to gain weight and gain a little fat from eating healthy food. So have a talk and get those cupcakes out of the house. Stock the house with food that you can eat if you want to (I have a pantry cupboard full of triscuits and sweet potato chips for DH) and ask HB not to eat the other stuff in the house or in front of you. She can indulge at work if she really has to. It will be good for her, too. :grouphug: Yay for you on gaining so much muscle at the gym!!! :strong: That's awesome! Eventually, the muscle will help burn off the fat and the pounds will go down again. I'm sure. :D

Amy, your mom sounds horribly abusive! :grouphug: She must feel really badly about herself to feel the need to bash her daughter that way. :( You and I both know that the kind of guy you want to keep is the kind of guy who would fall in love with you because of who you are, not because of what you look like. In some ways, I'm thrilled that I met DH online because I knew that he loved me for who I am. :goodvibes: Your mom's way of eating isn't healthy and we both know it. :nono: You concentrate on being healthy and happy and let your mom be the jealous one when you are thin and happy, with a wonderful man, and she's facing endless health problems from her risky behavior. ;) BTW, why are you drinking Low carb milk? They put tons of crap in that stuff, and we can totally drink the regular kind with no problems on SBD. Do you get cravings from drinking regular? :?:

Thanks Chickies! DH is not a nurtouring (sp?) or compassionate person at all! He thinks it helps me to say the things he does. Coming from someone who has never had to worry about their weight or what they ate! I just have to ignore him and his comments. I have to ignore the fact that he can eat whatever whenever and not gain an ounce but for me it is not like that. I just have to do what is best for me and forget the rest! I try to cook healthy and he always makes comments about your the one on the beach not me. I've tried to explain that he is over 40 now and needs to cut out all his grease and junk he eats and he says nope I don't have to eat like you do. He could eat pasta every meal I think. I told him fine when I'm living off his SS cause he is dead from a heart attack or clogged arteries I'll be enjoyin life! lol

Anchor...I'm sorry you have to live with it as well! You know even when I weighed 105 lbs I never made comments like that to people. It's like what were you thinkin...Oh wait you weren't thinkin! Hello you have guys flirting with you all the time like you are so what's up with her?! I'm sure she thinks she is doing the right thing. She just needs a lil guidance in what not to say to her DD!

Wow you guys, great thread. Laurie and Amy, what insight! I thought the controlled environment/calories in, calories out was really interesting. Now that I think about it, there are definite differences between us and the thin people. I do think about food most of the day. As soon as I'm done eating I'm planning what I will eat next. I'm hoping some day I can be one of those people who don't constantly think about it. I need to retrain my brain!

Maybe I will get HB to use FitDay and track what she eats...

Always an idea!

I don't want to deprive her of not being able to eat in her own home. While she's supportive, and if it really bothers me, I can be the one to walk away.

New day, new attitude I suppose.

Or it could be that she just called to suprise me for a date tonight. I was supposed to get tickets to a WNBA (women's national basketball) game tonight but didn't. So she suprised me and bought two tickets.

Now dinner is going to be a problem :lol: chipotle should be ok, as long as I get a burrito bowl with lettuce (no rice) meat and beans -- and it's AFTER the game (beans + basketball = public restrooms!) :lol:

I was wondering what HB was and all those other ones. we need like a code page just so us out of the loopers can figure out who people are talking about. he heee

Jennie,

I know there is one...search the forum!

Hey, just wanted to say absolutely great thread. I echo so many of your thoughts. IMHO, (opps--in my humble opinion) if HB was really supportive, she would absolutely not eat of all things Haagan Daz in from on you! That is purely torture!DH doesn't really "get" South Beach yet, in what I can and cannot have, but he's very supportive and did not even complain about the protabello pizzas last night, even though he culd have. (bite, then "is this a mushroom" humm" and ate the toppings) I have to keep telling myself that my body does not accept sugar bread etc. I know what you mean about living with a skinny person (6'3, 155, 33 in waist--imagine the Kenyans who win the Boston Marathon......) But it's true--he eats WAY less than me. Speaking of Weigh Down, something she said, "Look at what a skinny person eats, and compare it to your own." Over the long haul, very different....anyway, got a sick kid, so much go.

Jenn, just curious to see it it's any better? Sometimes getting it out is 99% of the problem, for me at least. Like some sort of purge.

We actually had a talk over dinner last night. We went out. I had a cobb salad (without the tomatoes and with FF Ranch Dressing) and she had meatloaf, mashed potatoes, baby carrots and a strawberry shake.

We ate the same thing almost yesterday -- she had lucky Charms for breakfast, a 98% FF pastrami, FF Cheese on wheat with mustard for lunch and cheese stick as snack.

I ate the mock french toast pancake scramble with turkey bacon for breakfast, cheese stick as a snack, pastrami slices, 2 slices FF cheese, green olives and cucumber for lunch (no bread!) and then dinner.

We talked a bit. It's the fact that I CAN'T have these things that makes me want them. She told me she felt bad about eating in front of me and we came to a comprimise -- if it bothers me, I mean really is bothering me, I ask her not to.

I won't abuse this but if there is a time when I can't take it anymore, I will ask her to move away! :)

Thanks for the support all!

Jenn, I'm glad the 2 of you were able to talk. Keep up the good work.
Lydia

That's great, Jenn. :) Communicaton is everything. :grouphug:

Jenn, I'm glad you're working through it. Good job!

Yahoo for Jenn! :cb:
The only one I have to worry about in my house is my almost(2 more months) 4yr old son. He always has to have what I am eating. lol
My mom is not really supportive, and not really downing it either. We have a 'do your own thing' policy. I am just hoping that when I really start losing, she will want to do it. She is just literally so busy sometimes, she forgets to eat. But as her daughter, I know I will eventually wear her down. And cheaper on groceries too (not having to buy 2 sets, lol).

Jenn: your HB sounds like my friend Laurie. Laurie is about 5'9" and thin. But she is out of shape and really kinda doesn't have a sexy body! There are all kinds of sizes and fitness levels. It is so easy to be jealous, but I think health is the key. I am 35 and so now I really focus on being healthy because I don't want to have to take medication for anything. I just ran a 5K. I am 159 and 5'4" I know Laurie would NOT be able to do this race. I have gotton over the idea of size equals in shape.

Please focus on your muscle building, your endurance, and your healthy eating! You CAN and you WILL end up healthy. I'm sure HB loves you in any shape or form. I know I love all my friends no matter what!

Sandi