Issues with my behind
 

So one of the ladies I work with informed me that my stomach looks smaller & that my behind "looks different". I asked how it looked different, different smaller? Her reply was "no....just different." Talk about a complex! :dizzy:

HaHaHa...what a nice lady! Well your butt used to look kinda round, now it is sorta retanglish. Hmmm...maybe if she wasn't so far up there, she could see better.

Chill with the complex, your but looks just fine from here :)

Well, think about it - since you started SBD and stopped eating all those bad foods... You quit while you were ahead, before you got more behind! :oD

what different? and why is she looking at your butt... that's weird... btw, I agree your butt looks pretty normal in those pants... ;)

sometimes ppl don't know how to compliment :p

I have issues with my behind and my thighs. I have lost some inches in my thighs, but not as much as my waist. Does anyone have any good leg exercises to make my thighs lean and not bulky? I have tried pilates, but it is going to take getting in shape before I can even do that!! I am not as agile as I used to be!!!

Soon...I am sure that the donught lady put her up to sayin that! lol Some people just do not know how to say the right thing. I guess they have never heard the ol sayin "Better to keep your mouth shut and appear a FOOL than to open it and prove your a FOOL!"

mrscharleston.... When you find a way to get rid of thighs let me know! When I was younger I did every exercise known and they went no where. I have heard docs say the only way to get rid of them is to have them sucked out! I can assure you if I had the money these things would be gone! Good luck!

Soon, I can tell you that your butt looks amazing!!! :flame: That woman is just jealous or she's afraid of coming off gay by saying that you look mahvelous, dahling! :D

I think we all have these complexes, though. I was somewhat comforted to hear that Shania Twain, queen of the bare belly, thinks her legs are hideous. She covers them up, always. Watch her videos and pictures...and you'll see it. She never shows her legs, always arms and stomach. Isn't that funny? :D I'm sure we look much better to other people than we do to ourselves...

I take an exercise class called Pain in the Butt. It really has made a huge difference to the way my legs and butt look. I have defined muscles now and have even been told by one instructor that I have great legs. My thighs are much firmer than they used to be. The class is really a pain and requires quite a bit of balance (which is not my strong suit) but it works.

We use the bowflex a lot. We get either in front of it or behind it and put one foot on the bowflex while we do lunges. We do this while we have a weight bar on our shoulders. We also balance on the bowflex on one leg while holding our bench on its side for balance with one leg up and a riser on our ankle. We also do leg lifts in various positions.

I go to Bally's but I would imagine that most gyms would have some class to work on the legs and butt. I take Pilates as well but that doesn't seem to help as much. Powerflex is great especially since it works the arm muscles which don't get used much in the other classes.

I have issues with my behind, thighs, waist, hips, arms..need i go on?? LOL I think everyone has issues with something on their body. Even the people who are perfect shape has issues with something. I've learned over the years, to be happy with what i have and if I do'nt like it, then I need to do something to fix it.. and here i am..

Thanks guys....I must work with a bunch of toxic people. Barb - they actually call the call "Pain in the butt!?!!!" I've seen it in the excercise thread, but I thought it was your nickname for the class....that's funny!!!!! :rofl: At least you know what you're getting!!

Hi Soon :wave: Don't let that comment get you down,shes just envious on your process are losing inches. Hugs :) BB

BB - yes! Thanks! Guess what!!!! She's right, my behind DOES look different - I was in a sz 18, sometimes 20. I bought a sz 16 skirt for summer, thinking I could lose weight & it would fit by summer....I was wrong. I modeled it for the DBF last night!!! I can hear the angels singing!!!!! :angel:

Soon2bfab, that's wonderful, girl!! :hat: I'm so happy for you!! :dance:

So I'm wondering if people are just all around mean? Do you notice when you've lost some weight people say something nice, but then go on to say something mean? I hate that. Yesterday at work I was wearing a smaller pair of pants, because I lost a size, so it makes sense to wear a smaller size, right? I thought so. One girl commented on how small I am getting, and another made some mean comment on my new pants. Why I ask you.. WHY? I think I can answer that actually... when I tell them I'm on a diet and being successful, I once got held down by 2 people and got a cookie forced into my mouth! Stupid stupid people.. alright I'm done venting :)

I've heard that doing pilates stretchs your muscle and makes it appear smaller. I don't get it, but I have the pilates buns and thigh DVD from Winsor pilates. I can always feel the difference in my legs when I'm doing it regularly... it's covered in dust now.. heh...

-Aimee

Aimee - I don't think people are mean, at least I would like to think so. I think it is more jealous. My grandma tells me that if someone can overcome jealously, they can overcome anything. I think she has a point...we all know how HARD it is to lose weight. I think they are jealous that we are sticking to something & making things happen! (just an idea!)

soon2Bfab - I think I might agree with you there... the only reason I've been successful this time with this "diet" (I call it a way of eating, because after phase 1 I just kinda added things here and there, and if I had a BAD BAD day, I just kept on going, not quitting, or starting over).... alright, so the reason? I didn't tell anyone but my bf and best friend. I just said I wasn't feeling good if people offered me bad food, or said I was going thru a "cooking phase" and thats why I was bringing all my lunches. It worked! I suspect it's out now that they can tell I've lost weight. I'm babbling (I was stuck at home today... because I didn't want to get dressed ;) ). Btw, isn't the transition from 18-20 to a 16 the most gratifying thing in the WORLD?

-Aimee

Aimee, I'm so sorry about those girls at work. :grouphug:
I think Soon2bfab is right. I think that some slim people feel they've got an "edge" over us chubbies. They feel superior and in control. When they see that we're getting slimmer and feeling more confident about ourselves, they panic. Which I think says something about their own lack of self-confidence. :rolleyes:

Swim - yes a 18 to a 16 is wonderful! I'm looking forward to sz 14!!

I can't wait until I've shrunk back to a size 16! Oh man.. it makes me drool... EXCEPT! Get this! I was doing SOO good today, good breakfast, good snack, good lunch, and BAD BAD dinner!

So the girls at my work are all chubbies, one always prizes herself on being thinner than everyone... but she's not. Man, the girls at my work aggrivate me! *growl*

-Aimee

Swim - just get back on track today & forget the bad dinner.
As far as the one "thin" girl at work, let her have her moment, because soon enough you will be the "thin" one!

Soon, you are so right. I wasn't the largest at work, but I wasn't the smallest, either. There is one young girl here who is very tiny. When I started on SBD, I didn't make a big thing of it to anyone. If I was offered something sweet, I just smiled and said "No thank you," and if they pressed, I just used the excuse of I'm too full right now, or don't feel like it, whatever, to put people off.

Now, I am the smallest of the ladies at work and the rest can't figure out how I accomplished it while they weren't watching. :lol: However, the previous smallest one doesn't talke to me anymore...that's OK, too. I know she is just jealous and can't handle it.

See swim....I'm right! AND the girl that made the remark about my behind....she tried on clothes today (I work in retail) & she was wearing a size bigger than me - HA! Who's behind looks different now!?

I totally agree that it's a jealousy thing!!!! They want to be thinner and lose weight like you, but instead of doing the work to get there, they are mean b/c they are too lazy or not motivated. So, they are mad that you are strong enough! :devil:

About losing weight in the thighs/legs. I have found the the dreaded beast of an elliptical trainer is doing the trick for me!!! My pants fit sooo much better in the legs! I finally have noticed a difference in my belly too. However, my butt is definitly looking different. I won't say better, but different. I think my weight is shifting from my chest to my butt. I noticed when I lost my first 100lbs that after about 25, it started shifting the weight. I would lose an inch in my upper body and gain an inch in the lower. Strange, isn't it?

Anyway, the elliptical is really great. It's hard in the beginning, but you slowly build up your endurance and now I'm up to 40 minutes!!! :D