ugh. DH is pissing me off. My mom is coming into town tomorrow and I have all this crap to do around the house and in the yard and what does he do? Plan a man-date for tonight and also wants to take DS1 to the park tomorrow morning (something which I usually wouldn't mind..until I figured out that he's meeting a buddy of his at the park and they will talk and talk until one of them realizes that DS is no longer in sight). I asked him to stay home and help out around the house and he said "what does you having things to do have to do with me?"....arseface....the fact that he pulled up weeds and they are still in a pile in the middle of the backyard despite me telling him three times to pick them up, an outlet needs to be replaced in the guest bathroom and I've told him twice to replace it (even went to lowe's and bought the darned receptacle and placed it in the guest bath - to which he asked why it was so urgent "not like we use that bathroom much anyway"....although we're having a houseguest for a week who might appreciate having an outlet that works in her bathroom).
Plus, who wants to stay home and do chores while hubs is out playing video games? He said "but the new levels came out today and I just *have* to play them...my friend will be so disappointed if I can't play with him"....what the crap, you're 30. If only I had time between changing diapers and doing dishes and laundry to putz around for hours at a time.
Men. He is so lucky he's cute. Although, the longer that he stays away from home, the longer his to-do list gets. I don't feel like folding laundry? Oh, Alex can do it *writes on list*...assembling the most annoying shoe rack in the world? Sure! He'll *love* to do it.
Oh, how he will regret telling me to "just make a list, I'll do it when I get home"
My wonderful hubby informed me one day that since he paid the bills, everything in the house was my job. You can imagine how that went over. If it's his job to pay bills, it's my job to make them. How 'bout a pedicure and a new dress? I said this somewhere before... People, men especially, think that SAHMs sit around having play-dates, eating bonbons and watching Oprah. Whatever!!! We work our bottoms off -- and the pay sucks!
You are right, Zeff. It's better to vent here. A big fight never makes anything better. Passive aggression makes things better.
Oh my. DH learned awhile back to not even approach that subject with me. Until school starts in the fall, he "works" for maybe 2 hours a day...most of that "work" is spent bs'ing with his dad about different cases. He tried to do the old "I bring home the bacon..." schtick and I cut him off mid sentence and told him that if he was going to complain about having to work "so hard" that I would gladly trade with him. Just one morning like today and he would be back at work and helping out around the house when he got home.
at you making the bills if he is going to pay them! A pedicure sounds lovely...I had contemplated getting one today but DH has a tutoring appt. right after my hair appointment today and someone needs to watch the kids.
As much as I love my family, I can't help but think back on how easy my life was when I was single.
ETA: Chel, play-dates are not fun at all. DS1 has play-dates all the time over here and his friend's parents don't really understand the "rules" of play-dates. They are early showing up and late picking up, they don't help clean the house after their kid destroys it and I can't tell you how many times a parent has dropped the kid off and told me that they are probably hungry so a snack might be in order. Oh really? You couldn't have fed them before this hour long play session? *eyeroll*
Jeff actually does work hard to 'bring home the bacon'. I would just like for him to appreciate how hard I work. I don't contribute money to the household, but am absolutely a contributor to the family. Who else is going to pick up his <bad word> socks???
Auston is having a playdate today. His cousin, Shepard, is here. They are both 5, and it's much easier than it was when they were 3. They both wipe their own bottoms.
So, there is light at the end of the tunnel? I was hoping so.
So....I have a hair appointment at 3. One that I have had been trying desperately to score so I could have a trim before my mom came in town and my stylist has been full -- there was finally a cancellation. Yay! Well...I've known about it since Monday and DH has known about it as well. I reminded him of it last night and again this morning. Is he here to watch the kids? Nope. The salon is 20 minutes away and it's 8 minutes to 3. Thankfully I've never had to cancel or miss an appointment or I would be charged for the service.
Ha you gals are funny. Sorry the men are being buttheads. Just remember, they can't help it, it's the mommies that ruined them...
DH and I both work so neither one can say we are the one that pays the bills. But I still end up doing most of the work around here. He takes care of the cars, cuts the grass and takes out the trash, but then his time is his own. I refuse to make him lists. Nobody makes a list for me or tells me when the laundry needs to be done, so why should I make one for him? It would make me feel like his mom, or a nag. That's probably why I end up doing most of it. He'll see me cleaning the bathroom and say "I would have done that, why didn't you tell me you wanted it done?" Hello, am I the only one the can SEE the pee on the toilet seat? For 20 years my friend has been telling me I need to get over it and just make the damn list. I guess I'm as stubborn as he is blind.
Hey, why are you guys making me feel angry with DH? I was feeling pretty before I read this thread!
Sadly my mom is not feeling well and has canceled pizza night. Sad because I feel badly for her and want her to feel better of course, but mostly because the kids usually spend Friday night with her and I was really looking forward to grownup time. Now I feel very selfish.
Cyndi, you must have been busy today after all - Happy Spring to you! Ruth, had to google that Nuit Blanche. That's a new one on me. Twynn, did you get your outing? Barb, thank goodness for that mute button!
Stay warm me4life!
Feel better diva! littlechick, your outing tonight does not sound like fun, but I'm sure your friend will appreciate the effort. It must be very hard on your DH. cottage, hope little Maggie is feeling better. Laurie, sorry about your non-relaxing yoga experience!
So, I've got the evening at home and I'll try to get ahead on some weekend things. Lots going on tomorrow, with horseback riding lessons, Girl Scouts activities, my niece's birthday party, and our XBox LAN party at the town hall. I've got to go shopping for refreshments to get the kids through the night.
Have a fun Friday night.
Last edited by Schmoodle; 03-20-2009 at 04:19 PM.
Reason: ETA: Butt kicking at zeff's house tonight!
Schmoodle - It was crazy from the minute I got in until the minute I convinced the two remaining people we should close Sorry about your night, I thought it really was a date (apparently I have Friday night brain and it's not working well. ignore me)
Funny thing about all the DH slackers out there - chores are divied up around here too. I'm the person who does most of the cleaning, gardening, and cooking (that's because I prefer my own cooking) and DP does the mowing, the network & tv stuff, and deals with service people and the landlord because I get cranky. We each do our own laundry. I'm sure it occurred to someone that mowing is only necessary a few months out of the year while cleaning.....That occurs to me frequently.
Laurie - Both my yoga teachers are focused on form and centering. I would be unhappy too.
Hope all the sick Chicks and family and friends are feeling better now.
I'm going to hop on the treadmill for a few to unwind and to work off the unmentionable treat.
Robert never used to do much around here. It's a lot easier for me now. I know if I want it done that either Brian or I are going to do it or I'm going to pay someone to do it. Right now I do our yardwork and clean the pool and everything. I spent so much time resenting that he didn't do stuff while I was the one that worked that now I have so much less resentment.
It's been a noisy afternoon here. They got me to play with them on an auto racing game on the Wii but I'm just not very good so they are now playing by themselves. Brian is having a good time and that is what is important.
Cyndi, you are wrecking my fantasy of finding a nice girl to settle down with one day. I've always wanted a wife. I guess it just comes down to picking (or training) the right girl or guy.
I said this somewhere before... People, men especially, think that SAHMs sit around having play-dates, eating bonbons and watching Oprah. Whatever!!! We work our bottoms off -- and the pay sucks!
at you making the bills if he is going to pay them! A pedicure sounds lovely...I had contemplated getting one today but DH has a tutoring appt. right after my hair appointment today and someone needs to watch the kids.
before I read this thread!
Now I feel very selfish. 
