I wouldn't put it past him either; not that I know him obviously, but I've dealt with a lot of spiteful people and I know exactly how they will behave. He sounds um, charming (not! :lol: ) I bet the counselor is going to write a very good report about you. I hope the trial is soon as well. My mom was telling me yesterday that sometimes custody and stuff like that drags on forever, and it's so much easier on the children and everyone else when it can get done sooner than later. (like in bf's case, if his mother hadn't had temporary custody for 3 years, she wouldn't have grounds to try to win custody, for example.) Then again, I guess it differs from state to state. In NC divorce is usually done in 2 months if uncontested, easy and simple, but bf's lawyer lied and lied. When ex-wife filed for the divorce, and bf signed his papers, it took just a few weeks and it was finally done and over with for good. So that part is simpler here, but the custody thing seems to be a lot more difficult to get done.

That is very lovely of him, how he didn't give you your share of the stimulus package, especially considering there is a son in the mix! I say again, he sounds very charming. If you get to mediation, I hope it goes really well for you. Keep us updated on what goes on, and I hope things get better soon.

That's a great idea to keep the cat food in containers, because those nasty bugs just LOVE cat food. I have come out in the middle of the night to get some water, just to see roaches swarming in the cat dish. It was looking like Joe's Apartment up in here! Ugh.

OOh, that stuff sounds interesting, definitely gonna try to find it, sounds very safe. (diatomaceous earth, = d earth, minus r, = death! dieee!)

I will definitely take a picture because if those nasty things start exploding all around, I will be happier than I have ever been. It WILL be a camera-moment. Like- SERIOUSLY. I am dead sick of these bugs. I see them out now, and I'm just like, w t... grrr!

I think my outdoor cat was eating a gecko the other day; it certainly wasn't a lizard. But then again, I'm not sure if we have geckos in NC, although I don't know why we wouldn't. I imagine we do. Bf is scared he would wake up with one crawling on his face if we got some.

Grr now I have to do the dishes from dinner, and I am lazy. I have one more question though. How old are you? I don't know how old your picture is, but I'm guessing you are not too much older than me (22.) Since you're married with children, I am guessing mid 20's or almost mid-20's then. Am I right?

An uncontested divorce without children can be very fast here. I've done that before and it was easy. Having a kid makes it a lot tougher because they require the social study. They also required a parenting class that was really good but Robert was in the same session and he kept making remarks about me. And since this is contested, that makes the divorce take a LOT longer. I feel like my life is on hold until it is final though. Especially since he is convinced I was having an affair (I'm not). I'm certain he is the one that spread rumors among my scouting friends so that I had to answer to the district executives. He almost got me removed from running Twilight Camp because the new district director didn't know me. Luckily I am well respected within scouts so he couldn't hurt me as much as he tried.

I do feel for him because it's tough for him to support himself after going 6 years without working. I'm sure he doesn't make much working at Starbucks. The child support is based on minimum wage since he wasn't working when they figured it. He was a Unix system administrator for many years but he didn't finish his college degree and computer companies seem to care these days. I guess the pending criminal charges for family violence also caused a bunch of companies to turn him down. The police filed the charges though so I never had a chance to refuse to prosecute. He has an anger problem and this batterer's intervention program they are going to make him take will hopefully help.

I love lizards and geckos! We used to play with the ones that ran wild in our neighborhood in Florida when I was a kid. We'd have lizard hunts and wear them as earrings. Looking back, that was definitely weird.