Okay, I've always been the same weight since I met my husband. 144. Before children, after children. But it certainly LOOKED a lot different after children (read: less muscle, more fat!!). But, 144 still isn't horrid for a 5'4" woman, is it? I was in a size 10 at that time...all my weight (well, most of it) was in my hips and thighs...and I admit, I was not comfortable nor happy with the way I looked.
He's always been most attracted to very fit woman. Think: cover of shape magazine or something. He goes to the gym all the time, and we're in a college town....so he sees these 20 something single childless workout women ALL the time.
So, now I've lost almost 15 lbs, and just bought a size 6 pants. Very proud of myself, and my husband is too. He keeps telling me I look sooo much better.
Then I was telling him I saw myself in the Penney's mirror. Are there ANY good mirrors? I swear, it almost exaggerates any and all dimples, fat deposits, etc. I told him he said it looks better, but it certainly didn't in those mirrors!! His response? "But you're definately going in the right direction".
It made me realize...he hopes one day I'll look like the Shape magazine cover. He is most attracted to those skinny, 12-15% body fat types that are toned too. It almost annoys me that that is his preference, and he wants me to look like that. It ticks me off that the media glorifies all skinny women.
I guess I always think back to "men will love you for who you are, not how you look", but looks are SOOOO important to him. He's never verbally said that's what he wants me to look like that, but I know it is!!
It's annoying to me. The evil/vindictive/bitter side of me gets made and almost makes me want to be counterproductive.
Anyone else's DH/SO have unrealistic expectations/wants? Disillusioned because of the media?