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Old 04-14-2008, 11:47 AM   #16  
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Way to go Kim on your scale victory & your non scale victory - keep up the great work
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hi ladies.

again, no personals, sorry. am just so.....spent the weekend at the hospital being poked, prodded, x-rayed, you name it and they did it.and sent home in pain because they couldn't find anything. and now i am on an odyssey from one specialist to another...keep ur fingers crossed for me chicas..last time it took them this long to find anything it turned out to be sarcoidosis, a mystery disease(auto-immune disease) so i am feeling v anxious
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Old 04-14-2008, 12:20 PM   #18  
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Janda sorry for all you went through. My for sure in hopes they find out whats going on.

Cottage hang in there with those WATP videos - it'll be woth it in the long run.

Going to get my lunch workout done so be back in a bit
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Ok, now I can go into details. DH went to the gym. He doesn't like me going to people and telling our business, but when he doesn't want to listen what else am I supposed to do?! My best friend suggested that maybe DS doesn't understand the whole picture. He knows it's wrong but he doesn't understand why it's wrong and what will happen, consequences, etc. So, Saturday night I talked to him. And lo and behold, he had no clue why it was so bad and doesn't understand consequences of both the good and the bad of it all. He doesn't understand the process of thinking things through. I also found out that he has no friends at school and these kids are very mean to him and he just wants friends so he'll do what it takes to get friends. I asked him why he doesn't talk with the good behaved kids and he said that they don't like him, that they hate him. I told him that he needs to stay away from the bad ones because they are just getting him in trouble, not them. They can sit back and laugh about it and they lied to the vice principle saying they didn't have anything to do with it and the vice principle believes them, not my child. I completely believe my child because he isn't the type to just do something like that out of nowhere. I am so frustrated about the situation with the vice principle and I know if I go higher than him, they will still be awarded "the win" and it'll still be completely my sons fault and the other child won't be in the picture at all. does anyone know what I can do about it?
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I am back from my lunch workout which consisted of a walk on the treadmil at a speed of 3.0 on incline 9 - what a workout as my legs are mad at me now.

TK sorry for all your going through
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Ok, now I can go into details. DH went to the gym. He doesn't like me going to people and telling our business, but when he doesn't want to listen what else am I supposed to do?! My best friend suggested that maybe DS doesn't understand the whole picture. He knows it's wrong but he doesn't understand why it's wrong and what will happen, consequences, etc. So, Saturday night I talked to him. And lo and behold, he had no clue why it was so bad and doesn't understand consequences of both the good and the bad of it all. He doesn't understand the process of thinking things through. I also found out that he has no friends at school and these kids are very mean to him and he just wants friends so he'll do what it takes to get friends. I asked him why he doesn't talk with the good behaved kids and he said that they don't like him, that they hate him. I told him that he needs to stay away from the bad ones because they are just getting him in trouble, not them. They can sit back and laugh about it and they lied to the vice principle saying they didn't have anything to do with it and the vice principle believes them, not my child. I completely believe my child because he isn't the type to just do something like that out of nowhere. I am so frustrated about the situation with the vice principle and I know if I go higher than him, they will still be awarded "the win" and it'll still be completely my sons fault and the other child won't be in the picture at all. does anyone know what I can do about it?
I have no idea about what he did, but I think I would schedule a meeting will all of the parties involved, VP, you, etc. How old is your son? How many other kids involved?

Hi everyone else!
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I have an NSV to share with you guys - I started my new kifestyle in May of last year and at that time my blood pressure (which was never high) came in around 120/70 well today the company nurse came in to do physicals and my blood pressure was 100/66 which she said is very good and even though my weight isn't coming off she said she can see a difference in my size and big difference in my health

Who cares about that scale
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Old 04-14-2008, 02:48 PM   #23  
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Tawnya, in my very humble opinion, I think you should just let your son "serve" the rest of his suspension and then be proactive about helping him learn better coping skills. It doesn't really matter at this point who is at fault because your son *is* the one who did the catch-able wrong. He has to know that, even if someone else told him to do it, it wasn't right to do. This same situation is going to come up again and again - teasing, bullying, pantsing, smoking, drinking, etc., etc. I understand that you're upset and frustrated that, were it not for the other boys, your son wouldn't be in trouble, but the fact of the matter is that he did do something wrong. The important thing now is to work with him to bolster his self confidence and sense of right vs. wrong so he can make good decisions in the future. Does the school have a counselor or psychologist? Could you request that he be given time with him/her? What he needs is a reason to behave. I never smoke or drank or misbehaved in high school because it was WAY more important for me to be healthy for gymnastics than to fit into some crowd. Your son needs that. What if you set up some system with his teacher where she could "grade" his behavior every day (maybe a smiley face or a sad face) and if he came home with a positive report every day for a week then he could pick a new toy at the dollar store or something. Maybe you'd have to start with a "prize" for every day he comes home with a positive report and then move to every two days and then every three and on and on until you've got him "weaned" to prizes only every week or month.

Good luck!

Kim, so excited about your whoosh!

Jan, hope they figure out what's troubling you!

Linda, thanks for the report on the four miler. I haven't done that one yet.

Off to clean out the car.

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well..good afternoon all:
Ruth: awesome beginning to a monday morning! I made me want to be there on the porch! LOL
Cottage: i know what you mean about the tight jeans You'll get them loose!
Femme: That chicken sounds yuummmy! you should post the recipe
Cyndi: hope you enjoyed breakfast..and you'll get through the busy week one crazy day at a time, don't forget to take breathers!
LC: welcome back to the track, hope you enjoy the kitty, it sounds quite cute! Makes me want one!
schmoodle: sometimes nothing exciting is good
TK: glad to hear that you're starting to get to the bottom of what happened with DS1. I don't know what to say to help you on this one. All you can do is take care of your son and hope he learns from this. Parenting is a hard job!
weez: sounds like a fun weekend, now to detox...LOL enjoy the slowdown
GB: thank you for the warm words and warm hug to you! Great news on the health front! That is what happened with my mom too. She started the beach and the dr's told her to not have a goal weight. They told her a goal size and to not look at just what the scale says. Congrats on changing your life!
kara: have fun in Florida, this is a good time to go
heather: for p1 I'm in the same boat as you..one day I'll get through it and so will you
Kim: Congrats on the scale move.. I'm sure that took endurance, great job!!
Janda: I hope you find out what it is soon, the worrying is the worst. Sometimes, knowing is better because you can prepare and do what you need to do. My thoughts are with you!

Me: well, I'm feeling a bit better. Got to sleep the night, feel a bit better. My hips are still sore but ok. I'm kinda relaxing today. Will head over to a relaxing dinner with the family tonight and then tomorrow family from all over is coming in... That'll be the big night... Other than that, I plan to start back full on the beach on either Friday or Monday...we'll see how things go...
My poor DH has been working by himself, I usually work with him. He is doing so much to take care of me.. Although, I am letting him get a bike for the summer
Anyhow to all. Thanks again for the tender thoughts, I appreciate it all!
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Old 04-14-2008, 03:20 PM   #25  
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Love your description of the robins, Ruth! I can just see them on your railing with Hershey conducting. DH and I took a walk with the dog this morning and heard a woodpecker. We couldn't find him in the tree but know what tree he was in. We saw a cardinal on one of the lawns too. There are little signs of spring everywhere. Love the graphic you attached, too. I know it won't be easy to be back in the gym, but I think you will feel a sense of euphoria at finally being back in there and doing "normal" stuff again. I was afraid to go back after my accident, but I felt so good after that first workout (emotionally--physically, I was sore!!!). I hope it's that way for you, too.

Yikes, sorry, Chicks! I had a bunch of students so I never got back to this!

to everyone!

Janda, I'm so sorry--but sometimes it takes a long time for them to find out what's wrong because it's not serious. That's happened to me, twice. Don't give up hope!

TK, have you considered getting DS into a class/group/etc. where he can meet other kids? If he knows he has friends outside school, that might bolster his self-confidence. I met my childhood best friend in preschool but we never went to school together after that. I didn't have many friends in elementary school, but I always knew I had Shelby, and that made me feel good. I'm glad you talked it out with him!

Congrats, Gonna, on that wonderful NSV!!!

Congrats to you, too, Kim on the weight and the AWESOME NSV!!! Tucking in your shirt is a MAJOR accomplishment, IMHO!

Me:
Busy day at work--but, hopefully, a quieter night at home. Off to the gym after work, then dinner and shower and getting the trash out to the curb.

A very dear friend of mine suffered a terrible and shocking death in her family. I'm still reeling and am praying that I can find a way to help her without intruding on her grief. My heart hurts so badly for her.

I hope everyone has a beautiful day!

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beachgal: I'm am very sorry to hear that. Call her up and ask her what she needs you to do. It may be a meal, a card a few Either way, she'll let you know what she needs. Just be there for her... to you to get through this also.
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td I am so glad to hear you are doing better - you and your family are in my prayers

Laurie I am sorry to hear about your friends loss - my thoghts and prayers go out to both of you

A great big to everyone
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we have been doing that and it was doing so good then all of a sudden this. We have become alot more "easy" on him and this happens, now we're back at phase one with him. The counselor doesn't believe my son either so a conference with all won't do. And I feel that the other child will still lie about it. These kids here are just terrible. They are very sneaky and mean to him and they know how to work around the system. My son on the other hand is very naive and isn't very "street smart" so he doesn't understand the right and the wrong in everything. He doesn't understand why it works this way and why not the other. Now with everything that he does, I have to question him to see if he understands why he's doing it and why it happens liek that. Alot of it he doesn't understand. Yeah, i believe I should just keep moving on and try to boost my sons confidence and to stand strong no matter what. I just can't stand the kids in his class. They are so naughty. The vice principle and counselor and principle have everything all messed up. I hate it. And my husband on the other hand just thinks my son is pretending to be stupid because he wants to be "babied". Well, the way things are going with my son and discipline and everything else, I'm pretty much his support right now (my son). I have to be the one to teach him to be strong, and confident. I have to be the one to teach him all over again right from wrong and about consequences and what happens, etc. I know that when he told me that the other kid lied to the vice principle and the vice principle doesn't believe him, I told my son that I do, I do believe him and I know that felt so good to him to hear that I am the one who believes him when no one else does. I told DH that we REALLY needs to be put into a sport or some kind of group so that he does feel accepted cause at school he's not accepted and he doesn't feel accepted by my hubby and probably me. He needs something that will make him feel really good about himself. DH agrees. Anyone know of any websites for free or cheap sports for children?
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TKglenn....Kara said it best....I think I would take this from the standpoint of a learning experience. Teach your son...can you do behavior charts at home/school? Daily check-ins? Have you thought about any outside counseling? Sounds like you are not happy with the school and what they have to offer? Does he have any kind of disabilities?

Just remember that schools tend to talk to EVERYONE involved and investigate the situation before jumping to conclusions. It would be odd that a bunch of kids all have the same lie down pat. In my experience with schools/kids is that someone somewhere will get tripped up in the lie and the whole truth will come out. Let's hope if this is the case with your son, the whole truth will come out when he gets back to school. Sounds like sports or a play group will be great for him.
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movielover-what is unique about this group is that they are getting smarter and smarter each year. They ALL bundle up and back each other up. It has happened in the past with my son. Yes, I can't stand the school he goes to, neither do alot of other parents that I have talked to but nothing can be done about it. These kids are smart and they know how to lie. They know to keep their mouths shut. My son came out and told the truth about it. Hopefully the truth will slip out of someones mouth. And even if it did, nothing would be done about it. It's a brush off the shoulder type deal and no one will get disciplined for it and my son will still be labeled as bad. It'll come out some time during class and maybe some one will tell the teacher but she'll brush it off. I hate the school he goes to and it sucks because they don't have open enrollment here so he's stuck here and can't go anywhere else. Yeah, I need to find something and a good friend for him. They do behavior conduct at school every day and he's been getting E's everyday (it's the highest conduct a student can get). He's been doing really really good. They did a full investigation but the other students are all lieing about it. I guess it's one of those--we'll see what happens.
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