I'm insecure, he's dedicated - how has losing weight with a partner gone for you?
Hello!
I have went through huge ups and downs, my lowest being 167 (about two and a half years ago) and my highest being 250 (about 4 months ago). I am now at about 245.
I have gained some good eating habits over my last very stressful year. Exercise was not something I was able to really fit into my schedule. I'm a teacher and it can be tough to fit it in. I am also very nervous to exercise in front of others.
My partner of two years has had a relatively stable weight for much of his adulthood. He is overweight. Recently he has taken up an opportunity of going with a really fit cousin of his to the gym. He was really excited. Trying to be supportive and partially not wanting to be left behind, I said that I would work out during the time that he does.
Today was his first day. He was pushed to the max and loved it. He was nearly too sore to drive. I, on the other hand, did a 40 minute YouTube strength/cardio workout, got my heart racing pretty fast and feel a teeny bit sore in places but I know I didn't put my all into it.
Unfortunately this is making me feel majorly insecure. I really truly love this man and I need to support him. But it's making me feel like I'm not good enough because I don't think I want to do that to that extent. I also asked if I could eventually tag along, but now this seems all too intimidating. But I'm also scared, I think, of him losing the weight at a different speed. At me disappointing him. And at me falling off the wagon when times get way more stressful and gaining weight back... again. Much of this likely comes from a past partner that made me feel very insecure for any minor weight fluctuations.
Should I communicate my feelings to him? Should I look on the positive of this and let it kick my butt into high gear?
What have any of you experienced with losing weight with your partner?
Last edited by mernathemenace; 09-25-2019 at 11:32 PM.
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