[Hopefulfatgirl]

Hi guys,
I'm Mandy I'm 32/230
I'm hoping this will help. Recently I was admitted to the hospital for extreme pain due to a kidney infection. I found out that I'm a pre diabetic so I decided I would change take back my life so I could have a happy ending. I lasted for two weeks and lost ten pounds, but then I relapsed and I've been snacking, drinking sode and not being active.
I know sugar addiction is a real thing but I had already it out of my system. Then I went right back and now here I am. I think part of the problem is my support system, or lack there of. I live with my cousin's both naturally thin and they eat tons of junk, it's not easy to watch a 95lbs woman eat half a chocolate cake a bag of Cheetos and a whopper in one sitting while you're eating celery. My "best friend" literally mocks me she has told me tho just take the diabetes and eat good food, or she'd rather die than diet. Good friend right? So I'm paying I'll find a support system on here so I can find happiness. I understand I'm the only person responsible for my actions and my outcome but I'm hoping for more support.

[TamaraLi]

Hi Mandy
My name is Tamara: I am 26 years old, a doctor and am in desperate need to save my life.
I weigh 186 pounds and need to get to 110 pounds to avoid my husband leaving me and our five month old baby.
I have always been overweight but managed to gain 78 pounds during my surprise pregnancy.
Although we have a five month old, my husband is working overseas and is so angry at me for being overweight (as I promised to be thin for our wedding but did not succeed).
I know he is a jerk, but I want my baby to have a father (and at least he is yet to have an affair despite being unhappy with me).

I totally know how you feel Mandy as I suspect my issue is portion control: (my sister in law is half my weight but eats a lot.... but I suspect she is lazy and skips meals at times).
I am in a situation where I do not drink alcohol, weets, chips, chocolates or oil. Not even much carbs.
I suspect my main issue is that I eat too much and am not physically active enough (whilst my sister in law runs on nervousness).

Mandy, one thing I have learnt is not to compare myself to others as I will become depressed. I am trying to make this weight loss program into a game. It is me against the weighing machine!

I have decided to reward myself for each kilo I lose with cash (where I have to spend it on things I like but would never consider buying myself such as an expensive haircut, dress etc).

Although I passed the oral glucose tolerance test, I suspect my insulin level is too high for my weight as I have dark areas around my neck and armpit.

I am happy to support you if you can support me.
Kind regards,
Tamara.

[mjf]

My "best friend" literally mocks me she has told me tho just take the diabetes and eat good food, or she'd rather die than diet.

You don't have to make that choice. You can eat good food, lose weight, and not get diabetes, all at the same time. All you have to do is eat tasty healthy foods. If you don't like celery then don't eat celery. There are many healthy foods to choose from. You just have to find the ones that you like.

Your friend will probably change her attitude within 10 years, when she starts developing health problems caused by her diet.

[mygoalz]

Hi Hopefulfatgirl and TamaraLi, welcome!

Mandy, I was diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes, and I recently have had a lot of success controlling my blood sugar with the LCHF diet when combined with intermittent fasting. Intermittent fasting is KEY because it cuts down on insulin levels in your body. (Tamara, that is probably why your sister-in-law is staying thinner - her skipped meals.) I'd be happy to share what I know about it with you and direct you to some links if you are interested. I agree with mlf, your friend will probably have to change her tune in a few years if she keeps going the way she is.

Tamara, if I'm not being too forward, I'm very concerned about what you wrote about your husband. I guess my questions are, why or how will your weight change your husband's attitude? Or will he simply change his complaint to something else because you still "aren't worthy"? If he has an affair, is that your fault or is it his moral failing to not keep his vows? (And is that the example you want for your baby as they grow up... If your baby is a girl, do you want her to learn to expect to be treated that way? If your baby is a boy, do you want them to grow up thinking that's how a man behaves towards a woman who has their child?) These are important questions because your weight loss journey needs to be for you and your health. Losing weight off of your body cannot change another person's attitude about their life and the people in it. If you do lose the weight and he's still negative, will you end up going back to unhealthy habits again because the reason you worked so hard to lose the weight didn't change for you? Is he willing to work just as hard to keep your very deserving self, or does he only want you if you are the one bending over backwards to please him? I'm not trying to tell you to leave anyone, but basing your motivation on pleasing your husband puts you on very shaky ground in reaching your goal to be healthier. Be healthier for you and so you can enjoy your baby. If your husband changes his tune, fine. If he's still, as you say, "a jerk", fine... then you can decide what to do about it. But lose the weight for you and what you want out of your life - whether it pleases him or not.