Hi EAH123,
I'm sorry that your weight is causing you to feel this way! It's a terrible feeling and I can certainly relate. I lose and gain the same 10lbs every 4 months or so (hence the name yoyodieter lol) and I always feel ashamed to see family when I'm up. I always feel ashamed at work too, because I feel like my coworkers must notice my never-ending up and down. When I'm up the 10lbs and I'm feeling down on myself, I get back on my healthy eating and exercising, which makes me feel better because it makes me feel like I'm doing something about the problem, and I change my internal dialogue. I'm stuck in this body right now and I can't change that, but I can change what I do about it and every day I'll get better and better. I also have a judgmental family that cracks jokes about weight so I know in the interim it can be hard to face every one, but if you know inside that you're making changes to better yourself, it helps with your self-esteem. I would certainly address the hormonal issues with a specialist, but in the meantime, healthy eating and exercise, even if light, might help to make you feel better about yourself. And I know that's easier said than done. I get stuck in ruts where I know that healthy eating and exercise will make me feel better but for whatever reason, I just can't snap out of my bad eating and not exercising. Like you said, I feel out of control. I tell myself when I get home, I'm not going to eat bad, and then I get home and I eat bad, and then I feel terrible about myself and the cycle continues. At the end of the day, I remind myself that I am the only one that can change it. I can feel bad for myself and make excuses but what does that do? I am the only one that can take the action to change. Even with a hormonal imbalance, you have the ability to make that change for yourself and I encourage you to embrace that sense of control and accountability, as that will help boost your self-esteem!
All the best,
Yoyodieter89