I am using MFP to track calories. I plan my meals the night before and so know exactly what (and how much) I'm going to eat that day (and how much exercise I need to do to reach my net calorie goal.)

DH could also stand to lose some weight (maybe 20 lbs) and so he is half-heartedly using MFP.

Obviously, the amount of food he needs is not the same as mine--I'm netting about 1260 and he is trying to net 1800 (he doesn't get as much exercise as I do but still has more calories to work with, especially since he doesn't eat breakfast most days). I don't want to monitor his calories with the care and planning I do for my own--that isn't feasible (or probably good for our relationship)

It occurred to me tonight that I could just give him half again what I serve myself. (I've taken to pre-plating food in the kitchen so I can measure and control my quantities.) So, when I took 5 oz of chicken this evening, we gave him 7.5. I got 1/2 cup of mashed potatoes--and gave him 3/4 cup.

Does anyone have any additional suggestions? I want to be supportive and helpful, but so don't want to "own" his quantities.

Sounds like you are doing good, but I have read people who eat breakfast lose more so Incourage him to do so. It's going to get a little annoying when he doesn't try as hard as you yet his loses will be on par or exceed yours. My hubby started a month after me and just added some weight lifting and has me beat on the scale, even though I have been diligently working out. Sorry I don't have any advice, but best of luck

Balancing a relationship and weight can be hard! lol My husband isn't anywhere the same size as I am, and he easily eats far more calories than I do, and in unhealthy ways. He could stand to lose about a 20lb muffin top and tone up, but not near the 200+lbs I need to lose. While I am encouraging him to eat a healthier dinner with me, the rest of his day is his to fill with junk and candy (and oh, he does!). I have been encouraging him to work out and move a little more. For him, it could easily be the difference. He wasn't eating healthy at all about 20lbs ago, but when he changed jobs and stopped being as active, he put on the lbs.

Start off by changing your habits, the way you eat, the amount you move, and start asking him to join you for a walk, or a trip to the local community center to work out. Maybe if you have one, play some Wii boxing or something. I find my stubborn male doesn't do straight forward well, but if I invite him to spend time with me, he might go for it a little easier. Good luck!

I just make the serving sizes of things, and then give him a little more out of the pot/pan than myself.

I keep healthy snacks in the house, so if he wants to snack he has to choose from those and I cut out soda. Even diet because that can lead to carb cravings in some people.

So far, he's lost 54lbs and has his cholesterol and BP under control.