For some reason I don't have the Option to send private messages or reply to private messages. I don't even have anything in my "edit options" that gives me the ability to turn it on or off.

Any ideas?

You're still too new.

You'll need to be here for at least 20 days before you can PM other members. This is a necessary restriction due to spammers - we're particularly concerned about preventing private message spam, since the moderators don't see it unless someone reports it to us.

What is the best way for me to get in touch with a moderator? She wrote me a message but I wasn't able to respond.

Use the Contact Us link:

http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/sendmessage.php

Thanks!