UGH!! I'm just getting really tired of her right now. As you can see from my ticker, I've lost a decent amount of weight, but I'm not at my goal, or even where I probably should be in terms of overall weight loss for my height.
Anyway, yesterday was my SIL's birthday, so we all went out to dinner. I ordered my usual 6 oz. sirloin (yummy) with salad and vegetables. THIS IS THE SAME THING I WOULD HAVE ORDERED OVER A YEAR AGO! Seriously, it really is!! The only difference is I might have ordered a potato instead of vegetables. Before we ordered my MIL and SIL asked me what I was going to get, and I said, "The 6 oz. sirloin." MIL says, "Are you sure you wouldn't want to get something else?" Ummm, no, I've been planning on getting a steak. We don't make steak at home very often, so when I go to a steak place, I want steak! So I said, "Why?" She just laughed and said, "Nothing, I just don't want you to leave hungry." REALLY? In a restaurant, leave hungry?? I said, "I don't think there is any danger of that!" and that was it, but oooooo! It just made me so angry! I really don't like her thinking she can tell me what I should eat, and looking down on my choice, like she thinks I'm not eating enough. I'm not 12, and I don't appreciate it. A year ago she would never have said such a thing, but now that I'm thinner, she is trying to push food on me, like I'm some kind of waif. She's the same one who said to me about 3 months ago, "You don't need to lose any more weight, honey." Is she crazy?!
While I was losing regularly, I managed to train her to accept that I was eating differently. I would (and still do) bring my own food to cook at her house (she always has a real carb-fest going on). Now, she complains if I don't eat her carby stuff, and says stuff like, "You don't like biscuits? You don't like macaroni salad?" and, "Did you try the beans? Did you try the beans? Did you try the beans???" over and over again! She's making me crazy! She seems to think that now that I've lost weight, I should just go back to eating the way I used to. I'M NOT GOING TO DO THAT!!
I don't want to be fat and unhealthy anymore. She does not listen to me when I try to explain things to her, and she doesn't believe me, either.
Thanks for listening. I know this is long, and there's no help in it. I just wanted to complain to people who might know what I'm talking about.
YESS!!!! I can so relate to all of the food pushers!! Everyone sticks thier nose into what I eat and they all seem so proud of themselves if they can "get me" to eat what they want me to.
"You've been denying yourself things for so long - go ahead and enjoy this."
"How skinny are you going to get?"
"You can eat this - I bet you haven't eaten all day."
"There she goes again - ordering a salad - don't you get bored of that all the time?"
Announces to rest of group: "That's why she's lost so much weight - she doesn't eat anything but vegetables!"
"Honey, you have to eat or you're going to gain all that weight back once you stop starving yourself."
My personal favorite (LOL) - "It's got protein in it."
People treat me as if I am a size 0 or bone skinny. The crazy thing is some of these food pushers are smaller than I am! And they ALL know EVERYTHING about dieting and weight loss and LOVE telling me what I'm doing wrong.
I feel for you. My MIL is similar to that. Just keep doing what you're doing. Hopefully one day she will accept that you like to eat healthy now!
Congrats on your awesome weight loss!
Ask your MIL if you were diabetic would she insist you eat sugar, or if you were allergic to shell fish would she be pushing that on you knowing it might cause an allergic reaction. Tell her that you are eating the way you do for health reasons you want to stop weight related problems before they happen. If she won't listen and cooperate with you there is probably nothing to do except what you are doing now. She is wrong , you are right.
Some people's identity is wrapped up in what they cook. If others like your food then they like you.
I had to overcome that when I started losing wieght becasue I was that person pushing food onto others because I subconsiously felt that if you like my food, you like me and if you don't eat my food you don't like me. I know completely crazy. I've gotten over it. But some how the wiring gets mixed up.
I've started telling people that I have a wheat allergry and that I have to be careful of what I eat. Seems to help with the food pushers and it doesn't hurt anyone's feelings.
Honestly you do have a wheat intolerance, you eat too much you gain weight...that's a form of intolerance right?
@BeachBreeze2010 -- I know, right?? I can't imagine what they will think if I ever manage to lose as much as I would like.
@abetterme --Thank you!
@bargoo and sarahyu -- Well, this whole thing started for me with pre-diabetes. I knew I had to do something. I didn't cut out wheat until a few months ago, and I do feel a lot better. I've told her all of this, of course, but it makes no difference what I say, she just doesn't listen to me at all.
Tell that stubborn MIL that there are serious complications that can occur with diabetes and if it's all the same to her you would just as soon avoid them.
OK, now you are even MORE like me! My mother-in-law is always pushing food on me as well. She is stick-thin herself, so she isn't trying to fatten me up or anything, but she always frets and worries that what she has in her house isn't what I "can" eat. So she will ask me a billion questions: "Can you eat biscuits? Can you eat beans? Can you eat this bread?" And I am like, "No, Mom. I'm on MediFast. I ONLY eat Medifast foods when I am at your house, that's why I bring my own foods." When will she get it? Ugh, I can relate.
Tell that stubborn MIL that there are serious complications that can occur with diabetes and if it's all the same to her you would just as soon avoid them.
I want to "like" this, the way they do on Facebook! LOL
OK, now you are even MORE like me! My mother-in-law is always pushing food on me as well. She is stick-thin herself, so she isn't trying to fatten me up or anything, but she always frets and worries that what she has in her house isn't what I "can" eat. So she will ask me a billion questions: "Can you eat biscuits? Can you eat beans? Can you eat this bread?" And I am like, "No, Mom. I'm on MediFast. I ONLY eat Medifast foods when I am at your house, that's why I bring my own foods." When will she get it? Ugh, I can relate.
I guess it is a small world! My MIL is quite heavy herself. She tried to do what I am doing, but she quit after a week or so. She says she doesn't have the willpower.
Food pushers will always exist. Although I'd say at least she has beans, they are healthy with fiber, nutrients, protein and complex carbs. Although I'm guessing you low carb? I'm not sure if beans are part of a low carb diet, even in small amounts though.
Food pushers will always exist. Although I'd say at least she has beans, they are healthy with fiber, nutrients, protein and complex carbs. Although I'm guessing you low carb? I'm not sure if beans are part of a low carb diet, even in small amounts though.
Well, I guess I would be all right with beans in general, but she's talking about baked beans, with plenty of barbecue sauce (loaded with corn syrup) and brown sugar. I am off sugar, and I don't want to go back to that.
MIL Sabotage!! *LONG RANT*
