Why do people need to make a big hype about something and NEVER follow through with what they are saying? I don’t understand, my cousin for the last 3 years has been bugging me to move to B.C because it would be nice for him to have family out there. I’ve always wanted to move to B.C but I am happy where I am as well. I told him I am not making a move without a job, I’m not some 21 year old who has no payments and bills anymore to be able to just pack and go without a backup plan.

Well his company his hiring and he called them in front of me to find out what jobs were opening and then they asked him to get my resume and send it in and this was two weeks ago. He’s had time to do so but hasn’t yet. For someone who has been buggin for three years to get me to move out there, who has the perfect opportunity to get me a job and get me out there just doesn’t do it.

I don’t get people WHY say something if you can’t follow through? WHY say something if it’s only a minor thought in your head? And WHY continue to bug someone to move out there when in reality you don’t want to help them out? Maybe he thinks I should do it on my own without his help? If that’s the case then don’t bring it up all the time and offer to help me out and say that I can stay with him and his wife.

Where is the logic in that? I’m about 10 seconds away from cutting him out of my life completely or keeping him at a very far distance out of my life for this reason. I dated a jackass for a year and a half who NEVER followed through with anything he says. I don’t have time for people like that and if for some reason he thinks I’ll live with him forever which isn’t the case because I told him I was checking out apartments out there and they’re pretty cheap and he just says yep they are. Flake flake flake. I CAN NOT STAND people like that, nor do I want to tolerate having them in my life!

Girl, don't even get me started on FLAKEY people!!!! One of my biggest pet peeves. I think that stems from how I was raised... my mom is the biggest offender! Growing up around it, you'd think I would be able to tolerate it better. Ha. Nope. It drives me nuts. I'm probably a little over dramatic, but I use the 3 strike rule with this when it comes to friends. If they flake out on me 3 times, that is it. I no longer put forth an iota of effort towards our "friendship". I consider my time valuable & myself a great friend and refuse to be treated as less than such. *steps off soap box*

I completely understand your frustration! I especially hate when my friends make huge plans to hang out or get together but then no one ever follows through with them.

Is there a way for you to just email in your resume to them yourself and list him as a reference? Maybe there's an online application that allows you the opportunity to do so! I've learned the hard way to just bypass the flaky people if necessary. Just my unsolicited advice.

The thing is though, I'm completely happy where I am but the opportunity came to and I thought great why not, you know? I’m not one to settle in one spot. So he said he was going to do it. HE brought this all up not me, as I said I’m happy where I am. So to have him flake out it’s like seriously dude wtf? I just don’t understand people and this has been a THREE year thing where he’s been bothering me to move there so if you’re going to be annoying and persistent you’d think he’d go through with it.

Yep three strike rule Nikki I agree, and since this is a three year thing his three strike are up! I don’t care if he’s family I only met him in 08 and don’t remember much of him when I was a kid lol.

Virgo I checked their site, I'm not really in the mood to move anywhere near a flakey cousin anymore so the faze of it passed already. It just annoys me when people are like that tho.

I totally get it, my sister is that way. She kept on bringing up "I'm going to give you the family car (its my family's old car, and my parents gave it to her-they have always given her more freedom) but when it comes time, nope, she flakes out. She offered it to me again, and I said "no thanks" and she got offended!!!
Honestly, I think that sometimes those people like to make a show to act like they are really proactive and care about you, but do not want to put in the actual effort, which is what really matters.

Pixel - I agree, it's like wtf? You CALLED the girl in front of me, so in front of me your willing to show effort but your too incompetent to be able to do it without someone holding your hand? I say forget it, every time he comes to Calgary, I just say I'm busy doing other stuff. I don't have time to waste MY time driving around picking him up and hanging out with him and driving around when he can't even do something as simple as give my resume to a guy who he's close with and get my foot in the door for a job? ha sorry but I have no time for that.

Flakey people are the WORST!
I totally feel your pain!

You worded one of my biggest pet peeves!