There are so many more symptoms of PCOS than the few you have mentioned.
http://www.womenshealth.gov/faq/poly...y-syndrome.cfm
-infrequent menstrual periods, no menstrual periods, and/or irregular bleeding
-infertility (not able to get pregnant) because of not ovulating
increased hair growth on the face, chest, stomach, back, thumbs, or toes—a condition called hirsutism (HER-suh-tiz-um)
-ovarian cysts
-acne, oily skin, or dandruff
-weight gain or obesity, usually carrying extra weight around the waist
insulin resistance or type 2 diabetes
-high cholesterol
-high blood pressure
-male-pattern baldness or thinning hair
-patches of thickened and dark brown or black skin on the neck, arms, breasts, or thighs
-skin tags, or tiny excess flaps of skin in the armpits or neck area
-pelvic pain
-anxiety or depression due to appearance and/or infertility
-sleep apnea—excessive snoring and times when breathing stops while asleep
I have many of these symptoms and am pretty sure if I tried to get pregnant it wouldn't happen.
That being said my glucose levels are always normal at fasting but my testosterone is high. My friend who has PCOS has insanely high glucose levels at fasting (like 130+) but hormone levels are fine.
The thing also with hormone levels the tests are NOT that great- I remember reading a study once where samples were taken from a patient at one time- sent to different labs, and they all got different readings... go figure.
Do any of the above apply to you?
As for the birth control don't just try one, change birth control pills, I take Aviane and it's worked for me- this is like my third set before I found one that didn't make me feel bad. And also if you JUST started on the pill a lot of times the first 1-3 months as you adjust you can feel nauseous and/or lack of sex drive. The first pill I took made me so sick I thought I was pregnant!
What about metformin and spironolactone? Has she discussed these options with you? Does she work with a lot of PCOS patients? You might need to find a specialist because many doctors don't even KNOW what they are doing when it comes to PCOS. My first doctor who diagnosed me didn't know much and I basically was left untreated for years- after I blew up over 40 lbs with no help but "lose weight" I changed doctors.
While there is no specific test for PCOS- there is a process of elimination, I was tested for thyroid and other things before I was given a diagnosis of PCOS.
Sadly the best thing for PCOS is to lose weight- pretty much all research I have done points to a lower carb diet- and it's the only thing that has worked for me.