So I saw my dad for the first time in about 3 months today - in the middle of a sentence he interrupts me and goes, Jen, have you lost weight? Yes dad. How much? Um, between 25 and 30 lbs. Are you *dieting*? (disgusted tone of voice) - well, I'm just eating like a normal person should and exercising...nothing extreme. Oh, okay, are you done losing now? I still have to lose like 30 more lbs, dad - WHAT WHY? Cause I'm still overweight...well don't do anything crazy!
My father cracks me up. He's the most awkward person in the world (alright, exaggeration) but he worries about me. My mom always told me I needed to lose weight, even when I didn't, and when I starved myself in high school, he was the one to notice. At 23 he was like oh, don't worry, you just have baby fat. And now he's worried I'm starving myself again. After this exchange, my sister was like, Dad, don't worry, she just ate half of the cheesecake that I made (I didn't eat HALF I had a little friggin sliver, BTW).
Every once in a while, its nice to be worried about.
On a better note - my cousin gave me all of these designer jeans/pants that don't fit her anymore that she says should fit me - I just had myself a lovely dinner of chinese food so I'm going to wait until TOMORROW to try them on.
It bothers me when friends tell me to stop, or seem so surprised. Perhaps it's based on their own insecurities, or because they're used to seeing you. But instead of saying "stop" friends saying "You know, I love you the way you are. You don't *have* to lose weight" would be a whole lot more supportive.
If they're really concerned for our health, why not ask what our goals are, or how we intend on reaching them, or attending the gym with us??
Yeah, I think he's just afraid I'm going to starve myself again - which, even if I wanted to, couldn't happen because whenever I don't eat for 3 hours I get a ROCKING migraine that makes me want to chop my head off. So yeah.
Aw! Fathers are fathers! My mom was always the one telling me to lose weight when I didn't really need to lose all that much anyway too. I was 175 (according to BMI, 2 pounds overweight) and she was always grabbing my stomach and once bribed me and said if I'd lose 30 pounds she'd give me 50 dollars. Geez! But then in 2007 I gained like 10 pounds and was 185 for a while.. and then at college I gained another 27 and was 212 for a while, like over x-mas break.. but then in March I started losing and I came back home on summer break at around 187 pounds and then when I got to about 180 she kept telling me I was too thin and she thought I was starving myself. @_@ Too fat at 175 and too thin at 180? @_@ I think she only wanted me to lose weight if I did it because SHE pushed me into it, not on my own. Parents are silly sometimes. They DO worry, but equally, they can be QUITE illogical as well.
DADS NEVER STOP WORRYING!!!! ive got 3 daughters and i just really want them to be happy...they think im a dork and my baby(16), acts like im bugging her when i call her after school every day (i work at that time), but i think she appreciates it...we'll never stop say the wrong thing or asking too many questions, but realize that our hearts are in the right place
Yeah, mom's are kind of mean like that. My sister is extremely overweight and not once did my mom give her the grief she gave me. I guess that was the "benefit" of being the baby - you got babied.
Ughh when I was younger, like middle school, i had just gained a little weight, I wasn't in the "overweight" zone or anywhere near it at the time and my mother and grandmother (on my moms side btw) would constantly talk about my weight and grab my stomach. I can actually remember eating more just to spite them. They did the same thing to my sister who has always been a realllly thin girl. Side note: my grandmother is actually "severely obese" but always commented on how overweight everyone else was. Haha family can be your worst critic.
Aw! Fathers are fathers! My mom was always the one telling me to lose weight when I didn't really need to lose all that much anyway too. I was 175 (according to BMI, 2 pounds overweight) and she was always grabbing my stomach and once bribed me and said if I'd lose 30 pounds she'd give me 50 dollars. Geez! But then in 2007 I gained like 10 pounds and was 185 for a while.. and then at college I gained another 27 and was 212 for a while, like over x-mas break.. but then in March I started losing and I came back home on summer break at around 187 pounds and then when I got to about 180 she kept telling me I was too thin and she thought I was starving myself. @_@ Too fat at 175 and too thin at 180? @_@ I think she only wanted me to lose weight if I did it because SHE pushed me into it, not on my own. Parents are silly sometimes. They DO worry, but equally, they can be QUITE illogical as well.
People's vision of you can change. If they've seen you at 160 for awhile, then if they see you next at 175, you will look heavy. But if they've seen you at 200, then you would look thin to them at 180.
When I was heavier, one of my aunts (who is more overweight than I ever was) would make comments about it and poke my belly.
That is so sweet! I wish my dad was like there. Instead he just criticizes what I do (grad student) then pretends like he didn't mean what he just said.
A few years ago I was losing weight, and my friends though I was taking laxatives and expressed concern. I was actually pretty insulted that they didn't think I could lost it one my own.
That is so sweet! I wish my dad was like there. Instead he just criticizes what I do (grad student) then pretends like he didn't mean what he just said.
Oh, no, he does that too. My dad just has a problem of reacting without thinking - I'm just like him, so I kind of understand. Doesn't excuse it, but I try to just let it roll off my back now.
Stella- you're right, you just have to let it roll off your back. I always have trouble doing that! It's amazing how much what parents say can affect you! I've gone over and over in my head conversations with my mother, for days after they're over, frustrated and angry at what she said! AH! Must let it go!
My silly father
