Dreading Valentine's Day, date nights, weddings ...

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    NickiChick's AvatarNickiChick , 02-10-2009 10:19 AM
    Pretty much anywhere /anytime where it's so completely obvious I'm painfully single.

    So I've never, ever had a boyfriend. I've had dates, but nothing that amounted to a relationship. I blame my weight for keeping guys away (let's face it, most aren't interested in girls who look like me, and I don't necessarily blame them). I've also found that guys who DO pay attention to fat girls are often looking to 'hook up.' As if we should give it up to them to "thank them" for being seen with us. When they find out that's a no-no with me, I generally don't hear from them again.

    I am so tired of being the third wheel. I'm tired of going to weddings stag. I am really really dreading Valentine's Day, but I AM grateful it's on a Saturday so I won't be at work trying to be happy for the girls who get flowers from the guys in their lives.

    Can anyone else relate?
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    uscarchie's Avataruscarchie , 02-10-2009 10:35 AM
    Just a note: Most of the time, it's your confidence and attitude that makes you attractive, and if a guy just wants a piece of ***, he's not worth it. That being said, V-Day sucks.
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    NickiChick's AvatarNickiChick , 02-10-2009 11:18 AM
    I think more women agree with the personality thing, at least from my experience, because otherwise my dance card would be full! (ok, i don't but I digress...)

    I am not a wall flower.. I love to interact with people and talk to anybody ... however.. chalk it up to Valentine's Day, a full moon and some chocolate cravings that are making me a total and feeling sorry for myself. :: sigh ::

    Glad to hear someone else thinks Vday sucks too!
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    UglyFatFriend's AvatarUglyFatFriend , 02-13-2009 01:58 PM
    Oh Nicki, I LOVE your feelings towards the dreaded V-Day, I think you are my sister I never knew I had lol!!
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    Dendrobate's AvatarDendrobate , 02-14-2009 12:02 PM
    I agree that often times it has something to do with personality because we don't look and feel the way we want to. Maybe, you should focus on you for awhile. Get in shape, lose some more weight (so you will feel better), pamper yourself, learn to be happy on your own. I know at least for me, if I could not be happy on my own, then I was not happy in a relationship. The best relatioships I have ever had were at times when I was happy with myself. Maybe you are just so down due to your weight? So maybe it would be better to get closer to your goal so that you will feel better on the inside. It looks like you are doing great on your weight loss! Keep it up and before you know it you will be at your goal!
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