Now that I've hit 140 pounds, people in my small town have all of a sudden decided to notice me. And they're ALL seemingly concerned about how "fast" I've lost weight.
The rumors are that I'm anorexic, bulemic or just plain sick, and that's what's caused the weight loss. Because, I mean, heaven FORBID someone eat right and exercise to lose weight!
I caught a guy whispering to someone about me the other day, asking what was wrong with me and why was I still trying to lose weight. I didn't say anything because I didn't know what to say...
I need some help...next time I hear someone gossiping about me and my "sickness", what should I say?
People always need something to gossip about. It's in all of us. I would try as hard as I could to shrug it off and say to yourself...people can only hurt you if you allow them to...Yes, easier said then done sometimes. But, if you know in your heart that you are healthy and happier, screw the dumbasses who think any less of it. Do their opinions really affect your life anyways? Realize how pathetic their lives are to worry about yours and be proud of your accomplishment!!!
Small towns are tough. It is none of their business, of course, but you might try smiling real big and saying "I'm healthier than I've ever been." Sometimes people can be obnoxious. I'm sorry you have to deal with that. People are asking me when I am going to stop losing weight too and what's really funny about that is that I have not lost anything since August.
It's one thing to hear rumors (things heard through the grapevine are often twisted), but it's another to have someone make a comment RIGHT THERE next to you.
You are within your rights to turn around and say "Excuse me, do you realize you just said that aloud and I can hear you?"
A hug for you! Because people often start rumors out of jealousy and ignorance.
It's up to you whether or not to educate people who come up to you and ask about how "fast" you lost weight. But a good swift, "Gee... what personal subject of yours should we discuss next?" may set them in their place.
Grrrr, that can be quite annoying. I have people asking me as well "when I am going to stop" - I think the reason is that compared to my old self, I do look pretty skinny right now and because I put in a lot of exercise time, I must look quite "compact" than I would be if I was dieting, etc.
I try to ignore it; sometimes I say that I am not going by a number on the scale but by body fat percentage (most people don't have a clue about that concept so they back off) and in a few cases I actually did say that I was done (even though I am not).
But I often tell them that I am in the best shape of my entire life and that I have never been more fit (similar to what midwife was suggesting).
But, some people will always gossip - there is not much you can do about that. Don't let it bother you, as hard as it may be.
When you first start losing weight, it is less noticeable to people, so a lot of them miss that first couple of months. Then, of course, life passes fast and people are wrapped up in themselves, etc. so your weight may have appeared to come off "incredibly fast" to a lot of the people in your small town. Since I reached goal, I have gotten a lot of the same comments..."It just melted off of you!" or "I can't believe how fast you lost it!" Uh, no melting here...just a lot of burning, thank you very much. And it was not "so fast"...you just haven't seen me in a while...you didn't notice...I've had my coat on...
Anyway, rumors are rumors...people gossip about whatever they can. As you maintain a healthy weight for a while, the topic will move on to whoever is pregnant or had a fight or went crazy and ran naked down Main Street. Don't let it worry you. You worked hard. Good job!!!
Oh, about actually overhearing a conversation...that I would have commented on...and would comment on if it happens in the future. Something short, snappy and funny...but definitely pointed. "You know, I've lost weight, not my hearing...have a little class. If you are going to talk about people, do it when they aren't standing 10 feet away..." or "I'm not sick, I'm just in better shape than I was. And if you're not more careful about gossiping about me in FRONT of me, I'll show you how much better shape I'm in and how much healthier I am, by kicking your a$$. And wouldn't that be embarassing...having your a$$ kicked by a skinny girl."
It's happened to me too but with my family instead of strangers; nearly all of my immediate (overweight or obese) family, accusing me of being anorexic or bulimic. Whatever their motives by saying it, it's beyond frustrating, people dismissing your hard work as having a disease or being sick. >:c
I know what you mean on the family front, too, Layri...
My sister is two years older, and is probably around 350 pounds. She's in the "I WANT to" stage of weight loss, but isn't ready enough to actually DO it yet. Anyway, she told me I look unhealthy, like (in her words) "A starving Ethiopian" and that I should gain weight.
I have heard those "You have lost it so fast" that is not true, they just happened to notice it now. I try to ignore those unwanted and untrue and even unkind remarks. I usually respond that I am doing if for health reasons if I feel I must respond.
Some of it is motivated by jealousy too, even if the people won't admit that in a million zillion years----why people can't be excited for someone else's success instead of putting it down is amazing....but hooray for you!!
i'm sorry you had something like that happen to you D:. Some people that don't want to face the truth, be it about someone they know or themselves, try to make it look like there's got to be some OTHER reason behind what's happening.
For me i've been lucky so far in that my family, has started to notice, some anyway, and i'm getting some encouragement from some, and not from others. It's a bit bothersome, but i try to not let it get to me, because if i do, i'm just hurting myself instead.
And i actually have a similar problem in which my manager, who is also obese, and has a worse middle area than me, is so jealous that i've been losing weight, that she finds it nice to talk about me behind my back to my best friend, and tell her "oh i just want to kill that girl, she's losing weight on me"
why? because she can't do anything about it, and it's driving her mad..lol there will always be people who talk about you no matter what the real reason is.
so what you do is, ignore the bad, take the good as encouragement for doing such an awesome job, and as long as you're happy, no one else matters. :3
What would YOU say....
Because people often start rumors out of jealousy and ignorance. 
