A very close friend of mine just had a horrible experience and I want to share her story so all females are aware of the creeps that are out there so they can be careful and take their time really getting to know someone.
My friend met this guy who pretended to share all her hopes and dreams with her. Claiming he wanted something serious with her. He even charmed her friends, so they would encourage her to date him. They talked about all their future plans together, etc.
They decided to make plans for the weekend. He went to her apartment on Friday where they had sex for the first time. Afterwards he gave her a massage with lots of oil... excessive amounts of oil. Then they had sex again. Then after that he said he was going to take a shower... but, he wanted to take it alone. When he came out and dressed he suggested she take a shower because she had so much oil on her. Well, while she was in the shower he took off... left her front door open and everything. Needless to say she was in complete shock. She called him from a private number. He answered. She wanted to know why he left. He did offer to go back to her place, but she was so mad she said she would break a bottle on his head if he dared to show up at her door. He said he felt bad... that she didn't deserve that, but he said he does that sort of thing to b!tches. He does it all the time to women. Him and his friends do these "challenges" to see how quickly it would take to seduce a woman. He says everything is about strategy. There is even a book out there on how to pick up women, so he and his friends can do this sort of thing to women.
My friend felt completely violated. The jerk was willing to talk to her on the phone while she asked questions of why he did this to her to give her some closure. She did get closure and felt assured that this was just one sick human being and his actions didn't have anything to do with her. I just wanted to share this horrible incident so girls can be aware of the monsters that are out there and really take your time getting to know someone.
It would have been better if he just said he just said he only wanted sex... surely that is what one night stands are for. However, he gets a kick out of having a woman consent to sex under false pretenses. Playing on their hopes to find a loving relationship. What a jerk!
mamaspank - he used excessive oil in the massage to get her to take a shower so he could sneak out.
Scarlett - It's unusual because she's always been a bit of a prude, but he got to her... he really seduced her. She hasn't had a steady boyfriend for several years and this guy was soooo charming and charismatic... he even charmed her friends (I didn't meet the guy). The friends that met him all thought he was great... apparently charming a girls friends is on the to do list of this book he's been following. Anyway, all this took place over a week.
Eskinomad - she did. However, condoms don't protect from some STDs so I'll suggest she gets checked if she hasn't already... but, she'll need to get rechecked in 6 months time. I think I'm more upset about this happening to her than she is... she's like a little sister to me. She seems fine about it. She was really upset that first weekend, but she got closure from learning how sick in the head this guy is.
Wow. If only you could put out a warning to the world, at least females, what kind of guy he is. What a jerk. There is no excuse for what he did, even if it had "nothing to do with her" and he was just a ****ty guy- emotional rape.
How warped. The only consolation is that your friend will eventually get over this and move on. He, on the other hand, will never have a normal relationship, marriage, or family. He will end up a miserable creep with a miserable life... which is what he deserves.
Does anyone know the link for the website where you can post all the bad things a man did (like cheating) in a relationship to warn/help other females from being tricked? My ex principal at my school - young, good looking, and a real player - secretly dated (i.e. "slept with") at least 3 young teachers at our school, telling each it had to be a total secret, etc. because it would look bad for teacher/principal to date. Yeah, they all found out and posted about him on that website to warn others. What a USER!!!
She should slap him up on dont date him girl dot com (no spaces )
She is lucky he didn't hurt/rob her!! What a jerk. Unfortunately there are lots of them out there. He must be really sick to invest the time and effort to get to know her and her friends.
Thanks what I was thinking, shelby, I'm glad he didn't rob her or hurt her (physically) but I can totally understand her feeling of betrayal and violation!
wow...this guy sounds like a total d-bag. While even women who do everything right get taken advantage of from time to time, it sounds like your friend did a slew of things wrong that opened herself up to getting hurt. In listening to the story I think it is absurd that your friend placed her hopes and dreams in a guy in a week. I NEVER introduce a guy to my friends that quickly...unless I meet him when I'm out with them. I usually have to be with a guy for a few weeks before I take him around to meet my friends. Also I NEVER sleep with a guy that soon, even if I want to. It sounds like your friend was acted desperate and this guy took advantage of her. I HIGHLY doubt he would have triend this garbage on a confident, independant put together gal. Hopefully your friend will learn from this situation.
Warning to all single females
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What a freakin' jerk!!! 
He and his friends!!! 
