I posted this thread too on the 100 board.

In the past I lost a substantial amount of weight. I didn't keep it off because the new attention from the opposite sex made me feel quite uncomfortable. I was used to letting everyone else have that attention. For whatever reason, I let my fear take over and regained poundage lost.

For those of you that have lost weight, how did you cope and deal with this new unfamiliar attention from the opposite sex? I am shy--not used to the attention. Any suggestions?

I was talking about going from being ignored by a major portion of society(being invisible), to the opposite sex noticing you and checking you out, flirting, dating, in social situations etc. Is there anything to make it easier to cope with this if you are particularly shy?

enjoy it! it's not like you can't turn them down if you're not interested.

I actually love having the 'looks' now, but it doesn't go any further than that, maybe because I am always on my hubby's arm. I am also older, which could make a difference. Of course, I may also not be as good looking as I like to think I am.LOL

I have heard of people wearing a ring on their 'ring' finger so that they can tell people that they are already 'taken' if they don't want the attention. Guys may still look, and I'm not sure you will be able to stop that (unless you dress in very unshapely clothes all the time... that may help) but at least if they approached you, and you didn't want that added attention, you could show them your ring and politely tell them "Sorry, I'm already taken, and VERY happy."

I'm not sure if that will work, as I've never tried it, just heard of it being done. I hope you find some way to get over this though, because you don't want anything like this to stop you from becoming healthier.

Take care,

Zelma