I've been a member for a while and tried every diet known to man. I just can't do it anymore I'm over 400 lbs now and my health is starting to really be an issue. But I just can't stop eating foods that are bad for me. I'm addicted to fast food and junk food. My husband is also overweight and we're constantly eating terrible and gaining weight. Were heading for an early grave. I'm also having financial problems and cannot afford fast food once twice a day. Any advice on how to get myself motivated to save my life? I would be thankful for any advice.

I know how you feel. I have been obese my entire life. I also have a husband who is overwieght and loves to eat. I own a fast food joint!!!!!!!!
It sucks and it takes so much determination and hard work. And it really is unfair that it is so easy for others and not for you. But the good thing is that you really are not alone. You need to do it because you want it. You need to want it so bad that your willing to forget your past failures and just move on. Start slow. Stop eating out. Instead of fast food for dinner eat frozen dinners if you don't like to cook. I hate cooking. I own a fast food joint so the last thing i want to do is cook after i get home from work. Eat 6 meals a day. Small not huge so you keep your sugar level steady. I am going to wieght watchers and this my fourth time joining. Just keep trying. Its only failure if you refuse to try. Baby steps. it took a long time to gain all your wieght don't expect it to be gone so soon. good luck. i hope to hear from you soon
susie

WELCOME to both of you!

Susie's got great advice. It can be overwhelming. I had never been able to do it before, but health fears finally got the better of me. I made a commitment to do something and made small changes over time. For me, it's not about any kind of "diet" but about a new lifestyle for a healthier me.

A lot of the changes are in my head. I never used to be able to turn down yummy food before because I didn't want to deprive myself. Now, I realize I'm not saying "no" to the brownie, but saying "yes" to me.

You also have to realize you probably won't be "perfect" and on plan everyday but get right back on plan when you stumble!

WeLcoMe To the group!!

I understand the financial troubles!! Hubby and I have realized that fast food is the major reasons for that. We have decided that unless we physically go out and sit at a restaurant and eat..we dont do the fast food. And it is so hard!!! I feel your pain..truly.

Keep checking the forum..there are so many wonderful people here to help ya.

My heart goes out to you because I can feel your sadness and discouragement. I don't have any answers for you but I want to say, please don't give up. Try something different than before. Have you tried Medifast? I know its expensive but if it is for both you and your husband and you are not buying all the junk, its not really that much of a difference than what you now spend. It is rather dramatic and the weight loss is so fast that it is very motivating. I lost last year and have run into a problem myself that I was not able to continue. I'm trying to start up again now. How about doing a search and see what you think. There are so many successes. Look at make me thinner dot com. I just found that site ...it is awesome. The diet is a no brainer and it takes your mind off of food so much. It is difficult in the beginning. I think to have companionship of your husband is a major bonus.
I believe that big, drastic changes can wake us up sometimes. I know I tried to follow the Atkins diet for years which is so ridiculous. If it doesn't work for you... stop and do something else. I know in the end we need to have a healthy lifestyle eating right and moving our bodies in a healthy way, but we need the directions that work for us to get there. Best wishes to you!

Do you have medical insurance with a reasonable co-pay? If so, call them and see what they have to offer! I once had a nutritionist paid for and it was great, I paid a $10 co-pay but it was for two 30-minute sessions, or $5 a session. That's the price of a fast food meal! (Or, well, less than that for me.) Also there are therapists who specialize in eating disorders and general issues. I went to one through my Employee Assistance Program (which you might have even if you don't have insurance) and it really helped me at the time.

If you don't have insurance, there are free or cheap groups, too. There's Overeater's Anonymous, which personally never appealed to me, and Tops is another cheap alternative. What I do for encouragement now is try to visit the boards (though I'm not as good as I should be). I've found that having a community really helps motivate me.

But in general, I don't know, I still think something has to click, and I'm sure there's way to force the "click" but I don't know how. When I lost over 100 pounds once I did feel a different "click" and it went pretty smoothly. Now I can't get that sort of momentum back, so I lose 5 pounds and gain 10.

Thank you all for the support and advice I appreciate it. I'm doing a bit better I'm just trying to focus on eating regularly and maybe I won't binge. And I'm going to try to stay away from fast food. I know that will be good for my health and my budget. I'm going to call my insurance and see what they have to offer for nutritionist I am insulin resitstant so I need to learn to handle that. Thank you all!

hey,
I love the idea of a nutritionist, let me know how that goes. I never would have thought to check my insurance for something like that.
good luck
keep in touch and let us know how it goes
You sound much better
keep the faith!!!!!!!!!!!

Welcome!
I know what your going through. I always tried to lose weight the easy way, but never actually TRIED. And when it didn't work, I would say "Well I'm fine with the way I am so it doesn't matter." Even though I wasn't fine. What finally made me change my ways was my health, I was aT work one day and suddenly couldn't see out of one eye and got a horrible migraine. The first thing that came to mind was my father, who was diagnosed with diabetes 4 yrs ago, and the way he found out he had diabetes was his eye sight which had always been perfect suddenly went down hill. I was scared to death I might end up like him. You need to hit your bottom, just like a drug addict. Food addiction is very real and just as hard to beat. But you CAN DO IT!!!

I can really relate to you. I am always setting goal preparing in my mind that this time Im really going to do it Im going to stick to it.....

Again I just reset my mini goal ....this time for New Years Day. My last one for Halloween I gained 3lbs .. so I am not on track.

I was eating Hershy Kisses as I read your post...what is wrong with me/ us.

We know what we have to do for our health but we are not doing it.


If money is an issue you could try a protein shake meal supplement. Instead of spending at much on groceries or dining out but a tub of the protein powder and mix it with water or skim milk. You and your husband could drink a shake for you mini meals and supplement it with fruits veggies and vitamins. I know someone who has lost about 20lbs eating this way, he says he is never hungry.