Good Morning,

I'm sorry I can't play today.

I'll be back on Friday.

You girls have a wonderful week...y'ah hear?????


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Just popping in to say Hi to everyone
No real news around here. A has her long day at the university so I get to be home alone until 3 pm. Trying to clean up a little.
Hope everyone had a great weekend and has a great week.
Take care,
K

Hi everyone

I haven't been following my own advice about posting regularly - sorry. It's so easy to hide when I'm feeling low, but it's something I'm trying to work on.

Things are very confusing in my house, and it's very difficult to follow what my brain tells me to do, which is just working on myself, taking care of myself... I keep asking the pointless questions: "What did I do wrong? What can I change? Maybe I can just be DIFFERENT..." sigh. There is nothing productive down THAT road.

On the other hand, the scale is still going down, and THAT'S why I am here, not anything else.

I hope everyone is doing well - thinking of you all

Heather

Hi all!

Heather BIG we're just glad you popped in. And I was looking at your Bye bye's at the end and wow! You are doing awesome! WTG!

As for me, I think I'm doing better. Small steps. I've been getting up more often at work and walking around a lot more, I know not much, but something is better than nothing!

My mom called my DH -- my Uncle recommended DH for a job that opened up at his work -- DH would be in charge of I.T. (computers), so DH is going to call my Uncle tomorrow and find out the details. If it is worthwhile we may be moving -- back to my home town! lol. Not sure how I feel about that. I know its an excellent opportunity and of course I want DH to take it, if he wants it, but just kinda have mixed feelings about it. I guess I worry that okay if he gets this really good job offer, where will I be working?? Because I am NOT commuting to my current job. (1 1/2 hr each way-- with no traffic) But not going to worry about it until we know more!!!!

Also my mom is depressed. She told DH that her work is completely changing since they have new owners and they are getting rid of one of the workers who has worked there the longest and so my mom is afraid that she might be losing her job somewhere down the line.......So DH told her again that she is welcomed to come and live with us. Of course not sure we may be moving down there. lol. But still if we move down there, she is welcome to move in with us. So I think she is thinking about it because she said she cannot afford her bills anymore so she is cancelling everything but the internet -- how we communicate. Luckily we pay for her cell ph, so she will always have that. I think she is just getting rid of the extras.

Well that is about all. I hope you are all well! One more night after tonight and I'm on vacation!!!!!!!!! I can't wait!!!!!!!

Leenie, hope your trip went well. Buddly, Heather, hope things are going well for you too. Sassy, by now you're on vacation and I hope you're loving it!

Unfortunately today was a bad day for pain, but I'm in a much better place mentally. I looked at the accommodating your weight thread in the 100lb Club thread and in 300+ Club (here: http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showthread.php?t=123037 and here: http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showthread.php?t=123051 )
and really sat down and thought about everything everyone had posted. I realized that I have accommodated my weight in 99.9% of the ways they described and I'm tired of doing that. So today was my day to actually do things differently - not taking the shortcuts, not putting things off, not having DH do everything for me, etc. I needed to do it for myself, because I'm tired of depending on DH for everything. I am stronger than that.

I have severe medicine head, so I am going to end this here. Take care everyone.

Leenie - let us know how the trip was

Sassy - it is SO hard when a parent is depressed... the turning of the tables as we age is incredibly draining. Thinking of you

Brandnewme - You're on your way to whole new lifestyle - that's wonderful, and don't you forget it! Remind yourself, too, kindly, that you didn't make all those accommodations overnight, and breaking them all will have it's trying times, too - good luck!

As for me - still plodding along. I've been rotten about exercise for a week and MUST get back to that before it becomes a habit I BROKE!! I've been using a sore leg as an excuse, but that's not going to fly anymore!

Have a great weekend, everyone -
Heather

Hi Girls

Good to see you all. I can't stay but I will catch up with you all tomorrow.

Have a GREAT FRIDAY

Good Morning

Its so nice to be home and catching up with you all. So today is the last day of Summer... I hope you all had a decent summer. I'm sad to see it end, I so enjoy the warmer weather. I enjoy the Fall but not the winter

My trip was lousy. People on the train were not friendly, more snooty like business suits but the people in the hotel (workers) were nice. I didn't get to venture out and see the sites so it made the trip even longer. Well heck... I'm home and thats all that matters right

Today its cleaning, cooking some rice and beef for the doggy with an upset tummy and I took out some fall pumpkins to decorate my house with. Tomorrow is FIL's birthday and we'll be visiting him then.

Heather how do you do it ?????? you are truly amazing girl... even with all your struggles you still manage to keep that scale moving in the right direction. Bravo !!! Don't apologize for not posting....ok. I know what you mean when you say "why can't I be different" ... I say that and then beat myself up with my answer how are you handling that ?

Brandnewme... thats awesome to hear you are starting to do things for yourself... small slow changes are better than no changes IMHO, and the more you do, the more you'll want to do. The tricky part is getting started (thats my problem, just getting started). YOU ARE STRONG !!!!!

Sassy, I wish your DH luck with the new job offer and I know your mind must be going 100 mph with all the worries and thoughts of moving. It could be the very blessing in disguise you've been waiting for. Sorry to hear about your Mom...its so sad when our parents have to worry so much about how they are going to pay their bills. Its a shame that they work their entire lives and they still have to worry where their next meal will come from. My Mom is in the same boat.

Buddly girl, how was your week. It did seem like a very LONG week didn't it. Any plans for the weekend?



Well girlies...... who's got some awesome plans for the weekend ????? anything exciting ????


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Thanks for the kind words, Leenie; honestly, through ALL of this, the one thing I refuse to lose sight of is losing this weight - I feel I've come too far to give up, and I just don't want to - !

Well, ladies, here it is, in a nutshell - (and I can't quite believe I'm going to put this online)... my husband is a very, VERY unhappy man. He would like to end this 13-year marriage; he has refused counseling, and admits he doesn't want to put very much energy or effort into making this work anymore - he doesn't feel it is worth it. We have struggled with difficulties for some time now.

Even though I am unhappy too (we have VERY poor communication, and unless we're - ahem - 'in the bedroom', shall we say - I am pretty lonely in this marriage) I try to salvage it, to change it, to make it better than it is. I try to change - I do! - but he doesn't, and I inevitably just fall back to my old ways, and that reinforces his - and thus, our - unhappiness.

Here's the clincher - he will not leave. If anyone leaves, it is going to be me, and there is a very good chance I never will. He has tried - but I plead, I beg, I scream, I cry - basically I degrade myself into a thoroughly unlikeable monster, and he stays. :-/ Yes, I know I am an idiot.

So - I live like this. And despite horrible moments (which are a result of trying to talk about the relationship) I pretend, like I am doing today, that we will be fine - that we can get through this, and that this is enough, partly because I do love him - but mostly because I am not dealing in reality: I have a hope for the future of this relationship, and memories of the past - none of which are remotely like the present reality. A woman with better self-esteem would make a new life for herself - I cannot imagine a life without him, it terrifies me. And even though I hate my behaviour - I still have him... sort of... for now.

Well, there it is. I may regret posting this, but for some reason, today, I am sharing. Please don't feel the need to say anything at all - it might just be too much.

I hope everyone is well - chat soon -
Heather

Heather I'm so sorry you are having a difficult time. I agree with Sassy, you need to do whats right for YOU, nobody walks in your shoes. But just remember, you don't walk alone, the Lord is with you and He will give you the strength you need Big hugs and kisses from us... we will be here to listen when you need an ear and when you need a cyber hug.

Sassy sorry your DH is under the weather. I really hope it works out for you and your DH with the new job possibilities... sounds like something good is in the making. Your Mom is lucky to have a wonderful daughter like you (and SIL). You look so cute in your Sally glasses (I haven't heard that name like forever LOL)..... so does this mean your an 80's girl ???? lol In the 80's I had a huge pair of glasses myself, they took up 70% of my fat face, so you KNOW they were HUGE glasses LOLOL....today I wear contacts and I have a pair of small glasses for emergencies.

Well girlies........its my bed time lolol yeah I'm an old fart.

Have a good night and stay strong..... you girls are VERY VERY STRONG !!!!!!
Yes you are.

Its SONDAY

Cathy Happy Birthday I hope you had a great day.

Well I'm being a slug in my lazy chair, so I must get up and get moving. Today is FIL's birthday and we'll be visiting him later on. THen its getting the house and us ready for the week ahead.

Have a great day

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Hi all,

I'm back and exhausted. Catch up tomorrow after the Genesis concert tonight in D.C. Missed you all.