...or a kick in the butt to get off this procrastination fence!
Hi, I'm Kitty... New to this support group, new to 3fc, not new to being obese or South Beach... In 2004 I followed SBD for 6 months and lost 60 lbs.
Since then I regained 40 .
I want to restart SBD, phase 1... but I can't seem to get the enthusiasm to begin... condeming myself fail again before I have even begun. I know when I was following SBD I felt great...I don't know why all this self created negativity.... I've been wanting to restart for some time now...no motivation though...
To top it off, here in India, it's Mango season, the thought of giving up fruits now is a bit hard to chew.... But then I know it's another excuse not to begin
I am so ready to loose this weight though...If I can just get off this procrastination fence!
Hi Kitty,
Welcome back. I am fairly new myself. I really appreciate the way you reached out for help that takes alot of guts and it shows that you really do want to do this. You should know that you are not alone in the way you feel. I really believe it is all the sugar that changes our mood and keeps us unmotivated. I am not sure how you have approached this "diet" in the past but what keeps me motivated is a clear understanding that I have a "different" relationship with food than people who are not overweight. Find out your triggers because loosing weight really does start from the inside. I have done alot and I do mean alot of soul searching, talking, journaling and what not before I started this plan. For me food is about control because for so long there were so many things in my life that I could not control that had a hold on me. So when I turned to food I was controlling it (or so I thought). I know for me food can be my friend and I can enjoy it but we don't have to be "crime buddies". You can do it Kitty One day at a time one moment at a time one meal at a time. And if you mess up don't beat yourself up. Talk about it and move on to the next day if you feel you can. Good luck and keep reaching out!
Hey Kitty! Glad you came over to join us!!! I have gotten so much encouragement from the ladies here, and I'm sure you will find the same positive vibe. Without the support from my friends here, I would have given up by now and gone back to my naughty ways.
So what do you do in India? Have you lived there your whole life?
We are all definitely "sisters in the struggle" here! And I feel ya' on those mangoes. There are a lot of Mexican produce stores around where I live and the smell of mangoes floats through the air when you walk past. I've struggled with one BIG TIME in the past! I remembering making myself a big mango and banana fruit salad and thinking I was doing something good because "it's just fruit", and then binging all day long afterward. Hilarious!
I join the others in congratulating you for not gaining back ALL of the weight. I've gone up and down the scale many times too, and most recently from 2001-2004 I slowly went (by calorie-counting) from over 230 down to 155. Since then, I've crept back up as high as 188. So don't feel bad. You're certainly not alone on that one. There are MILLIONS of us out there just like you!
I understand your feelings about starting Phase 1 too. It is very restrictive and the first few days are a shock to the system. What if you tried to decrease carbs in stages before your "official" start? I did that and it wasn't as bad as it could have been. Maybe first cut out all sugary sweets, then breads, then mangoes and fruits last, over a period of a week or two? It might help.
Regardless of what you do though, we are here and the support we give each other is like one of the four legs on a table. We need it to stand firm. So please stick around!
Nikleej, Your post really hit a chord with me. I know I have a different relationship with food, and I really need to do some soul searching to improve that relationship.
Kara, No I have not lived here my whole life. I moved here full time in 1996.
I volunteer in a number of capacitiess, There is a 500 seat theater. I help organize programs, from music concerts, plays etc..., I also assist the medical team at the various free dispensarys which provide free medical care to villagers. It is also a place of world wide Pilgrimage, people come from all over. I assist in getting foreigners registered with the local police.
Thats the nutshell version...
I am trying to get an appointment with an endocrinologist next week in Pune.
I want to get all my glandular levels tested, rule out glandular inbalance as a contributing factor in my weight problem. Pune is 3 hours from me, and the closest place to get LF milk/cheeses. So I'll stock up on SB friendly foods while I'm there.
Lianne, I've started things like adding more fiber to my diet, yes, I think I'll cut out sugars this week, breads in a few days and get prepared that way for phase 1
Thanks again for all your encouraging words. I know I'm not alone!
kitty
Good Luck to you Kitty! And I want you to know that I've been there / done that with ya too!! I used SBD, lost tons of weight, stopped smoking and gained over half back! I've just been reminding myself that it's like learning to walk...after you first "get it" you aren't automatically qualified to run a marathon! Life is a marathon and just because I "got it" a year or so ago, doesn't mean I didn't need more practice! So, I'm not going to beat myself up and neither should you! You stopped ahead of the game! I know you can do it!
In Need of some encouraging words....
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One day at a time one moment at a time one meal at a time. And if you mess up don't beat yourself up. Talk about it and move on to the next day if you feel you can. Good luck and keep reaching out!
Good Luck to you Kitty! And I want you to know that I've been there / done that with ya too!! I used SBD, lost tons of weight, stopped smoking and gained over half back! I've just been reminding myself that it's like learning to walk...after you first "get it" you aren't automatically qualified to run a marathon! Life is a marathon and just because I "got it" a year or so ago, doesn't mean I didn't need more practice! So, I'm not going to beat myself up and neither should you! You stopped ahead of the game! I know you can do it!