How do you keep losing weight when life takes a turn of the negative.

I try very hard to keep my weight loss seperate from life... Lately, I haven't been able to. I wish I could say I have been with it. This is my first major slip in five months. I've just started to knew jobs, a CNA position and a EC Tech in the local hospitals ER... and all this stress and tears and pain that comes with being forced to move from my home, my moms mental illness, and my dads decreasing physical health, leaving trees I've planted, and pets I've buried, and memories to be demolished and paved over... is breaking my heart. I've never cried this much, and nothing seems to ease the ache between my breasts. I have a place to live, a nice big apartment, but I am not ready to let go... I feel like someone is breaking my fingers to make me let go of things I am just not ready to. I know life is unfair, and that this is probably for the best- but it is wreaking havoc on my mind body and soul. Ever feel like you just. don't. know. what. to. do? It is like stumbling forward in the dark.

How do you stay on track?

I'm sorry to hear that things are so hard right now. Maybe you could look at healthy diet/exercise as one of the positive forces in your life that you directly influence? Everything else might be crazy, but it could be a sunshiney place in your mind - something that is going right.

Adding a load of guilt from overeating the wrong foods is not going to help but make matters worse. I understand your pain and sympathise with you. Perhaps you need a session or 2 with a therapist. My dh has end-stage renal failure and I am his sole caregiver, so I know what pain is. I thank God for each day we have together and for giving me the strength to care for him at home. Life is what we make it.

So sorry you are having a tough transition. I second Glory's advice, for me exercise and eating right is something only I control for myself...

Plus exercise is my release - I take out my work stress on spin bikes and weight machines. Just a walk is a great mood lifter.

Take care of yourself. I hope things get easier for you soon.

It sure sounds like you are going through a very, very difficult period right now and I am so very sorry. Keep in mind that you will not always feel this terrible. Time is a great healer of all things. And this too shall pass. One day this terrible time in your life will be distant memory. And sooner then you think too.

I know for me, my weightloss has indeed been a good distraction for me, as Glory already mentioned. What better thing can you possiby do for yourself at such a bad time in your life then to pamper yourself through good nutrition and exercise? Imagine to be going through such a difficult time and actually come out the better for it? Not just the strength that you will gain having gone through it, but perhaps a better and healthier you. Sending you good wishes and lots of hugs.

I`m sorry that you are going through a difficult time, I truly hope that you can work through it.

I will second Glory`s advice. When I am stressed the way for me to get out of it is to organize some part of my life, and then move on from there. Purposeful activity, even in an unrelated part of your life, has been what has helped me the most. Since starting this weightloss plan and moving to another country my house has never been so clean. Good luck to you.

Hey there -
Sorry, it sounds like you are having a rough time, but it also sounds like we are in very similar situations! I just moved out for the first time, and I was scared like crazy! Yes, I've only been moved out for a week, but I'll tell you, the time I feel most empowered is when I go straight from work to the gym, and then home to my beautiful apartment and turn on some music and make a heathy dinner. I feel invincible, like I can accomplish anything. Its those little glimpes of healthy that make me want to keep doing it. I hope this helps...baby steps, you can do it. You need an emotional outlet for your fears, and anxiety, don't let it be food!

You have entered a NEW page in your book of life. You can write this any way you want. You can start new memories. And yes a new way of living and a healthier way. You must already know what works as far as losing because you've done such an amazing job so far! I think that if you look at this as something new and cherish the memories that you had you will get through this. And yes knowing that you CAN'T control the moving but you can control what you eat and how you take care of YOU is very empowering. Remember the saying (maybe someone can help me if I'm off some) God help me change the things that can be changed ~ accept the things that can't and to give me the knowledge to know the difference. Something like that. We're all dealt the cards we have it's how we play them that defines who we are....hope that's not too many cliche's for you....I hope they help.

Tina

Oh reddalice, . It sounds like you need to do some greiving before you can begin your new adventures. Not wollowing mind you, just some healthy grieving. You have major stress to deal with right now. I don't think anyone would expect you to just move on with things. Address your feelings and your sadness. Maybe a therapy session, or several would be really helpful. It can be difficult to see the (another cliche) glass as half full when you feel so overwhelmed. But I think once you've work through the emotions you will be able to embrace the new opportunities in your life. I think Tina hit the nail on the head. It's a new page in your book of life- I love that. But through all of this you must take care of you. Give your body exercise and good nutrition and plenty of sleep. *Put your health first* The other things will find a way to work themselves out over time. I also agree with Rockinrobin - Time is a great healer.