I have to state something here-your baby is only ONE MONTH old! You should not be seriously worrying about weight loss until after your 6 week visit-your body is still healing from childbirth right now-and will be for a couple more months. Trust me, I just had my third in August! There is more to it than just the veginal or c-section healing-your body is changing its blood volume, your hormones are shifting back to un-pregnant levels, your uterus is still slowly shrinking down to its normal size, your organs-which shft position to accomodate the baby late in pregnancy-are returning to their original positions, and your hips/hipbones are shifting back into place.
If you are nursing-there is additional stress going on as your body is converting fat stores and your dietary intake into food for the infant. If you are nursing-do not eat below 1800 calories a day. It takes about 400-600 calories a day to produce milk. So, if you eat 2000 calories a day, then "you" are only keeping about 1500 of that. If you go lower than 1800, it affects your health-AND the food supply for the infant.
What I am saying is-TAKE IT SLOW. You cannot expect to be losing a ton of weight while your body is still going through these changes. Honestly, because of the spacing of your children-your bdy barely recovered from the first pregnancy before it was launched into the second.
Your husband needs to first off, understand that there is more to pregnancy than the big belly and the birth-there are a myriad of changes going on. Your body needs recovery time. Take it easy!!!!
I am not saying to not try and lose weight-but don't expect too much, too soon. Don't push too hard-let it come off slowly. Right now, at one month postpartum-I recommend light walking. If you have not had your 6 week appt. yet, wait until after that to do any more strenuous exercise. Don't try to lose more than a pound or so a week, tops. Take a multi-vitamin daily.
Take care of yourself and those babies-and lose weight slow and steady. I have only lost a few pounds since Saber was born-and he is 3 months old TODAY. I am not worried. I have done this after my other two pregnancies, and I know that for ME, it takes over a year to get back to my prepregnancy shape/size. It just IS. I didn't create a baby and heal from delivery in 3 months-and I am not going to be back to normal in 3 months, either.
Rest is important right now-and you probably are not getting much. When Saber was 1 month old-I was lucky to get in 15-20 minutes of exercise a day.
Just take slow right now, and give your body a chance to recover. You will lose weight if you ease into exercise and eat healthy-but don't expect too much, too soon after birth.