Hello doIlookfat. You didn't say how much weight you have to lose. Some women don't have much to lose hence it is harder. But if you are heavy and really need to get pounds off and not just a few than you need to take a better look at what you are doing.
This is what I eat on a typical day:
Breakfast:
1 apple, 1 orange, half a grapefruit, 1 banana, sometimes I'll add strawberries or blueberries but I make this into a smoothie with Ice! (The premise behind this is I have read a few different books/websites where your body needs to detox before noon. Also that fruit MAY spoil in your tummy if eaten with other food. Not sure if it is correct or not but I like the smoothies and need to get my fruit in anyhow and it is a great way to start my day. I feel full and actually have energy and am not weighed down. The days I do "slip up" and not start with fruit are the days everything caves in on me and my good eating gets thrown out the window.)
Lunch:
1 slimfast, 2 oz of tuna(in water) w/ 1 tsp of light mayo, 1-2 slices of whole wheat bread. I only do tuna maybe 1-2 a week, you have to be careful w/ the mercury! Or more often than not, I have a little bit of peanut butter on the bread. Like 1-2 tbs, (you could also substitute with turkey if you like)
snack: 1 yogurt or 1 serving of total(no milk) or honey bunches of oats(no milk)
Dinner:
It varies. I try to do boneless skinless chicken breast with 1 cup of rice (I am working on switching to brown)and brocolli and carrots 3 times a week. I usually add in a bit of bar b q sauce or sweet n sour for flavor, or add a marinade to the chiekn. One nite, usually Sunday, I will have red meat like low fat roast or a steak with 1 cup of mashed potatos and a vegi. Once a month or so I will have french bread or rolls.
The other nites I will have bean and cheese burritos w/ spanish rice, go easy on the cheese, sometimes use mozarella. Or once every few weeks we will have lasagna(in moderation) or chicken enchiladas(in moderation) . I usually have to have tacos at least once a week or I freak! lol With chicken though. I use olive oil to fry the shells in, or sometimes just warm them up over the fire. Once a week I will go out to eat for lunch and I tell myself I can have whatever I want! I remember even last year that would mean a 1/4 cheeseburger with fries and onion rings and sugary soda and lots of ranch and thousand island! But I have since cut out sugary soda completely! It's just not worth it! If we go out to eat at a nice rest., I will have a salad w/ ranch, (which is like once a month) Plus a burger and fries. But I don't dip the fries in the ranch or thous. island no more and actually seldom even get onion rings any more. Next time we go, I am going to see if hubby just wants to split the fries with me and our daughter who is 2. Last time when we went out to eat I gave her 1/4 of my burger and that shaves cals off right there!! Him and I and her had split one fry and 1 onion ring and even brought onion rings home for the other kids cause there were so many but next time I go I think the 3 of us will just share 1 fry.
Anyhow. You are welcome to look at my fitday. If you are eating too few cals your body may hold onto the fat as well! That is why small frequent meals are important! Sometimes in the evening I may have some 94% fat free popcorn with ICBINB spray.
This link here really helped me.
Womens Nutrition Health Guide