it's not easy, folks! i've always preferred to hang out with people who were my friends when i was heavy because i knew they liked me for ME. but now, i'm not so sure. oh, nothing's really happened, but i'm not sure we really had all that much in common.
some wls friends - in real life - have lost their husbands. others have strengthened their relationships.
i read a study recently that concluded that people who were married when the wls patient was heavy had lots of problems after the surgery and often split up, but the opposite was true when the wls patient had been thin at the beginning of the relationship. [i don't remember where i saw this - i'll see if i can find it].
what i know for sure is that as i started dealing with my emotions differently after the surgery, i was no longer reacting the way other people expected me to. wasn't always pretty.
people who lose weight the old fashioned way run into this issue as well. but friends, family, and the loser all have more time to adjust to the changes. with the wls, it's often like a light switch!!!!
am wondering about lapbanders.... chickadeedeedear????? the weight comes off slower, but it DOES come off....