Having no gain is good! It means you do not have to beat yourself up too much! congratulations on 3 years! the first years are the hardest (I am told) I hit the big 10 year next year, and DH is hoping to finally have a honeymoon! LOL! maybe if I have a beach body! slim, tanned! Then he can convince me to go away to a resort for a week! (its next May! I might make it! LOL!Now I just need to save some money!! LOL! Money is pittiful at the moment! I have been waiting to go back to work, but they haven't contacted me yet! and christmas and kids!Luckily I have all their presents done already,and luckily i ordered Chrisco this year)
How is your job hunting doing? I hope you have found something, or find something soon, or get that hubby out and working!
Trimspa? (don't have it here) yes I am sure your DH will worry more if you lost weight, he will think about all the guys actually looking at you (when you are overweight guys just look past you) but that is something he has to deal with. Just think on how much better you will feel! You would feel like superwoman! you would be a star!
My DH is not to concerned if I lose weight , I have been down to my goal weight about 3 times since I had my last DD (6 years) my problem is keeping down!, although he doesn't comment when I am fat, I think he likes me better when I am normal, because I am more comfortable with myself and then we do a lot more! He loves going to the beach, and hiking and all the outdoors stuff, and when I am feeling like a blimp I just will not go. When I am a normal weight I love going out. He does worry on losing me to other guys, but I think he worries just as much when I am big (who knows why, no one wants a blimp!)
Instead of walking when the kids are at school (summer is almost here, walking in 38-40 deg cel, heat is not on!) I have started walking late in the afternnoon, it is dayllight savings now, so it does not get dark until 8pm, so I make and have dinner then me and a friend go for a walk.
I don't think my weight loss is going to be high this week (I tend to have one high week and one low to normal week) so I know it is only going to be about 1 pound! which does get me down, but I know it is all a step in the right direction.
I have noticed some huge changes in my food preferences! I went to eat a bowl of noodles (the flavoured pre pack ones you add boiling water to and wait) but could not eat more than 1/3 of it, I just couldn't stomach it! so I ended up giving it to the kids and getting an apple. It was a low calorie one, so well within my food plan, but still I just did not want it!
My Dh offers me food ALL the time, he is a big eater! Last night he offered me a bowl with custard, ice cream, canned fruit and chocolate! It is hard saying no, then having him sit next to you and eat it. But I know he is not deliberately trying to sabotage me, he is just naive about diets, and thinks he is being nice. He has never struggled with weight in his life, if I asked him to go out and get me a pizza, he would, and just the same if I asked him to go buy me some watermelon he would, He just likes to know he is needed and likes to keep me happy. I love it about him, but it makes it so easy to cheat myself out of being the healthy person I am aiming for.
I could handle a complete makeover! (If only someone paid for it!!) I would get... (now here's a list!!!)
1 - breast augmentation! (I am totally pear shaped, and a little upper boost might even it out a little)
2 - tummy tuck (that baby flabby tummy, doesn't go away even when you are at your goal weight
3 - lipo on the saddlebags ( MY worst area )
Actually that would be it! ( I can't think of any more , which is something! Maybe I am not as bad as my mind tells me!)
DH actaully watched a show on cosmetic surgery overseas and how much cheaper it is. ($2500 instead of $10000) including airfair, and he actually semi agreed that I could save for the boobs if I wanted! Though in reality he hates cosmetic surgery? so I don't know how he'll re-act if I did do it???)
Maybe for the fun of it I should price it all out and start a savings plan..... ROFLMAO!!!!
cheers
Keep up the positive mindset!!!!!!!!!!!! and do this for YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
LOL! I will make a pact with you! If I win lotto we will both go to hong kong and suffer the pain of a make over together!! LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I always lose the weight then look at the belly!! OH BOY!!!!!!!! Its so gross! I can actually tuck it into my pants to hid it!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sometimes I wish I could just cut the lose flap of skin off. maybe I should started saving a little, and if I keep the weight of for a year get it done.
I swear my DH just needs a mother figure too, must be a guy thing, I truelly think he cannot survive without me! I cook for him (he can cook, but only when he could be bothered) I wash, clean.... I have to clean up after him, he will make a sandwich and leave all the stuff on the bench! He forgets it lives in the fridge.... I always say that my MIL did too much for him, she used to do everything for him even when he was 23! Once I caught her folding his underwear, and putting his washing away! I said to her "can't he do it for himself" and she nearlly died! how dare I say that. She used to make his bed (at 23), so I suppose I should have expected to have a dependant , not just a partner. I usually say... GEEZ!! there are 4 people that live in this house and ONE of them does all the work!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! or I say I have 3 children to look after (not just 2).
It would have been harding losing a mother at 8, but your DH needs to become the father (lead) figure for you daughter. It would be hard all round, I had my DH home for a while (he can't make up his mind on his career, one minute he wanted to be a barattendant, next a salesperson, then a courier...) so there are times between work when he is at home, and it nearly drove me batty! Once (after 6 months at home) I made him dress up, dragged him into the car, I did up a resume on the computer, copied it and copied references, and I drove him everywhere, and made him walk in and ask for a job! I did it for 3 days straight (ALL DAY!) I think we put in over 50 resumes. Yes he got a job, but it always takes me to drag his A** around to look for one..................... LIKE I AM HIS MOTHER!!!!!!
so I do understand.... very well...
Now he is trying to get away from one job (again) and has been offered another and is sitting and ummming and arrrrring about it, I just want to choke him , I have even said "just take it!" what more does he want... really!
OK Enough whinning about the DH!!!!! LOL!!!
I have faired well this week and hope to lose at least 2 pounds. I actually went and whipper snipped and mowed my yard, and since I was covered in sweat surely it burned a few calories. (so I am using that as my excercise today) And tommorrow DH wants to go kayaking again! So time to face the swimwear again! (It is getting easier week by week. I am 5 pounds lighter, should look a little less whale like)
Talking of lipo!!!! my MIL was going to spend $18 000 sucking all her fat out! but luckily the doctor preforming it said "no way" she is diabetic ,gout, and lots of other problems, she is too risky to put under.
I told her I would take her walking every day, just give me the money! But alas she was not happy with that idea. she joined curves but is mad as she hasn't lost anything.! She is not that big 176 pounds (maybe 5 foot 4), but she will not excercise at all. If only I had the spare money!
IT all comes down to money!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ps. I love the avator.. It really sums it all up for me!!!! LOL!