Ok, step one - DONE! It's out in the open. You can start telling people. For me, the more I talk about something, the clearer it becomes in my head. Talk, talk and talk. You will get through this, one step and one crazy emotion at a time.

I'm sorry I haven't had a chance to respond since I've been sick so I just caught up on all this tonight. I don't have any personal experience to speak of, but I'm so glad you are taking steps to really make yourself happy and change your life. Life is too short to waste it! It sounds like you really handled things so well! My DH's parent's divorced when he was 16 - it was a super nasty divorce - but he really doesn't feel like he has any issues because of it. Kids are so resilent.

((((HUGS))))