I lost quite a bit of weight, but when I was larger I basically made myself invisible. People saw through me, they did not actually see me.
Now I am slimmer and look much better and I am getting people's attention. So, how do I handle this new found attention? My husband thinks I am hot, but he thought that when I was fat. He loved me when I was fat and he loves me still, just as I am.
But I am getting reaction from other males. Men approach me when I am grocery shopping, they approach me at work. Just today a man at work expressed interest in me! What is up with all this? The lady I work with laughs because she says I have no clue. I am so wrapped up in my husband I don't even notice when man comes on to me until someone says something. My kids, friends, co workers point it out and I am blindsided. I am just floored when man approaches me.
I don't know how to react. I never get flustered, but when this happens I am speechless! I don't know what to say or how to act. I just tend to smile, thank them for their comments (unless they are obnoxious, then I just walk quickly away) and say my husband agrees with them. I am totally loyal to him and have no desire to pursue anyone else. But I feel like I come off as totally dorky. They appreciate the fact that I love my husband and am loyal to him, but they laugh and make comments at how I blush, stammer and get flustered.
How do you handle the "new you?"