Heya lovtolaff
Well... My highest weight was approx. 240. I've now be 150ish for about 3 years. While I still haven't managed to reach my goal weight (130), I'm still VERY happy with my current weight and proud of myself for being able to maintain through the past years (which included a divorce and job changes).
Anyway, this is how I lost the majority of my weight: I focused on being healthy. Everytime I was hungry, I ate; however, each time I made the healthiest choice possible. That meant switching from roast beef or meatball subs to turkey, eating more vegetables, salads, fruits... If I was standing in front of the vending machine and hungry, instead of choosing a candy bar, I'd get a granola bar. They're about the same calories, but one is much healthier for you. I personally like to binge, NEED to binge even now, so I would do things like buy a head of raw broccoli, cut it up and dip it in salad dressing... even if I ate the whole thing and felt like my guts were busting out at least I knew I'd eaten something full of vitamins, something good for me! I absolutely refused to eat anything that had no nutritional value for me (think candy, chips... junk food) and tried to make the healthiest (lowest fat/highest nutrient content) choice between my remaining options.
And I made small changes to the way I behaved, things you've surely heard before: I took the steps whenever I could. I acted as the office "gopher" and always volunteered to run out to make copies, get coffee, anything that was extra excercise. I parked in the farthest parking space from work. I went window shopping (walking) at the mall for hours...
For the first 70 lbs or so that I lost I NEVER counted calories and did not technically "exercise". I was, however, extremely honest with myself regarding what was healthy (just because ice cream is a source of calcium does not mean it qualifies as healthy
) and what was not.
All the small changes really do add up but it can take a lot of time! It took me about 2 years to drop 90lbs... but at no point did I feel deprived. My whole theory was that if I eat/live healthy and am overweight, well then maybe that's just the way I'm meant to be. But at least I'd know I'm HEALTHY. You've probably read a lot of stuff about dieting vs. lifestyle changes. I am in absolute agreement with the opinion that sucessful weightloss revolves around the latter.
What kept me motivated? Whenever I would feel like bucking my system I would just remind myself that if I had stayed on ANY of the diets that I'd tried in the past (and having been heavy my whole life, there were a ton of them
) that I would not have to still be dieting--I'd already have lost the damn weight. I also strongly believe that for people who are considerably overweight, the most important thing in your step to losing weight is NOT losing weight--the most important step to losing weight is NOT re-gaining the weight you've already lost. The scale will stick! But as long as you don't lose control and backslide, the scale will stay stuck at 15, 20, 25 lbs less than it was before... and that's progress! Just hold on to your progress, continue to eat healthy and follow whatever diet routine works for you, and the scale will move again. I promise!
Give it time, be healthy and happy, if you have a "bad day" (like, ummm, a pint of ice cream and cheese steak--yeah it does happen) shrug it off and get back on track. Remember you have the rest of your life to get to your goal weight, what's most important is that you're living a happy and healthy life in the here and now. The rest WILL follow
Best of luck to you... you've got a great start!!!